When are they too old for a bottle and pacifier?

Sara - posted on 07/31/2009 ( 42 moms have responded )

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My daughter is 19 months old, we only give her a pacifier at naptime and bedtime and a bottle only at bedtime. Is she too old for those? Help...

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Mickey - posted on 08/06/2013

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I don't mean to judge anyone or their choices but by boyfriends son is 3 and still uses a pacifier and drinks milk from a bottle. It drives me crazy because im worried about the formation of his teeth and gums. He gets between 3 to 4 bottles of milk per day. He says that maybe in 6 to 9 months he might think about weening him off of them. I've read that if a toddler drinks milk from a bottle it can cause tooth decay and i don't want to see him struggle later in life with his teeth because they don't want to get him off of the pacifier or bottle. Also the child only drinks juice no water. Just wondering if i am being over picky or might have a valid point. His speech is also being affected by using the pacifier all the time.

Keisha - posted on 08/08/2009

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Its a comfort thing for your child to have a bottle, cup, or pacifier. Its really to your discretion how long you think she should be on the pacifier and bottle, personally to move son along I just stopped giving the pacifier and stuck with the bottle. Then I started to introduce those sippy cups with the soft tips, next thing was hard tip cups. Then I started making sure he was really active during the day so it wouldn't matter to him what he had he would just fall asleep. GOOD LUCK

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User - posted on 08/08/2013

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i would say 1 year is tops my baby is 8 months i only let her use a pacifier when she gos to bed it dont ever leave the crib and i never give a bottle in the crib they tell you not to if i wonted to i could just give her a sippy cup try weaning to the cup its better if yiu judt throw them all away

Stacey - posted on 08/09/2009

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yes i personally think she is too old.But thats just me....i took my son off the bottle the day he turned 1 and he never liked the pacifier so i was lucky on that part but i would get rid of that when they have a full set of teeth which would be around the same time as the bottle.

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Now is the time to cut out the bottle. You can put water in it and maybe she won't want it anymore. If she does, it won't hurt her w/ just the water.



As for the pacifier... if she's just using it at nap and bedtime then it really isn't a problem right now. I'd give it a bit more time.



None of my kids have ever had bottles (but I am still breastfeeding my 16 month old son). We took the pacifier away from the girls 3 weeks before they turned 2, but they had only been using it for nap and bedtime since shortly after a year. Bedtime wasn't a problem, but they quit napping. My son would never take a pacifier. He prefers Mommy. :)

Amy - posted on 08/07/2009

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my daughter is turning 2 this sunday!! she's never had a pacifier. she doesnt even know what it is. and she hasnt had a bottle since she was about 14 months old or so...

Germaine - posted on 08/07/2009

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Even naptime or bedtime, she's too old, now. She's becoming a big girl...not good. It messes up their front teeth as well.

Ciara - posted on 08/07/2009

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My son is 20 1/2 months and we've had him off the pacifier for about a month now because the doctor said it was pushing on his teeth, and hes been off the bottle for about 3 months or so now because it was time for a big boy cup.. I know its a hard transition for your daughter but the sooner you get her off the better and easier it'll be. We just ditched the pacifier and with the bottles i just replaced them with sippy cups instead.. he didnt like it at first but now he goes to sleep without either and does just fine! Good luck!!

Roxanne - posted on 08/07/2009

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Yes, she is too old for that pacifier and that bottle. Let her know that now that she is becoming a big girl that she has too let go of the pacifier and the bottle. SIPPY CUP!

Joanie - posted on 08/06/2009

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I would say yes... but that's easier said than done. My son is 13 months and he only drinks from sippee cups. But he takes a pacifier. I've been waiting to battle him on that one until the time is right. It seems like he's always teething, or sick or just not sleeping well. Someday soon I'm going to take them away. Good luck. I'm sure it's not a fun battle.

