Danielle - posted on 06/26/2012 ( 7 moms have responded )
I don't quite know how to title this post but hopefully my explanation will make sense. My little boy is now 2yrs 8months old. For roughly the first 2yrs 3months he was such a happy little boy and although he liked attention (of course, they all do) he was always happy to spend lots of time amusing himself. He would often like to be nearby, maybe in the same room or an adjoining room but didn't need someone to be actively playing with him and he was such a happy little boy. My dad once babysat him for a few hours and when asked how it went he said that Jonathan was so happy and content he hardly knew he was there half the time.
Nowdays he is always looking for attention. Always wants someone to play with him. It probably started about Christmas time which is when I quit work (I was working 3 days a week) and I wanted to start playing with him more so it was ok. But in March I had our second baby who is now three months old so of course it is not so easy to give him the attention he wants anymore. When he's not getting attention he whines a lot and misbehaves (general attention seeking). A lot has changed this year, I stopped work, he started a new daycare in January, then our baby arrived, then we had lots of visitors staying with us, now he is toilet training etc etc so it would be hard to pinpoint one cause.
Anyway, the point of all this is that I am wondering if the need for someone to be actively playing with him all the time is a developmental thing that just happens at this age (growing social development) or is it more about all the changes that have happened in our lives this year. More importantly, will I ever get my easy-going, happy-go-lucky and independant little boy back or is this demanding attention-seeking toddler (though still much-lovable of course, just harder work) here to stay? I am doing my best to give him lots of attention even though he's not an only child now (I think the baby gets less of my time than he does) so I'm sure he knows he's still loved but it's hard to juggle everything.