What do you all call your private parts to your toddler?

Tori - posted on 10/12/2009 ( 140 moms have responded )

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My two year old son likes to ask if everyone has a weiner and it is so funny because it is all the time I guess it is his age plus we are potty training. Well one night he asked me if I had one and I told him no I have a vagina, I would much rather have him call the private parts the proper names instead of private, weiner and all those cute names they have for them, but I am also in the medical field so it does not bother me to call them their proper names. I was just wondering if anyone else calls them by their proper names?

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Pat - posted on 10/19/2009

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Hi. Kids are silly at 3. They will all share silly names for these issues in Preschool. They did in my classroom. :) I would say to all mothers of young children, as we were taught in college in ECE classrooms, "no-one but a doctor and your MOM and DAD" should touch you where your bathingsuit covers you: and..."we are not in the bathroom and this is not the place to discuss our bodies right now". Please be aware how curious kids are and it's part of their nature to explore. We have to stave off exploration in the classroom or at home with other kids. It's not earthshaking for 2 very young children at the beach or playing to start a peek show., It's appropriate, however, to calmly tell them that that's an area we don't share together. Don't forget to address their questions calmly. Reading appropriate books instead on body development to them works, but again, this will make them even more curious. Using a doll helps. Nothing can replace a parent's almost constant vigilance while they are very young and unable to fend for themselves. Recently, I said, HI to a little child in a children's library, and the mother gave me a dirty look and whipped her daughter away telling her not to talk to strangers. She was only a year old and this can do more harm than good. Telling them, "don't talk or walk off with strangers while I'M not with you" helps, but when are we not around them when they are very young? They need to learn to socialize still, think about it.

Kristin - posted on 10/19/2009

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We told our three year old Caity the right names, Penis, Vagina and Behind. However, she decided to adapt them, she calls them her Va-Jay-Jay, Pooper and she says that boys have Dangles or Doodles.(I don't know where she got those from) With regards to potty training she says she has to go pee pee, or if she has to go #2, she says she has to do something important. We also taught her to cover her breast area and she started calling them her lady bumpies or her good-goods, but she knows all the right terms. I made sure to let her know that although she likes to call her parts by silly names if they are hurt or touched she needs to tell us what happened with the right words.

Kari - posted on 11/15/2011

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My son calls his a pee bird and my girls call theirs hotdog buns. lol. I have no problem with that. I think they dont need to learn the proper names until they are at an appropriate age. (around 8-9) when they start teaching it in school.

Pat - posted on 10/19/2009

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In all the years I worked in a preschool, I never had a young child call it a "crotch". That's more of an adult's term, but I guess it works. ha.That is funny! Of course, we discourage talking about body parts unless we have to help a young child in the potty, etc...

Kristen - posted on 10/19/2009

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my daughter is 2 she has always called her private part a peek a choo lol she made it up on her own an i dont see any harm in it....she calls a boy part a hoo hoo cuz she is the only girl an knew that they were different she made that up on her own too

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Janine - posted on 03/15/2012

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Yeah absolutely, thats what they are. My kids use penis and gina/china for vagina as they could never say vagina. My 4 year old has finally started saying vagina though. I honestly don't see the problem with using the the actual names, we don't generally use nick names for any other body parts. I guess it just worries me that people may use nick names as they are embarrassed to talk about genitals and that that may in turn cause the child to see their genitals in a negative light rather than just as another body part. Just a though :)

Patty - posted on 10/19/2009

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Me & my husband are in the medical field, so we use the medical terms or "private parts". We also use the words Tuckus (butt) but I tell him that the potty words should only be used in the bathroom or when appropriate. I think that using funny names can be confusing to adults during conversation & kids to kids conversation. For instance, my sister calls her daughters chest area "turtles" & her vagina "suzies" so when she came up to me and started talking about my turtles she got frustrated when I told her I d/n have any turtles w/ me. But I also think to each there own, no one way is right or wrong its what works best for you and yours:)

Pat - posted on 10/19/2009

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My husband called his his WINKIE on our honeymoon. I laughed so hard, I fell off the bed. He never did again. He didn't like the affect my laughing had on him. :)

Pat - posted on 10/19/2009

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I agree. My mother and dad came from the early 1900's, and it was a trial for me to use the proper names for private parts. However, kids will try on every other name they can think of, especially after they go into Preschool. :)

Pat - posted on 10/19/2009

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Everyone offended had to never have children, so I would just ask them to lower their voice when talking about "private things". There are times when it's appropriate, but they won't learn that until they are about 3 on. :) That's why Preschools insist on most kids being 3 before joining that age group. It's a real milestone in development, both socially and cognitively. :)

Emilie - posted on 10/19/2009

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When my son was younger we taught him Penis, one time he said "my Penis hurts" out loud where everybody could hear him and some people were very offended by that. After that we started saying pee-pee, just so that kind of thing don't happen again.

