When should you stop allowing your son to see you naked...

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I am a married/single mother...no help ever from my spouse....with a 2 1/2 year old boy. He gets into everything and when I shower, I make him bring some toys into the bathroom while I bathe. Lately I notice he stares at me and I know children are curious but I am wondering at what age would that be a NO NO! He has just discovered the word "boobies" and knows what they are but I don't really know where he got that from. Has anyone been thru this? He has figured out how to open the front door and my husband has not had the "time" to baby proof it, he leaves before we are up and comes home after we are in bed so I can't wait for him to watch my son so I can bathe and I am worried he will get out of the house or get hurt!!!

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Despina - posted on 03/27/2010

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In our house, we don't close doors. The only doors that are ever closed are to dangerous places (furnace room/garage/etc). Not even when we go to the bath room. My son is 3.5 and my daughter will be 2 at the end of April. My husband wont change in front of the kids, but he will pee in front of them (weird). For me, having no privacy from the beginning was more about the kids needs rather than my own. If I needed to shower or use the toilet, I brought the kids in with me. I still often dress in front of them. My kids have never acted weird or given me any reason (yet) to say, "ok, maybe I should stop letting them see me naked". My kids have learned the proper names of their body parts and know that they each are different. We don't make a big deal about it, and so neither do they.

Part of the lesson that I want to teach them is that

1. their body parts are not bad and something they should hide/be ashamed off.
2. To know that in our house, we are always open with mommy and daddy about our bodies (God forbid someone ever did something sexual, touching or otherwise,to my child, I want them to know and be comfortable telling me about it and not be scared/ashamed.)

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My daughter is 3 and baths with me and i change in front of her. My son is 20months and i bath and change in front of him. If i were uncomfortable with it then i wouldnt do it. My husband is not so comfortable anymore bathing with our daughter so he doesnt but its his choice. This question kind of came up in another question about how old is to old and i figure as long as they are ok with it then i should be to. My son knows boobies and my daughter knows peepees and she knows that daddy and her brother are the same and that we are the same and that you dont touch someone elses privates. I also figure i would rather be the one to teach them about the human body then to have them go to school and experiment later on and then get in trouble and think its so taboo that they will always want to know more...If that makes much sence. So all in all i want to be the one to teach them and i'd rather in the long run that they dont have any body issues whent hey grow up and from what i have read from other mothers on here is that while growing up if they had an open family they seem to be happier and more comfortable with themselves now.

Laura - posted on 07/07/2012

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hi ,well,i guess that you are not breastfeeding,many breastfed part time age 3 and up....we have 9 kids on a lg wooded mt area,and thaty love to run and play naked in the trees,and meadows. we bathe in hot springs ,no harm for family members to see each-other naked at any age...see my reply to post ' when is it time to stop walking naked in front of your kids"..also post " naked kids"..it is very incrediable to seethat in 2012,many folks still see the human body as nasty and vulger,but the Creator did not make it so,THAT is in the MIND, ~nastiness,or beauty is,indeed in the EYE of the beholder.......

Dr. Laura Mornings,ND & LC....Admin..~Nature moms community..

Chelsea - posted on 10/29/2010

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My son is 3 yrs old and he loves to take baths with his grandma. She's decided that hes too old for that now. I stopped taking baths with him when he was about 2 because it wasnt very comfortable for both of us to be in the tub. However, he comes into the bathroom to talk when im taking a bath or using the toilet and he watches me get dressed. I think whenever they freak out (and they will eventually) about you being naked is when you should stop

Annemaree - posted on 03/30/2010

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I AGREE WITH PENNY NUDITY IS NORMAL N ITS NOT A NO NO !! MY 2 YEAROLD SON ALWAYS POINTS N SAYS BOOBIES N POINTS AND SAYS WILLY GONE IM IN THE PROSESS OF TEACHING HIM GIRLS N BOYS ARE DIFFERENT HE BATHS WITH HIS OLDER SISTERS 6 N 4 ..... I THINK ITS TOTALLY UP TO U N WHAT UR COMFORTABLE WITH ...... I REMEMBER WHEN I WAS YOUNGER LIVING AT HME WITH MY BROTHER N SISTER WE USED TO ALWAYS WALK IN ON MUM IN THE SHOWER SHE JUST TURNED HER BACK WHEN WE GOT OLDER SHE DIDNT MAKE A BIG TABOO THING ABOUT IT THO ... I THINK THIS QUESTION WAS A GOOD ONE AS EVERYONE HAS DIFFERENT VIEWS ON NUDITY N CHILDREN .. HOPE U FIND UR ANSER .