Katija - posted on 08/05/2009

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It's up to you. If she feels she needs it then I think it's ok as long as you're not letting her sleep w/ teh bottle and brushing her teeth before giving the pacey to avoid cavities and decay. As long as she'd done by the time she starts school who cares? Our folks let us go and we're ok! :)

Jacqueline - posted on 08/04/2009

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No way! Let her decide. Don't make it a battle and she will give them up without a fight when she is ready.

Carrie - posted on 08/04/2009

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My doctor said they can have the bottle at bed for the rest of there lives but only with water it wont hurt there teeth at all!

Eva - posted on 08/04/2009

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I have 3 kids and none of them had the pacifier. My older 2 were off the bottle at 1 but the 3rd one does not want to give it up she is 15 months old and only takes it 2 times, at naptime and bedtime. If you get any help let me know!!

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Take it both away by one, but not at the same time. You'll probably have a few rough days - a week but they will get over it, your not being mean. The sooner the better.

Sara - posted on 08/04/2009

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I'm in favor of cold turkey at 1 year for both. I didn't overuse the paci, so it wasn't a huge transition. I think a sippy cup should be introduced at 5 or 6 months, and be used more and more as they approach a year.

Rebecca - posted on 08/04/2009

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My son is two and uses a cup like his brother during the day, but a beaker at night. Was warned by the dentist about use teats on bottles. My eldest decided himself to come off his dummy at night when he was two. My youngest started to chew through his dummies at 19 months so when he chewed threw his last I didnt buy any more. The first night was hard, but he accepted that it was broken and has not asked for it since. On a personal level I have a pet hate of children aged three and upwards with dummies in. Sorry!

Brandy - posted on 08/04/2009

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My son was off both by his first birthday..... It is bad for their teeth and they need to grow into bigger and better things!

Melissa - posted on 08/04/2009

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My son is 2 1/2 and he still has a passy at bed time. The dentist told me if the time they have it is limited then it is more tramatic to take it away then it is bad for them. I've heard the bottle at bed time can cause tooth decay. My sister son had two dead fromt teeth from the bottle. Good luck. Its hard to take the things they love.

Laura - posted on 08/04/2009

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every child is different so i dont think theres a specific time 2 take it away! my daughetrs 2 and she still has a bottle an a dummie before goin to bed, she has a cup throughout the day though,

Cassandra - posted on 08/04/2009

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My daughter had no problem letting go of the bottle, but the pacifier is a different story. She is 22 months and still carries it wherever we go. I didn't realize it was time to get rid of it until it was too late. I gave her the paci because she was sucking her thumb and I know from experiance that thump sucking is hard to brake and I didn't want that for my daughter. I am starting to limit her binky time and I am planning to get rid of it completly by her 2ed birthday.

Cheryl - posted on 08/03/2009

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My son is 16 months - he is breastfed and has never had a bottle so I don't have to worry about that - he has a breastfeed 3 times a day. The one in the evening he has before bed - but not in his bedroom, we always brush his teeth and then read a story before putting him to bed now :) He has had a pacifier since he was 3 weeks old but I have always tried to limit its use to bed and naptime or if he was really, really upset when we were out and about. He still has it for sleeping as it helps him get through the night without needing me to comfort him back to sleep. I don't see a problem with this - i will try to remove it after he turns 18 months though.

Tiffany - posted on 08/03/2009

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My boys were off of both at 10 1/2 months, although their pedatrician said to start trying to get them off at 1yr old.

Kimberly - posted on 08/03/2009

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I feel like after they turn 1 it is time to let go of the pacifier and bottle. It wear and tears on their teeth. My daughter's doctor said after 1 is a good time.

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I do the same thing you do... my Daughter is 16 months old and is still taking the "binki" and the Bottle at nap and bed times!! I am going to get rid of the Bottle First! And have started lowering the intake of her Milk in her Bottle! I'm down to 4 oz for nap/bed times. Last night she didn't drink any of the milk! So I think we are doing pretty well with it. I think the Binki will be HARDER than the bottle, but we are Parents, we have to be the ones that do the Parenting, not them! They will learn...
Even though my daughter still has both b/c she is my first, and I hate it that she IS growing up! I'm having a hard time with that!!

