When did your toddler start sleeping through the night? What helps?

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My daughter is almost 18 months, she usually wakes up for a bottle in the middle of the night. Any suggestions?

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Michelle - posted on 02/25/2009

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i havent ever had this problem but a friend of mine has. she started to put a sipper cup of water in her bed with her daughter so she had a drink when she would wake up. My daughter on the other hand did start having a problem sleeping thru the night and we got a night light for her and we started playing instramental and classical music in the background for her. it seemed to help calm her. hope any of these suggestions help.

Lisa - posted on 03/03/2009

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I really didn't have this problem, all 3 of mine slept... but I did find that giving them a small snack and sticking to a routine did help a lot... when we change the routine there is usually one that will wake up... They feel safe with a routine

Jennifer - posted on 02/26/2009

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I didn't have this problem with my son. He started sleeping through the night around 8 months old (he's 2 now). But I always gave him a bottle right before putting him down for bed. We still do this now. Every night he gets a small cup of milk before going upstairs to take his bath and go to bed. That might help, or some other type of snack as other people have suggested. But I also completely agree with letting her cry it out for a few nights until she gets the idea.

Karie - posted on 02/26/2009

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Their babies for God sakes. Give them a bottle so they can soothe themselves back to sleep...let them sleep with you. Doctors can be horrible parents when it comes to nurturing. They are only babies once...enjoy them. It is not abnormal to not have your child sleep through the night. They could have had a nightmare they could be hungry and the bottle will take the edge off....they could just miss you and need to feel your comfort. Do what you feel is right and what will make you and your child feel better.

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Linda - posted on 03/03/2009

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well the only thing that I can suggest is to just let her fall back to sleep. I would go into my son's room and rub his back a little to let him know I was there but not pick him up too much so he got used to that either. Also he never went to bed with any thing bottle or sippie. Some people will use the sippie cup but that is up too you. I never had to. Remember every kid is different and what works for some don't for others. You could also just see if and how long it takes her to fall asleep on her own she will cry some but I would give it ten min or so before I would go in to my son they rub his back and he would fall asleep again. He slept threw the night from 2 months then when he started teething he would start waking up so is she teething that is something to think about. sometimes they wake up from night terrors too. Try to think of all possibilities and go from there. Good Luck and hope this helps some. Linda

Emily - posted on 03/03/2009

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i'm dealing with a similar problem with my 14 month old son. He wakes at night expecting to be nursed, but he's starting to improve. I just discovered that if I don't give him a bedtime snack (he used to get yogurt mixed w/ fruit and cereal) right before bed he sleeps longer. He used to wake every 3-4 hours, and now he sleeps from 7pm til about 2-3am. That's a 7 to 8-hour stretch of time, which is an improvement for him. I've decided not to nurse him until at least 4am, so when he wakes up earlier than that I tell him to go night-night several times, and that I love him. It usually takes about 2 minutes, and he goes back to sleep. Then he usually wakes around 4-5 am, and I feed him at that time. I'm hoping he'll stop waking between 2-3am, and when that happens I'll start extending the cut-off time for feedings, gradually from 4am, until at least 6am. It may take a long time, and I know he's still not sleeping thru. But, that's my plan for now. We tried CIO for a week, and it was horrible-he cried for 1 1/2 hours on day 7! I don't know if i'm offering much help, since I'm kind of in the same boat as you-good luck.

Jennifer - posted on 02/27/2009

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I think the reason docs are again the bottle before bed thing is because of the sugars and stuff staying on their teeth and leading to cavities. But I still give my son milk before bed, and then he brushes his teeth.... problem solved =)

Julie - posted on 02/26/2009

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My daughter is 21 months and still has a bottle before bed. I know a lot moms and doctors for that matter are really against that but I figure let them be babies. I take them away on their second birthdays cold turkey. Anyways with that said she is more then old enough to not have one in the middle of the night. If she is sleeping with it in her crib then take it out after she is asleep. Do not give in, it will be hard for the first few nights but they get the picture quickly. She doesn't need a bottle she has just scheduled her body to wake up for it, so now it is just a matter of breaking the schedule. If you think she is really thirsty then offer her a drink from a sippy cup.

Jennifer - posted on 02/26/2009

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My son was a preemie & eating & weight gain was a huge issue until he was about 2. So night feedings seemed like forever & definatly became a habit rather then absolutly necessary. At about 18 months though we started giving him a snack at bedtime, milk (in a straw cup) & cereal. We went through a week of him waking & we'd give him water instead, then a week of him crying it out (20 - 40 minutes). No problems (except teething, sickness, the usual) with sleeping through since then. ;-) At about 2 1/2 we've stopped bedtime snacks too (he would not eat dinner because he knew he was getting the snack) but he still has a sippy cup of water in his bed.

Bronwyn - posted on 02/26/2009

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Quoting Laura:



STOP giving her a bottle, she is more then old enough to go all night without eating. 






Just plan on a few rough nights.  I wouldn't encourage any drinks...soon enough you will want to have to deal with that when you're potty training!






I agree!!!!  Let her cry it out.  She will go to sleep.  And don't even go into the room, or let her sleep with you.  Wait at least 20 minutes, and if she is still crying hard, then she might be teething or someting....It shouldn't take long to break her of this habit.  My son started sleeping all night around 6 months.  She is old enough to understand that it is sleep time.

