What do you all call your private parts to your toddler?

Tori - posted on 10/12/2009 ( 140 moms have responded )

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My two year old son likes to ask if everyone has a weiner and it is so funny because it is all the time I guess it is his age plus we are potty training. Well one night he asked me if I had one and I told him no I have a vagina, I would much rather have him call the private parts the proper names instead of private, weiner and all those cute names they have for them, but I am also in the medical field so it does not bother me to call them their proper names. I was just wondering if anyone else calls them by their proper names?

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Loretta - posted on 10/15/2009

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i dont actually prefer the proper names but im always scared that if u call it something cute they might think its ok if something was to (god-forbid) ever happen especially if the person uses that cute little word in right context then the child might think its ok and oh my god that is my worst fear ever i already talk to my daughter about no one touches there and u tell mommy stuff and shes only 2 but i just emphasize how it important that is

Suzanne - posted on 10/15/2009

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we have 5 children 3 boys and two girls. For the boys its pee-pee and for the girls its tu-tu that's just what my mom called it when I was growing up. So I've stuck with it.

Anita - posted on 10/15/2009

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We call the boys wee-wee's and the girls have coochies and they all have boobies.They can learn the proper terms a little on when they get older for now it works fine.

Natasha - posted on 10/15/2009

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I have a 11,9,3, and 1 yo and we have always called them their proper names. Questions were asked when they were little and the simple answer that all boys have a penis and all girls have a vagina meant that they never really made a big deal about it. They never went running around saying the words and it was never used in a rude context. Occasionally they would be called their 'bits' if one of them was touching themselves too much or in public (you know how boys like to grab it especially when they get excited about something) and we would say hands off your bits and they would stop straight away. They learnt that they are their private parts or privates and that nobody else should touch you in the privates.

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I've always insisted that we use the proper name for my son, So, during bath time, we say we're going to clean feet, hands, face, and, yes, penis. My in-laws used a silly word when their sons were small, but I disagree with that. I think it's easier in the long run for children to just know the proper names. That way, if they're ever trying to tell someone where it hurts, there's no question about *where* it hurts. I don't know if there's any truth to the idea that giving genitals a "cute" name makes kids think there's something shameful about these body parts...but just in case, I didn't want to risk it.

Mindy - posted on 10/14/2009

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This is funny because my 2 1/2 year old son was just poking my breasts today and laughing while giggling "Boobies!"..lol! I guess I don't make a big deal out of it but I did tell him they are private parts..yadayadayada. We call his penis his wee-wee instead of pee-pee because we use that word for going potty. I grew up calling mine a wee-wee too and I don't feel like I was ever ashamed of my parts or anything.

Dominique - posted on 10/14/2009

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I definitely feel where u r coming from me have my daughter call hers a girly girl for now

Miranda - posted on 10/14/2009

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Its really up to the parents. He is your child and if you want to teach him early on the right names i think it will save some embarrassing times later for him when they talk about sex in school.

Robyn - posted on 10/14/2009

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Skyler's quite frequent with the PEE and POOP, she calls "it" a cha-cha or a pee-pee. The most embarrassing yet good thing she does is after she poops, not caring who's around (when we're at home) she comes out of the bathroom with pants and panties around her ankles, spreads her cheeks and says "Mommy, is my butt clean?"

Tina - posted on 10/14/2009

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no i really dont call them their proper names but iknow i should we say tootie and tatas

Donna - posted on 10/14/2009

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I totally agree... you should call them by their correct names. There is nothing really wrong with that. Especially with the times. God forbid something should ever happen to our children but I want my child to be able to tell me exactly what kind of wrong doing has been done. Like I said god forbid, but... Does that make ssense or sound crazy?

Barbara - posted on 10/14/2009

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yeah telling him what they r really called I guess should be the right way, I think our home is just uncomfortable with it so we call the pieces pee pee

Julia - posted on 10/14/2009

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we call it, 'the business'. cuz its his business and noone elses. also daddy calls it 'little dude'.

Cheral - posted on 10/14/2009

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I don't have any girls yet, but my son calls his a 'peter'. Not really sure why, but thats what we called it growing up. It works for him.

Kelly - posted on 10/14/2009

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i have a 4 yr old daughter and she calls hers her front bum< but i also have a 7 yr old daughter and she calls hers a flower.

Margo - posted on 10/14/2009

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I grew up with my grandma and mother calling a vagina "Cookie" and a penis "pe-pe"

Boobs"che-che's" (hispanic) Where the names came from I dont know, but I've been hearing it now for 31 years. ha ha!!

Linda - posted on 10/14/2009

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I have a three year old daughter, and we use the proper names for private areas.

Krissy - posted on 10/14/2009

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We use the proper names for our son. Because hes had alot of problems with his genitials, now he knows that if its hurting where to point and how to say my penis, or my bum. i find it just makes more sense, plus if anything ever happened, id want him to be able to tell me.

Samantha - posted on 10/14/2009

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I have two litte girls and my 2 year old jist got done potty training and we call it her "goodies"

Kim - posted on 10/14/2009

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Yes, we only used and use proper names. Why not? - By the way, our nearly 5-year-old sometimes askes if grandma / his Kindergarten teacher / a girl-friend / any other women etc has a vagina. The answer is short and simple... Why to confuse kids with strange or funny names?