Pat - posted on 10/19/2009

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I would tell them that the parts covered by our bodies are our "private parts" and we don't share seeing them with anyone but our immediate family and our doctors and caregivers. 2 is really kind of young for them to be saying proper names, I think. and their attention spans are limited. Their reality is very limited, as well. Naming these parts around 3 works much better as they will be reading books about the body then in Preschool if going there, and even closer to 4 is okay. I had alot of these ages in my Preschool rooms. I was a teacher and Day Care Provider.

Kristy - posted on 10/19/2009

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We have always taught our children the proper names for the body. I came from a super modest family was brought up calling parts of the body by cutsie names, I always felt that this made it harder for me as I got older to have serious health discussions with my parents and my doctor because I was embarrassed. I want my kids to feel comfortable with their bodies and I think the best way to start is to call everything by its proper name.

Rachel - posted on 10/19/2009

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according to the carl perkins center for the prevention of child abuse, u should teach them the correct terms as IF something should ever happen or they have ?'s they will feel comfortable talking to u.

Tammy - posted on 10/19/2009

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I agree to use proper names. I have a daughter who has been questioning things also. However, she took it upon herself last year to call her frontal privates her "tushie" & her behind her "butt." I've been actually trying to think of a way to explain to her the proper name ~ starting with trying to explain her "tushie" & "butt" are the same thing, but that doesn't seem to go over too well. And of course when someone else is watching her & she happens to have a rash or something, she says her "tushie" hurts, they have no idea it's not her behind!! I think she picked up "boobies" from her dad, which at that time she could only say "berbies", so of course, that name stuck. Highly suggest proper names to avoid confusion.

Amy - posted on 10/19/2009

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We called the pee-pee a "google" when my sons were little. And to be honest we still call it that because of my daughter. She is 2 and we call the vagina a woo-woo.

Annmarie - posted on 10/19/2009

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My 3 year old was watching me change his baby sisters nappy, when he exclaimed, 'mammy is erin broken?' I said no, why? and he said 'she doesnt have a 'tiddler',

Jean - posted on 10/18/2009

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I say "little big dude" at the moment. When he askes me about it though, i'll say proper names. I also say poops and pees. Or dukes...

Mary - posted on 10/18/2009

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Definitely. I promised myself to always be honest about that type of thing with my daughter, who is now three. She knows that girls have vaginas and boys have penises. It helps alot, especially with the talk about nobody should touch you in either of those things. Especially when they start going to school and things. It's a sick world, our kids need to be educated the right way. I think it's awesome you are honest with your son.

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i have 2 daughters w/c age are 7 and 3..well when it comes to that matter i didnt say vagina instead we called it a flower^^, and a baby boobs for breast

Dani - posted on 10/18/2009

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When we were teaching my now three year old his body parts, we started out calling it his penis and that was his favorite part to name, LOL. We haven't come to the difference between boys and girls yet, but I'll probably say "vulva" since that's the proper name for the external parts.

Tonya - posted on 10/18/2009

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Quoting Tori:

What do you all call your private parts to your toddler?

My two year old son likes to ask if everyone has a weiner and it is so funny because it is all the time I guess it is his age plus we are potty training. Well one night he asked me if I had one and I told him no I have a vagina, I would much rather have him call the private parts the proper names instead of private, weiner and all those cute names they have for them, but I am also in the medical field so it does not bother me to call them their proper names. I was just wondering if anyone else calls them by their proper names?


Honesty IS the best policy, especially this day in age..............

Tammy - posted on 10/18/2009

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I TOTALLY agree, my daughter is 3 and she has known nothing other than vagina, behind, and penis. we are raising them to be adults and the sooner we incorporate a big boy/girl conversation with them, we can start to mode them for those arkward teen years when they really dont want to talk to us about embarrasing stuff.

