What is the right age to get a child's ears pierced?

Chantelle - posted on 10/22/2010 ( 75 moms have responded )

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like to get my daughters ears done but i am too scared she will react badly to it

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Janey - posted on 11/19/2010

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There is no right or wrong age for piercing, but there is a wrong or right reason for getting them pierced! If you are doing them because the child has asked... then they need to old enough to clean, and take care of them. IF you are doing them for you, then its wrong as it is not the child's choice.

Tiffiny - posted on 11/08/2010

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as young as possible, as long as you got the 3 mth. tetnus shot any place will do it, the longer you wait the more painful it will be cause thats when they start getting muscle tissue in the earlobe i did my daughter's ears just before she turned 4 mths we did it on New Year's day and she just luvs her pretties

Laveda - posted on 11/05/2010

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i say to you from experience dont do it untill she wants them done its so painful for them my mom took my daughter when she was 1month old and she was in so much pain for weeks .then you have to worry about infection to so just wait till she is old enough to say mom i want my ers periced

Krista - posted on 10/31/2010

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There's a difference, though, Megan. You can make your child wear a winter hat, and as an adult, he has the choice to NOT wear a hat, if he wishes.

Body modification is permanent. If you get your infant daughter's ears pierced, at no point during her lifetime can she choose to un-pierce them. Those holes will always be there. So it really can't be compared to those every-day parental decisions like making our kids wear hats, take their medicine, or go to bed at a decent hour.

Sharon - posted on 11/05/2010

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It think it should be your daughter's choice when she's old enough to decide for herself. She may not like piercings. t's her body not yours, let her decide.

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Ash - posted on 07/09/2012

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Wait till shes older. Pleaseeee dont let her get them done with a gun either, it should be by a needle always! I have had alot of piercings, and boy i mean alot (my cheeks are my fav ones) one of my friends is a very professional piercer and she also would prob cry if even an adult had a gun used on them.

Berjoh - posted on 11/19/2010

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i was so my daughter didnt get hers done until she was 10 months, and she cried worse than she did when she got her shots, i felt soooo bad, but she looks so cute with them pierced.

Jade - posted on 11/09/2010

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i had my daughters ears done when she was almost 5 months old they did both ears at the same time, she cried for 2 seconds and i had a bottle ready for her.

Melissa - posted on 11/06/2010

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I am going to wait for my daughter to ask me if she can get her ears pierced. I know if I do it now (she is only 21 months) then I'm doing it for me and not for her. Her ears are hers not mine :)

Keri - posted on 11/06/2010

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I was 5. I believe my sister-in-law was just 2. If you're so scared, maybe you should wait until they can tell you how she feels about it. Once it's done, it's done and they'll realize it didn't hurt (or hurt all that much).

Jasmine - posted on 11/04/2010

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i got my daughters ears done when she was 2 or 3months old i think its better to get them done when they are young so they dont play with them my daughter only cryed for like one sec and then she was fine but i think all mums are diff

Yoyi - posted on 11/04/2010

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There is no right or wrong age, depends theparents choice. In my country (Peru, South America) we made ear piercing of the babies girls at birth in the same clinic where they born, and a qualified nurse do it. Usually puts a gold earring and was not removed for at least 3 months so there is no infection risk

Kristin - posted on 11/04/2010

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I think that if you want it done, you should have done it already. Not all children react to them by messing with them, but when you get it done before she is aware of her ears she won't mess with them. My daughter has had her ears pierced since she was a week old, they are part of her and she doesn't mess with them. My advice is to get some clip-ons for starters and if she messes with them, I would say wait. If she's cool with them, then go ahead. It's just safer to test before doing it so you know what you're dealing with.... You don't want her to mess with them and wind with an infection or have her rip them out of her earlobes... Not trying to scare you but I've seen a one year old rip her earlobes from messing with her earrings.

Sainabu - posted on 11/03/2010

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I totally agree with you, i think that word is really genuine (the earlier the better). I love this post.

Jackie - posted on 11/02/2010

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my daughter was 4 when she got hers done and she was showing an interest. we did it as a 4 bday gift also. i have 2 other girls and they wont be getting their ears peirced until their 4 bday or longer depending on when they show an interest. everyone is different i know heaps of people that have gotten kids ears done as soon a they could. its up to decide when you think she's ready (and of coarse you'll know when your ready)

Aime - posted on 11/02/2010

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I agree that there isn't really a right or a wrong, but as a child my parents had my ears pierced and I hate earrings. I also remember my sister caught hers on something and ripped it out of her ear when she was little, so I won't pierce my child's ears until she is old enough to care for them herself. I feel it's safer to wait, because like with my sister, she was too young to understand that something was tugging on her earring and yanking would rip it right out. She still has a rip in her ear and she's 26!