Leisa - posted on 08/02/2009

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Be careful giving a bottle to put a child to sleep as this can be bad for their teeth. We all like giving them a bottle as they go to bed as it is a great comforter and helps send them to sleep, but damage can be done to their teeth as they need to be brushed before going to bed, so perhaps try giving them water in the bottle and not milk.

An 18mth milestone is using a cup. Are they using a cup during the day?

Pacifiers/Dummies are a comfort thing, but personally I find it stupid to see a child taking a pacifier/dummy out of their mouth to speak. I would try cutting it out at 12 - 18mths.

Alisa - posted on 08/02/2009

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My son is 3.5 years old. He loves his bottle of warm millk. It's a comfort thing. But the way I see it...he drinks about 2 bottles a day. One at nap time and one right before bed, he is getting in a lot of calcium which is amazing for his teeth and bones so I cannot complain. The bottle thing I have a feeling won't be hard to take away I will allow it for another few months, possibly until he turns for and then I will take it away. I see no harm in it.

Lindsay - posted on 08/02/2009

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Most recommend the bottle be gone no later than the first birthday as well as the pacifier, I have a 16 month old who was a severe pacifier baby, to the point that he would hide them in the house so we could not take them. You just have to start giving it to them less and less, or substitute it, like my son we would give the pacifier at naps and bed only then moved it to bed only and then during naps gave him a special blanket, then took the pacifier away all together and now he gets a special blanket for naps and bedtime.

User - posted on 08/02/2009

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I breastfed for a year and started introducing the sippy cups at about 9 months. I tried to avoid giving anything but breast milk from the bottle and did away with them when I weaned my sone at 12 months. At first he didn't seem to know what to do with the sippy cups, but once he figured out that he was supposed to drink out of them, he never made a fuss, especially since treats like juice only came in the sippy cups

Christine - posted on 08/02/2009

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my son is 18 months and is so attached to the pacifier, we have to start limiting him to using it only at bedtime but its hard. The bottle is usually one at night, but have read they shouldn't even be using a bottle after 12 months. I try to give milk in a sippy cup and heating it a bit. Our dr. tells us that as long as the pacifier is limited to bedtime they eventually will give it up themselves, which sounds like you are on the right track.

Jocelyn - posted on 08/02/2009

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I think after age one, it's time to let it go. They are now toddlers and should be treated like it. It's time for sippy cups and new comforting tactics. I was lucky that my son wouldn't take a pacifier after he was a week old. I guess he figured out nothing was coming out of it:-) I was never too keen on the idea of a paci anyway. If they cry, it's for a reason and I'm not one to just throw a rubbery nipple in his mouth to shut him up temporarily.

Jennifer - posted on 08/02/2009

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well i am a Mom of 2 boys 2 and 4 and also a developmental specialist.. Honestly the bottle per pediatricians reccommendations ahould be gone completely by 15 months... That's the easier of the two, if she likes warm milk in a bottle before bed or just milk she can still ahve it just in a sippy, and remember because she has lots of teeth she should be brushing them before she goes to bed . Milk is terrible for teeth... actually causes a break down of tooth enamel if it sits in her mouth at all so best to brush....... The pacifier, use your judgement, my opinion is by 2 but only have it at bedtime and naptime after 1.. this also has a negative effect on the muscle tone in the mouth and can cause articulation disorders and other oral and speech problems. Binky fairy worked for me with both kids...... tell them she is coming tonight to take it then when she is asleep take it and leave her a new favorite toy. i did a favorite stuffed disney character. hope this helps ..... overall as a Mom use your judgement and do what is best for you, just know the negative sides of all issues and go with your gut....

Darby - posted on 08/02/2009

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We are the same as Amber Bell. 8 months start the conversion to sippy cups. At 9 months - bottle is gone bye bye. Pacifier - no real experience but I would think one sucking thing is like the other. If you break it now they won't remember later. I would think early breaks are easier.