Laura - posted on 02/26/2009

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STOP giving her a bottle, she is more then old enough to go all night without eating. 



Just plan on a few rough nights.  I wouldn't encourage any drinks...soon enough you will want to have to deal with that when you're potty training!

Maggie - posted on 02/26/2009

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i had the same issue, but when my daughter was 11-12 months old. i told my doctor and she said to stop giving a bottle in the middle of the night. i didn't out right stop. i went from 8oz to 4oz and eventually she stopped waking up. see how reducing the milk goes. start with a snack and bottle or sippie before bed and then go from there. my daughter every now and again gets 4 oz of milk but that is usually if she is hysterical in the middle of the night, and that doesn't happen much anymore.

i hope you find something that works for you and your daughter.. good luck

Christy - posted on 02/25/2009

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It sounds like she uses the bottle to soothe herself back to sleep.  I can't say that I blame her for wanting a nice snack and some snuggle time, but as long as she's a healthy weight and a toddler (underweight babies should be fed more often), then it's time to learn other ways to soothe herself.



When we were breaking my daughter of this, we sent Daddy in with a cup of water.  She was not happy about not getting Mommy and milk.  She screamed like I've never heard a child scream before.  She threw things.  She banged on the walls.  The first night it lasted over an hour.  The next night it lasted maybe 30 minutes.  The third night it lasted about 5 minutes.  The fourth night, she didn't bother.  She slept straight through.



Granted, "crying it out" isn't for everyone.  But I don't think my daughter would have broken the habit any other way.  We tried everything, and I had to make the choice between getting up every night and feeding a child who didn't need fed and letting her fuss over it for a couple of days.  It was torture for me, but it worked like a charm.  And she's such a happier kid when she gets a full night's rest.



Good luck!!

Linda - posted on 02/25/2009

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This is a question that is almost unanswerable. I am sorry to say that. Every child is so different. My daughter who is 3.5 slept through since she was 3 mo. (we were so spoiled) Thank god she was our first, or my thoughts are she would maybe not have a sibling. Our 10 mo. old son cries constantly. I sleep maybe, four hrs a night. It is all about the teeth. He has been teething since he was approx. 4 mo. old. These are very difficult times. The only thing i can say to you is that it does pass eventually. Good luck to you, i understand completely!!!!!!!!!!!

Jill - posted on 02/25/2009

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give her a bigger bottle right before bed. She doesn't need the middle of the night bottle, you now have to break her of the habit of getting it. If she wakes up, try rocking her or just laying her back down with something that soothes her (blanket, pacifier etc).

Rachel - posted on 02/25/2009

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Aiden has slept through the night for a long time. His sister is just now starting to sleep through the night. If she is waking, we do not hear her (she is in our room right now) unless the TV is off (she hates the dark, and it plays instrumental music). We keep a sippy in with her as well.

Rachel - posted on 02/25/2009

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Quoting Michelle:



i havent ever had this problem but a friend of mine has. she started to put a sipper cup of water in her bed with her daughter so she had a drink when she would wake up. My daughter on the other hand did start having a problem sleeping thru them night and we got a night light for her and we started playing instramental and classical music in the background for her. it seemed to help calm her. hope any of these suggestions help.





This is what we do. Our 20m seems to sleep fine, it is the 10m who still wakes up and she hates the dark!! We leave the TV on a "Sirus" station that plays, geez, instrumental music.  There is no real picture to watch. But it has what the name of the song is floating across the screen, just enough light.



 



I second the sippy cup of water :) if possible.

Rachelle - posted on 02/25/2009

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I agree with not giving the bottle no matter how hard it is. I did this with my youngest just about a month ago (he is 6 and half months old now). He does take a pacifier and I would give that to him when he would wake up but didn't pick him up or even speak to him. This would go on all night long. However, after about the fourth night he just gave in and has been sleeping all night since then.

Tracey - posted on 02/25/2009

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Hi,

I followed a 4 day rule, I just gave my little girl her last bottle at 7 (8oz) and gave her water IF she woke in the night, I did this at the same time every night for 4 days and by the 5th day she slept right thru and has done since she was 4 months old. It's worth a try, hope this helps.

Tracey

So - posted on 02/25/2009

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Try giving her a snack 30 minutes before bed...something filling like crackers or peanut butter bread and give her a little milk or water. If she wakes up in the middle of the night, give her a sip of water in a dixie cup, but try not to give her milk or she will expect it every time. It might be hard at first to cut her of her habit, but be consistent and she will learn.

Michelle - posted on 02/25/2009

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Stop giving her a bottle in the middle of the night. I thought this was super cruel and unusual when my pediatrician told this to me, so you can think rotten of me as well. Both my boys were sleeping through the night by the time they were a month old, but my youngest started doing the 2 am bottle around 6 months. That's when I asked for advice. But back to the point she's simply snacking so she can see you. Let her cry it out, it won't hurt.

Rickie-lee - posted on 02/25/2009

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I have been lucky my little boy has slept through since birth but one tip i would try is that baby bath with essence that helps them sleep better worked well with friends of mine.

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