Merry - posted on 10/31/2010

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It's equivalent to a tattoo, or circumcision - permanent cosmetic procedures.

Megan - posted on 10/31/2010

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i agree,i think that until a certain age that we shouild make the decisions for our children.i have strong belief in that! I will make the decisions for my children were its necessary the important stuff,right now my 5 yr old and i debate all the time about what he is wearing to school,he dont like to wear winter caps(hats) when its cold out,and i tell him he has no choice,its eithr that or i tell him he is going to get sick and get ear aches and will have to take yucky medicine!so it usually works out my way

Megan - posted on 10/31/2010

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thats up to u, i personally think the sooner the better,actually in some hospitals they ask u if u would like ur baby girls ears pieced. if u do when they are young they wont remember the little bit of pain that comes with getting heir ears pierced. like whe nu get ur baby boy circumsized! think of it that way!

Naomi Nneka - posted on 10/30/2010

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well my daugther is 11months old,i got her ears pierced when she was a day old.its much easier to bear when they r younger.the earlier u do it the better

Kristen - posted on 10/30/2010

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i got my youngest daughters ears pierced when she was 6 months old and she did fine, only cried bc of the noise. And i got my oldest daughters done when she was 3, and she wouldnt let them at first but finally did and did not cry at all. Neither of them mess with the earrings at all. They did really good with them.

Karen - posted on 10/30/2010

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I got my daughter's done at 4 mo. She cried for a few seconds and that was it. She looks like a girl and everyone knows she is a girl. She is almost 2 now and she has never touched them or pulled on them. As a matter of fact she points to them and says earrings. I say go for it....!!!!!!!

Helen - posted on 10/30/2010

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I don't like seeing babies with pierced ears - like some of the others I think they need to be old enough to look after them themselves, but also, as a nursery nurse, I've seen a child have a stud ripped out of her ear by another child! It was a complete accident, but one easily avoided by lack of studs. It was a traumatic incident for all the staff involved, a LOT of mess and a parent being called away from work to find their child needing medical attention.

I know accidents can happen at any time, but please wait until your daughter understands the risks and is able to defend herself!

Merry - posted on 10/29/2010

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It's not just krista, many moms feel the same way.
I know it's cultural, but there's alot of cultural practices that are being changed for the girls now like female circumcision, or foot binding (a while back). And even Jews are refusing to circumcise now more and more and that very strong in their culture. It's just we are starting to think about babies as having rights now and that their bodies are theirs to decide with. But I still think as loving moms we can choose for our baby, but it does risk them being upset with us later.

Cara - posted on 10/29/2010

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my daughter had her ears pieced when she was 3 months old. I was worried about it, but she only cried for a few seconds and then she was down with it. She is now 14 months old and she does not play with them at all, they have stayed infection free and they look great. I am not normaly a fan of having young girls ears pieced, but her dad wanted it down and she was ok with it.

Hillary - posted on 10/29/2010

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To Krista--I'm sorry you feel the way you do. But for me and a lot of people out there, piercing a baby's ears is also cultural. I am half Italian and my husband is Russian. In both of our cultures, especially Italian, it is very common and even expected to pierce baby girls' ears when only a few months old. It is a tradition and something that generations of my family have done.

Merry - posted on 10/29/2010

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So have you decided chantelle? Either way it seems there's a lot of moms for and against it! It 35 in favor of infant piercing and 43 in favor of waiting until it's the child choice.

Kaylynne - posted on 10/29/2010

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I pierced all three of my daughter's ears at 3mos. You can get ears pierced after their 2 mo. shots. Each one of them cried for about 10 secs and that was it. No big deal, no problems, and the earrings come with locking backs, so they don't come out, and you don't need to change them. It's very easy and they look like girls!!

Alexis - posted on 10/29/2010

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I believe something that is fairly permanent or at least scarring should be left up to when the child is old enough to have an input to the decision as well. I wasn't allowed to get my ears pierced until I was 12 and only after thinking about it for a month before my mom took me to get them done. Chances are it will hurt her and their is a possibility of infection. However the pain is no worse than shots and infection can be avoided with proper hygiene. Also if you decide to do this go with a pure medal like pure gold or sterling silver. When I first got mine done I went with cheap and ended up being allergic to any medal earrings that were not pure gold or sterling silver.