Rebecca - posted on 10/14/2009

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God forbid that we teach our daughters the word Vagina. It is not a "dirty" word.What is next........ make her ashamed that she has a vagina? Really call it what you want, but to never use the word vagina to your daughter?????? I guess I just don't get what the big deal is.... sorry

Pamela - posted on 10/14/2009

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The Brits call the private parts "bits". With my two girls I use both the proper names and "bits." I like it because it's not cutesy or vulgar, and I don't always want to be so clinical.

Rebecca - posted on 10/14/2009

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I also believe that we should call the area what it is. It makes sense, why confuse a kid . A spade is a spade, would you make a name up for anything else? My daughter knows what all private parts are called and she never uses the words in an unappropriate manner, it is all in the way you teach your kid, at least that is my opinion.

Molly - posted on 10/13/2009

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we teach my son the actual names just cuz its better when they get in school. my sister inlaw is a preschool teacher and one lil boy kept say that his uncle pets his cookie or something like that and anyway nobody thought anything of it cuz it sounded like an actual sentence, so anyway they figured it out but...yeah so i think its better they know the actual names anyways

Kerry - posted on 10/13/2009

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Call it what it is! Giving body parts special names tells the child that it is something yukky and it shouldn't be talked about. I think parents use pet names for their own selfish reasons.

Caryn - posted on 10/13/2009

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I have a 21 month old daughter who is just learning to talk so we haven"t come across that yet...but also a four yr old nephew who always wants to help at diaper time... he calss gis parts a winky.... so we told him my daughter had a jay jay....they were easy to say for him and understand.... basically i think whatever you are comfortable with!

Kimisha - posted on 10/13/2009

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I think it's important to use their proper names and to make your child feel comfortable with using those words as well. There's nothing wrong with the word penis nor with the word vagina. Why it sticks to the roof of everybody's mouth is beyond me. And I also think it's important for their safety. God forbid someone hurts them. How confusing would it be for someone trying to get the story when the child is saying things such as "He touched my 'cookie' " or "She asked to look at 'frankie' ". So I just encourage you to encourage your child or children to be proud and most importantly, comfortable, with their bodies.

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Its good for them to know the proper words/terms , but also that they not use them in a casual manner. We just call them privates, girl parts, or boy parts depending on which one I am dealing with.

Gracy - posted on 10/13/2009

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For penis we say "pee-nee"..... hahahah I came up with that as a mix between penis and weenie! For my daughter, we called her privates something that her fathers family called in french canadian for vagina.... sounds like "ba-doon".... I thought it was cute so it stuck. She's almost 10 and still calls it that!

Desiree - posted on 10/13/2009

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I don't think there's anything wrong with having your child call them their proper names but my son calls his penis his ding-ding. I actually don't really know it got started. And we call a girls a nu-nu. That's just because that what my family called it when I was little.

Lynlee - posted on 10/13/2009

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We just get our son to say penis and vagina and he calls breasts 'boos' b/c that's what he said when he was a baby. I think it's important to call them their proper names so that there's no stigma with those parts of the body and so they know they are not something to be ashamed of.

Sarah - posted on 10/12/2009

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Coming from England but living in America I have heard more nick names for private parts than I have had hot dinners I think......it's quiteamusing hearing the "child proof" names parents come up with to make these discussions a little more comfortable. Well when I was growing up a boy would have a "Willy" and a girl would have a "Mini", but here in the states "pe pe" for boys seems to be most common and I have heard quite a few mum;s refer to little girls private parts as "La la" but I think it's whatever you feel most confortable woth your child saying, like one of the mother's said on here there are certain things some mother's don't want their kids saying at the top of their lungs in public because it is almost "improper", but then again the biological names for our body parts are in fact "proper" and they really are all just words that all mean the same thing either which way. As far as breasts go......again in the states the majority or people tend to baby the name to "che-ches/chi-chis" wheras in the UK they are commonly known as boobies.

Farrah - posted on 10/12/2009

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We use proper names in our house. My boys are 4, 2 and 8 weeks. I want my kids comfortable with the proper names. They don't really know what a vagina is, but it's a simple and correct answer to the question of "where's your penis mom?"

Tosha - posted on 10/12/2009

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I have a 2 year old daughter going on 3 and a 1 year old son. My daughter is VERY curious when she see's me changing her brother's diaper. I do tell her the proper names for body parts.

Stephanie - posted on 10/12/2009

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well, I don't have any boys. but I have three daughters. It's the potty place and tushie. My hubby's Korean, so we also use some Korean words like oh-joom for potty, dohng for poop and chu chu's for breasts.
I'll explain it better as they get older but for now it's fine.

Emilie - posted on 10/12/2009

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I don't think kids should use the proper words for those parts. My kids father got my son and my daughter saying pee pee for the penis and the vagina. Sometimes we do say penis to my son, but i never use the word vagina to my daughter. My cousin has a little girl and they call her part her monkey. For the breasts we have a Mexican man in the family and he calls breasts Chi-Chi's so that is what we say, or boobies.

Bernita - posted on 10/12/2009

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pe pe quite frankly. I think it confuses them when you call it "frank" and then your poddy training. Also, I use the infamous NO 1 and NO2. Only cuz in restaurants you don't want them saying "MOM, I have to go POOP.

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