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Melissa - posted on 09/05/2012

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youre disgusting showering with a 2 year old! get a babysitter or shower when he's asleep

Sashanna - posted on 10/30/2010

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i have a year old and he still sees me change and and like avvy said they will tell you when its time he is just starting to know the difference between men and women as long as you teach him to respect other people personal space then you are gonna be okay baby proofing the door the way i taught my son was by every time someone came the door i would have him sit down and then i brought him to the door and said to him dont touch only mommy and daddy touch not nathaniel only mommy but back tot he dressing if you draw attention to it then they will when you dont say anything they wont they will tell you when they no longer want to see undress teach them to knock when they go to someone else house on the spot teaching is the best cause that is how they learn by practice

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It is extremely rare that doors are closed for privacy around here. I used to close doors for rooms that weren't in use to keep my son from getting into trouble. Then he learned to open the doors, so I bought doorknob covers. They didn't even last a day and he was still opening the doors WITH the covers on (he was 1.5-2ish)!

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Bath with him. My 4 yr old daughter still baths with me so does my 2 yr old son. And if i have a shower they are in the bath where i can see them its no biggie when they start asking questions just answer them honestly. I dress inf ront of my children everyday.

Avvy - posted on 10/29/2010

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Little boys and their moms are the first interaction he will experience with females so just be natural with him. There will come a time when you or he will be uncomfortable with complete nudity. I think within the next year or two you might both be ready to stop. Baby proof soon,snap on covers over the door knobs stop them from allowing a child to turn the handle.

Michelle - posted on 04/03/2010

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My son was about 18 months when I stopped letting him see me naked I know it is hard but wait and have your shower after he goes to bed at night or is taking a nap that way you know he is safe.

BETHANY - posted on 04/02/2010

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My son will be 3 in may, and i still take showers w/ him and go to the bathroom in front off him. and we both dont seem to mind. i have been nursing my newborn and when he starts to cry, my son will tell me he needs boobie.lol. weird i know.

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I dress in front of my 3 1/2 year old son and it's never been an issue. We also both use the bathroom in front of him and he knows that girls and boys are different. I've stopped bathing with him, but that's mostly because the tub is getting too small! Funny anecdote: He knows guys have wees and is convinced girls just 'don't have them' so can't quite figure out how girls pee. He thinks it's hilarious that 'mommy pees out of her bum' hehe.

Alicia - posted on 03/30/2010

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I tried the door knob covers and my 2 year old son broke it off and brought me both pieces!

Jessica - posted on 03/27/2010

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Be careful with the door knob covers as my son was about 3 when he figured the door knob covers out and can open any door with them on and now the only door we have them on is the door to where our furnace and hot water heater are but we taught him that he can't open that door.

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Thanks everyone. I too grew up in a home where this wasn't an issue and I don't want to make it taboo for him but I wanted to know how everyone else handles the situation.

Amanda Stafford, thanks for the info on the door knob cover!

Amanda - posted on 03/26/2010

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Dont worry your son will say eww mom when he walks in on you by mistake, and then you will know its time. Naked body issues are taught to children, so if you are ok with it, I am sure he will be fine with it for at least a few more years.

Amanda - posted on 03/26/2010

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I dont know about how old you should stop at. I think its your choice. Whatever feels right to you. As for your doors, there are little covers you can put on the door knobs where you have to squeeze them to get the knob to turn. this prevents toddlers from being able to open the door. we have them on all our doors except my sons bedroom door. We got them from walmart. look in the baby section. there are a lot of child proofing stuff there.

Kourtney - posted on 03/26/2010

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My daughter is 4 and she still sees me dress at times. All kids are curious about male and female body parts, and I'm sure he would have picked up on boobies regardless if he saw you naked or not. My daughter is always interested if I change a baby's diaper. Obviously they always want to learn. Being too "taboo" about changing in front of him might make him even more curious, but acting like it's not a big deal won't make him think much of it.

Penny - posted on 03/26/2010

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erm i have a 17mnth old lil boy and havnt even considered this. when i was growing up i always used to see my mom and dad naked, it was normal if you needed a wee and someone was in the bath you would go, even now they would do this if i was to be in the bath. i think if you dont make it an issue it isnt. however it is going to be interesting as my hubby was bought up in a very private upbrnging, where locks on doors and covering up was the norm, so im not sure how we are going to come to a middle ground as my son gets older. hmmmmm

Meghan - posted on 03/26/2010

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I think when they understand male and female and that they are different. My son is 17 months old and change infront of him and he always looks and points, kind of like what's that? There is no way he understand right now but I would say around 3 would be about the time

Meghan - posted on 03/26/2010

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I think when they understand male and female and that they are different. My son is 17 months old and change infront of him and he always looks and points, kind of like what's that? There is no way he understand right now but I would say around 3 would be about the time

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