Merry - posted on 10/29/2010

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Lol krista! I laugh when I see the two year olds with those little purses and heels on! I mean it's so much cuter to let them be little kids now, they will be teen agers soon enough then we will wish they were small and innocent again!

Krista - posted on 10/29/2010

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I hate to see young children with earrings. I think it's dangerous as they could easily get pulled out during play, and I also think it looks really chavvy!

I pretty much agree. I would just be so worried about the earrings inadvertently getting caught or pulled out. And yeah...sorry to all you moms out there who did pierce your babies' ears, but I really do think that pierced ears on an infant look absurd. Are we going to give them little purses to carry, too?

Merry - posted on 10/29/2010

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Heres the statement from the american academy of pediatrics on ear piercing.
"Certain guidelines should be followed when considering ear piercings for your child. Wait until they are old enough to take care of the piercing themselves and make sure the piercing is done by a pediatrician or trained professional."

Hillary - posted on 10/28/2010

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I read on the internet that you should either do it when they are only a few months old or wait until they are 3 or 4 years old. When you do it when they're really young, they don't pull at the earrings. They don't pay any attention at all because they think they were always there. I got my daughter's ears pierced at the mall when she was 4 months old. I cried more than she did. She's had her ears pierced for a year now and everything is going well.

Lisa - posted on 10/28/2010

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This may or may not be true but I heard that piercing too early is not a good idea because their ears are still growing. If you get them pierced as an infant, they may not be centered when they get older. I wonder if that's why some adults ears seem to be un even...?

Casey - posted on 10/28/2010

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also remember to get the studs with the screw on backs! Those will prevent your little one from taking them off and eating them or eating them... they have them pretty much at every store that has a fine jewelry department.

Casey - posted on 10/28/2010

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we got our daughter's ears done at the pediatrician's office when she was 6months(some peds. do it for around $40-check with yours)... they recomend waiting until they get their 6 month shots... my daughter was very angry that we were holding her head. She wasn't as affected by the pain. Now at 3, she thinks of them as part of her, is used to me cleaning her ears, and doesn't mess with them. As long as you have the time to really take care of them you shouldn't have many problems.

Ali - posted on 10/28/2010

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I had my ears pierced at 4 only to find out I am allergic to all metals. It was a nightmare and now I still have ugly holes in my ears. If I had been old enough to understand the risks and the long-term result (permanent holes) I would never have allowed my mom to allow me to do it so young.

Terra - posted on 10/28/2010

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I Got my ears pierced when I was 1year, and got my 2nd and 3rd holes, When I turned 18.
I got both my Daughters Ears pierced When they were 3 and 4 months old, My 5 year Old Loves her ears pierce and likes to know she can change her earrings to match her outfit every now and than. My 18month old just realized she even had earrings and thinks they are pretty.
When they are younger they don't really touch their ears and it is easier for us to take care of them.
If you buy the good earrings and keep them cleaned you shouldn't have any worries over infection, unless you yourself are sensitive to certain type of earrings. And if that is the case, waiting until they are older is a much better idea.

Mary - posted on 10/28/2010

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I hate to see young children with earrings. I think it's dangerous as they could easily get pulled out during play, and I also think it looks really chavvy! My 3 year old daughter has shown no interest in having hers done and I certainly wouldn't let her until high school age.

Gwen - posted on 10/27/2010

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I got mine pierced in 5th grade, when I was old enough to tell my parents I wanted it done, and old enough to take care of my ears afterwards.

Jenny - posted on 10/27/2010

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I don't think that the parent should decide to get the child's ears pierced. I think it should be the child's choice when they are old enough to decide and take care of them on their own. Not everyone wants their ears pierced. I never got mine done and I have absolutely no desire to get them done. Some girls just don't want them and it shouldn't be forced on them because society thinks it is "cute."

Merry - posted on 10/27/2010

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Omg, wow, I would be worried they would get sued big time if a mom screws up her daughters ears at home!
When my daughter wants it done we will be going to the DR. To get them pierced.
Anything going through my Childs skin is not going to be taken lightly!

Krista - posted on 10/27/2010

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i had my daughters done when they were about 6mo. i did it at home with a kit i got at walmart..

I'm sorry....whaaaaat? Seriously? I cannot believe they would sell something like that.

Merry - posted on 10/27/2010

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I think the risght age is whenever you would be ok with tattooing her, or giving her a belly button ring, or an eyebrow ring.

Ear rings have this free pass somehow, idk why, but it's not different then any other body altering procedure.

It's permanent, even if the holes close up you can still see the hole and feel the bumpy tissue in the lobe.