Krissy - posted on 10/18/2009

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I taught my daughter "Lady parts" and "man parts".. when she gets a bit older, I'll make the transition to "Vagina" and "penis" So she now knows "lady parts" and "man parts"

Vicky - posted on 10/18/2009

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my little girls private parts are called her "bits" but quite often bottom (for front parts when telling her to wipe herself after the toilet) & back bottom for her arse! she's only 2 so would sound manky if she started saying vagina as i'm not keen on/nor do i use that word myself. it's up to each individual i think...they will only use slang like muff, fanny or something more rude etc when they're older anyway (a lot older i hope) hehe ;-)

Vic, England

Chrystal - posted on 10/18/2009

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my two year old calls his private a do do but when he sees mine he really doesnt say anything just that im going pee on the potty too. lol soon we will be having a little girl so ill let you know what my two year old calls her private part! i think you should call it whatever you feel is proper at the time and as they get older take the nick names away and use the right words! lol

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Quoting andrea:

we call my sons a penis and my daughters is called a potty. im scared to call it the real name for fear that she will start saying tha word all the time. she is only 20 mo.
and my son is 5



This is why I prefer "vulva" which is TRUELY what it should be called, but I think it sounds soo much better then Vagina (I never did like that word anyway) :) And since most people aren't with it they probably wouldn't know what you were talking about and you'd be using the technical term as the vulva is what you see when you look at your genitals and the vagina is inside...

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We call my daughters "V" a Suzie...that way when were in public only I know what she is really saying!

Erin - posted on 10/18/2009

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I have a 2- and a 4-year old, and I refer to their parts by their proper names. I figure they don't need to know the cutesy little names when they're going to to have to learn the real thing anyway. But my kids also understand that their parts are private, so they don't really talk about them out of context. I think whatever works for you and your family is best!

Michelle - posted on 10/18/2009

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yesss honesty is better any way that way when they get older they know that if they ask u something that u will give them an honest answer nomatter the subject

Andrea - posted on 10/18/2009

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we call my sons a penis and my daughters is called a potty. im scared to call it the real name for fear that she will start saying tha word all the time. she is only 20 mo.

and my son is 5

Helen - posted on 10/18/2009

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for the girls we call there private there " flu flu " an the lil boy we use "todge todge " i think its sounds crude for lil children to use adult words an wen ur out an about nick names sound better if a child shouts out very loudly however wen they reach a certain age we will encourage proper names as they learn to understand to b more private bout there bodys

Helen - posted on 10/18/2009

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for the girls we call there private there " flu flu " an the lil boy we use "todge todge " i think its sounds crude for lil children to use adult words an wen ur out an about nick names sound better if a child shouts out very loudly however wen they reach a certain age we will encourage proper names as they learn to understand to b more private bout there bodys

Kayle - posted on 10/18/2009

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my son has a doodle ,y daughters have a wee wee and my son says girls have boobs and boys have boobies.

Kayle - posted on 10/18/2009

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my son has a doodle ,y daughters have a wee wee and my son says girls have boobs and boys have boobies.

Kayle - posted on 10/18/2009

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my son has a doodle ,y daughters have a wee wee and my son says girls have boobs and boys have boobies.

Emma - posted on 10/18/2009

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I do call them the proper names with my older children, but my toddler right now understands the private area as "crotch". It simplifies things for me with the little ones, and as they get older and want to know more I give them further information.

Thea - posted on 10/17/2009

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Quoting Emilie:

I don't think kids should use the proper words for those parts. My kids father got my son and my daughter saying pee pee for the penis and the vagina. Sometimes we do say penis to my son, but i never use the word vagina to my daughter. My cousin has a little girl and they call her part her monkey. For the breasts we have a Mexican man in the family and he calls breasts Chi-Chi's so that is what we say, or boobies.



personaly I think this is confusing to kids. My mom was the same way, and it caused a LOT of problems!!!!!  When will they learn if you don't teach them? School? Playground? I want  to teach my children what is right!!!!  according to their age!!!



 



Like I said my mom was like the parent I quoted above. As a resault I have had problems with my sexuality. It is a big issue between me and my husband. I asked my Doctor about it and she sent us to sex tharapy. We were told to get a book that talks about how to teach your kids and you about all this stuff. "And They Were Not Ashamed." By Laura M. Brotherson, CFLE. For more info on her go to. www.StrengtheningMarriage.com. The Last chapter in her book is "Preparing futuer generations for sexual fulfillment in marriage--- When and How to teach"  This was a great help to me and my husband. I just wish I could tell everyone.

Rika - posted on 10/17/2009

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In our family we told our sons (4, and 2) the proper name but we also have names that we use all the time just between the four of us..

Jamie - posted on 10/17/2009

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My children are 2 and 3, boy and girl. They have a bottom, a vagina, a penis, and boobies. So that's what they call them.