Not to mention, as a working mom, I hated the pacifiers at school. Parents brought them in and it was like an infestation of germs....all the kids pick them up and suck on them. Our youngest started walking around putting things in his mouth to suck on. Very aggrevating.

Tammy - posted on 08/02/2009

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We just took the pacifier away and my daughter she is 3 1/2 we made a trade...she got a Barbie jeep and she put the pacifier in the trash by herself. So now she tells everyone shes a big girl. no problem hope this helps.

Stacie - posted on 08/02/2009

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I can't say how old is too old for both the bottle or the paci but the only suggestion I have is if you want to get rid of both you should start doing that soon. The older a child gets, the more they know and the harder it will get for you....they become more independent and more stubborn as the months tick away.

Rachele - posted on 08/01/2009

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I took my son's bottles away when he turned one. He didn't like it at first, but after a few days he got the idea that if he wanted a drink he had to drink from his cup. As far as the pacifier, some say that it should be taken away about the same time as the bottle, but I say as long as its only at sleep time let them have it. When they are ready to get rid of it, they will.

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At 19 months old your baby shouldn't be needing the bottle at night, and as a lot of people have already commented, it is bad for your baby's teeth to go to sleep with milk on them. Your daughter should be brushing her teeth before bed, so having a bottle of milk after this will be cancelling the effects of brushing her teeth. If the comfort of the bottle is a big factor, try just giving her warm water, she might just reject it all out, and if that's the case I would just firmly say to her, you can have this, or nothing, and walk away, she will probably kick up a fuss for between 1 and 7 nights, but then she should get over it (some kids do take longer, but at 19 months I would expect her to adapt to the change within a week). As for the pacifier, so long as she isn't walking around with it during the day.. I wouldn't worry about it. Kids suck their thumbs for years.. and a pacifier is much easier to get rid of at the age of 3 or 4, when you can explain to them that they are a big kid, and the binkie fairy needs to collect the binkies from the big kids to give to the new babies (a Jo Frost supernanny technique)

Felisha - posted on 08/01/2009

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I know how hard this can be!.. But yes she is too old! I know its probably a huge struggle. I've worked in many daycare settings and went through a little of this too.. When my daughter turned 1 I was still giving her the bottle for nap time and bedtime, and I continued doing so.. almost for reasons that I knew if comforted her and I hated the fact that she was growing up.. but I bit my lip and took the sucker away. I was always one to see kids at the stores with a bottle or pacifiers in their mouths, and they would take the thing out eat, talk, and stick it back in.. I would always be saying in my head "time to take that away!" I know thats not the case, and its going to be hard for the first few weeks, but you just have to get rid of them... package them all up, throw them away, donate them, store them in the attic, whatever you can do to get them out of everyone's sight and deal with the crankiness for a while.. soon enough she will love to have a sippie cup before bedtime.. When you give her the sippie cup make it a big deal, like she's such a big girl!.. maybe she'll grow on it faster than you think! =)

Diandra - posted on 07/31/2009

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I suggest taking one away at a time.....try the bottle first since she uses it the least.....swich it to a sippy cup.....then maybe a month later teke her pacifier.....we get more attached to those things than they do....we make them have security blankets

Ashley - posted on 07/31/2009

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When my daughter turned 9 months my husband and I took the bottle away from her and started giving her sippy cups, and she took to them fairly well. She was reluctant at first but after a few weeks she came around, she never took a pacey so I cant help with that one... but I believe that she is too old for the bottle at 19 months old.

Brandy - posted on 07/31/2009

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my pediatrician would not allow us to give a bottle after 1 year, he said that it was extremely bad for his teeth and that we should get rid of it cold turkey, that it was ok if our son didn't drink for a few days that he would come around, sure enough after about 2 crazy weeks, our son stopped throwing a fit about the absence of his bottle.

Rachael - posted on 07/31/2009

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My daughter is 3 and i still cant get her off either, its a comfort thing, i think they let you know when there ready i do keep asking her if she wants it in a cup but the answer is always no :(

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