My mom had hers done without consent and she took them out and closed them up but she still hated the lumps I her ears and the scar.

It is permanent, it is a body altering procedure.

Don't make it lightly.

Merry - posted on 10/27/2010

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For our family it's going to be a pre teen age for ear rings. I feel like it's a permanent procedure and I couldn't do it to my child, I couldn't risk the infections, or cause them the pain. So we will wait until she is old enough to make an educated decision and be responsible for her own body. So I was 12, mysister was 16 so somewhere around there when she asks and then proves she is responsible enough to handle it.

Donnae - posted on 10/27/2010

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I had to wait until I was 14 or so to pierce mine and then I had to beg my dad! My little on is 4 and is also asking to have it done... I think it looks really sweet, but what happens if they hook on something, or get ripped out or... you know what I mean. We have decided to wait until she at least goes to "big school". She's ALMOST happy with that idea.

Argie - posted on 10/27/2010

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I pierced my DD ears couple of days after her first shots ( she is 2 yrs now), I never had problems with it and she doesn't even touch them,

Amanda - posted on 10/27/2010

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I totally agree. You don't have the right to damage someone elses body. What is the age for informed consent! You cannot get a more beautiful daughter than one that is pure and natural like the day she was born.

Karen - posted on 10/27/2010

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DONT - Why put your daughter through it. It hurts to have your ears pierced. Also why should you be the one to decide. Wait until she is of an age to decide for herself and explain to her that it will hurt and that they may become infected. I hate seeing young children with their ears pierced. I think there should be a minimum age of 16 attached to having any piercings !

Kym - posted on 10/26/2010

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I got my daughter's ears pierced at the age of 4mths. I had heard that the younger they are, the better it is for 2 reasons - they don't remember the short burst of pain AND because they don't tend to play with them whilst they are going through the healing phase.

I looked into it a lot before I decided to actually get it done. A lot of hairdresser's don't agree to do it until the child is 2 years old and the odd hairdressers or beauty shop said they wouldn't do it until the child was physically able to sit there and agree to what they wanted to have done.

In the end, I went to Essential Beauty. They asked me how old my daughter was at the time and I said "4 months", they said "sure, that's fine". What they did there was put EMLA Cream (numbing cream often used in association with children's vaccinations) on her ears first and we waited about 20 mins for it to numb the ear lobes and then they did it.

One thing to find out as well, is if they have "2 operators" that will do it at the same time. Some places said they would do one ear and then the other but I think it's much nicer to get it over and done with in one go. My daughter cried for about 15 seconds flat and then that was it. I'm pretty sure it wasn't because of the pain (as she had the numbing cream on...) I think it was the initial shock of the earrings going through her ears (the pressure she would have felt on her ears). A cuddle from Mummy and everything was fine.

We have had no trouble with her playing with them or aggravating them and we've had no trouble with infections etc. She loves them and so do I... I get so mny comments from people when I am out, about how gorgeous she looks because of it. I'm a very proud Mummy. When she is older, if she decides that it is something she doesn't like... then she can make that choice and let the holes grow over.

DO MAKE SURE that you clean her ears regularly in the bath (as you probably would anyway LOL) and that you LEAVE a pair of earrings in at all times. Seeing as a child is always growing - and growing so much at a young age.. it doesn't take long for the holes to close over. I don't take the set of earrings out of her ears until I am ready to put another set in. My daughter's ears are a little sensitive to just regular silver and I have to buy sterling silver earrings for her. It's easy when Birthdays come around though - we just ask family members to buy a set of sterling silver earrings if they run out of ideas on what to get her hehehe. Hope this helps :o)

Jessica - posted on 10/26/2010

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My daughter didn't get her ears pierced until she was 8 years old because we waited for her to ask. She didn't cry; actually, she didn't even notice that they had pierced her ears! She asked if they were done. To this day, she loves it! I figure, it hurts probably as much as the flu shot. Babies can't tell you if their ears are hurting from an infected piercing, but a toddler can. Do what you think is best for your child.

Joanne - posted on 10/26/2010

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after my daughter got her first shot.. I got her ears pierced she'll cry but it won't be as bad as they are toddler..

Chasity - posted on 10/26/2010

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Im not really sure that there is a right and wrong age. I know in my family we get them done when they are a couple of days old.

Pam - posted on 10/26/2010

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i had my daughters done when they were about 6mo. i did it at home with a kit i got at walmart....do one ear first and wait anout an hour or so and do the other one....it is fast and they will for get about it by the next day. just make sure you keep them cleaned.

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