Heather - posted on 10/17/2009

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In our houshold we call them by their proper name. Being in the chalidcare field and having had to take a million child abuse classes i feel its "safer" to call them a vagina and a penis becasue if you give them nicknames pedophiles can use the nicknames to play a game with the kids. I'm with you on using the right names. But I can totally see my kids being the little boy on "Kindergarten Cop"...."boys have a penis, girls have a vagina" LOL

Christy - posted on 10/17/2009

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I have a two year old daughter and i use the proper names. When I was pregnant my sister-in-law told me she used the word penis with both her sons because her mother had used some cute-sy little word when she was a child and that she was in her teens before she knew the correct term. That was enough for me! :)

Christina - posted on 10/17/2009

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I have a daughter and we call her vagina her business and her butt her bottom. She is now getting curious about breasts and has picked up the word boobies, I don't know where she got it from but, I try to tell her to call them chi-chi's that is spanish for breasts.

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 I have a 9 year old that will be learning very soon just exactly the proper terms


I think this is the most disturbing comment I have read on this post.  The child is NINE and doesn't know the proper name of his/her private parts yet?  Really?



 



OK, now that I'm over my shock.... when my girls were little (they're almost 8 now) I was uncomfortable using the word vagina, so I just referred to it as the part of the body that they go pee with.  Then when they started helping to wash themselves (2ish) and I would say 'wash your body'... that was the only thing they would wash. :)  That's when I started using the word vagina for them.  Then came the question of 'where is daddy's vagina?' (2.5ish)  One girl answered that it was behind his tail. lol... That's when the word penis came into our house.



For my son (18.5 months), it's his penis just as casually as it's his arm, leg, neck, whatever.....



For casual, general conversation w/ my girls it's all 'privates' though.



 

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I personally call breasts "breasts" because for some reason "boob(s/ies)" sounds degrading to me? I don't know? Maybe its from growing up w/4 boys???



Yeah, IDK about bleeping the word "Penis" I was rather shocked myself!!! Made NO sense to me???

Victoria - posted on 10/17/2009

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i believe 100% in teaching my kids the real names. My son is 3 and we told him that he had a penis because he wanted to know why his sissy was diff. That night when we told him later on we were sitting at a mexican rest. and he yells out his penis hurts in the middle of the rest because we are potty training and he had to pee.. I think that kids should know the proper names it is part of their bodies and they need to know. As far as breast go they have always been called boobs and he has known wheat thse are since he was 1 LOL. He pinched me and I said ow thats my boob and it stuck!

Brandy - posted on 10/17/2009

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Quoting Erin:

My son has known his penis to be just that since he could say the word! When he asked if I had a penis I told him no, girls have vulvas. I prefer to use this word because #1 it doesn't sound as dirty as vagina #2 men have notoriously called the vulva a vagina because that is the only part that they care about, since that is the part their penis goes in... Calling a womans part a vagina would be similar to calling the penis a shaft. You do not SEE the vagina when looking at it so WHY call it that? It is however a VULVA and that is what it will be known as in my house! I did think it was funny however, last week I was watching family feud and the bleeped PENIS twice!!! PENIS bleeped, I couldn't believe it! Since when was PENIS a bad word???



OMG they bleeped the word penis! It's a technical medical term. They might as well bleep gall bladder and lung while they are at it!

Sierra - posted on 10/17/2009

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I tell my son its a monkey : )..works good for me and i tell him his sissy's part is a flower.

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My son has known his penis to be just that since he could say the word! When he asked if I had a penis I told him no, girls have vulvas. I prefer to use this word because #1 it doesn't sound as dirty as vagina #2 men have notoriously called the vulva a vagina because that is the only part that they care about, since that is the part their penis goes in... Calling a womans part a vagina would be similar to calling the penis a shaft. You do not SEE the vagina when looking at it so WHY call it that? It is however a VULVA and that is what it will be known as in my house! I did think it was funny however, last week I was watching family feud and the bleeped PENIS twice!!! PENIS bleeped, I couldn't believe it! Since when was PENIS a bad word???

Adina - posted on 10/17/2009

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well we use pee pee with my son right now cause thats what he can say lol. but once he starts saying more word we are gunna say the proper names too.

Kayla - posted on 10/16/2009

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LOL I have to giggle. My daughter just calls them girlies and parts. Keeps it simple. My aunt taught my cousin all of the 'correct' terms and treated him a bit more grown up.... Well, his first grade art class they had to do self portraits and he drew himself naked and anatomically correct. He even named off all the parts to his class.... Proudly declaring that he has a penis.... That was the same size as his leg! :) I love kids!! LOL

Haley - posted on 10/16/2009

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i totally agree with you, my daughter is two and she points out my breasts and points to hers, and i tell her what they are. no nicknames, i use the real names. she even noticed that my husband, her father when he goes to "potty" he stands up. so i explained it to her. and she understood which still blows me away! kids are so much smarter these days, and i think its best to be truthful from day one.

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