who can take their child to the bathrrom?

Amanda - posted on 05/27/2011 ( 24 moms have responded )

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I have a 3 1/2 and we be out and she have to potty. I be with my husband, so i go in take her to the girls bathroom. but when it is just my husband and her going to town she have to potty. so what could he go to the girls bathroom or boys bathroom. Please help

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Toni - posted on 05/28/2011

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I am sincerely surprised to read this post. It may be common sense to some but if a question is being asked, then clearly the answer is not obvious. Let's not make people feel bad for asking questions. This is a support forum so let's support each other.

Karenda - posted on 05/30/2011

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My husband is a stay at home dad and has to cope with the lack of facilities for babies in mens restrooms all the time. When my daughter was a baby if there wasn't a changing table in the mens room he would knock on the womens and warn that he was coming in to use the changing table. Most people were very understanding. I think a father could do the same with a toddler as well if the mens restroom is disgusting. I find as long as warned most people are very understanding.

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Rebekah - posted on 06/04/2011

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Many places now have "family restrooms" - those are great for this type of situation!

Otherwise, she'd have to go to the men's bathroom, if she can't potty by herself yet.

Another suggestion, you could have your husband ask a store associate or security guard at a mall to take your daughter to the potty in the girls room... I know some people don't feel comfortable with this though.

Jane - posted on 06/03/2011

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i remember my dad taking me to the men's room and we used a stall. there are some men's rooms that have changing tables now, too.

Mary Renee - posted on 06/02/2011

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I like the idea someone mentioned that he gives the other men a "heads-up" that he's coming into the bathroom with a little girl.

If he is in or nearby a major department store, or even a place like Walmart, alot of them have family restrooms or separate handicapped bathrooms at the back of the store you can ask about.

Janessa - posted on 05/31/2011

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I take my 3 1/2 year old son in there when it is just me, my husband took my daughter up until recently. She's 5 and can do it by herself if we wait for her. But when they are too little to do everything by themselves, it's fine. I'm talking about taking him to the women's restroom, and my husband taking our daughter to the men's. Of course us going in to the opposite isn't okay, but it is okay for our kids, when they are little. I wasn't sure if that was what you were asking.

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@KRISTI, GOOD JOB! If you think it is common sense or your going to be rude then keep your mouth shut!! ummm... People deserve help! GOSH! Giving crap over a question, is really cool!
AMANDA,
Yes he needs to take her in the mens bathroom BUT BEFORE GOING IN.... Have him say something at the door, check and see if its clear... I mean cover her eyes but still make sure!! Most places I go do not have the family restrooms, and most mens rooms do not have a baby changing station (NOT COOL). Men need to understand fathers need to take care of their children. But the father needs to make sure to show respect by letting the men know a little girl is coming in!!! DO NOT LET HIM GO IN THE WOMENS BATHROOM!!! Some women may beat him up! LOL
THAT WAS A GOOD QUESTION!!!!

Kristi - posted on 05/30/2011

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@Elizabeth - your comments are rude. Some people aren't sure what the correct thing to do is. They might not have had great parenting or good examples to learn from. This mom was asking because she wanted support in a warm, caring community and cared enough about her child to ask for help in doing the right thing. Don't be a pain!

Kristi - posted on 05/30/2011

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My husband still takes my 7-year old daughter to the men's room with him if they are out in the city at a big movie theatre or something. No big deal. There's just no telling what kids might find in a public restroom, so better safe than sorry! When your child really starts to object, which mine will be doing soon, then I might start having more conversations about what to do if she finds a dirty restroom, or someone unsafe, etc. For now, have your husband take her to the men's room and help her use the stall. Make sure he checks to be sure it is clean and he helps her put a seat cover or toilet paper on the seat. They don't think about that since they stand to go pee!

Jenifer - posted on 05/30/2011

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my husband takes both my girl to the mens room if i am not with him...it is a normal thing to do

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He would still go into the Men's room and take her with him. She is still at an age where she can accompany him, but he definitely shouldn't go into the ladies room.

Katie - posted on 05/29/2011

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Wow.. who would have thought someone asking for help would give such a reaction! Amanda, my hubby hates to take our sons 6 and 1 into a mens room because they normally r grosse! i would feel bad about a daughter going into the mens! Anyhow there isn't much choice for dads sadly. Some places have changing rooms which sometimes have a toilet? Or maybe use a disabled toilet if there is one free! If a man came into the womens with a little girl who needed the loo and said thats what he was there for i wouldn't mind at all! But thats just me! good luck and dont listen to anyone who has nothing nice to say!

Jennifer - posted on 05/29/2011

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Well, personally, I tend not to like to put ANYone down regardless of whether something APPEARS to be common sense or not. I come to this site for fellowship with other mothers, to try to help them if I can, and vise versa, not to be put down for defending someone. I am not one to tolerate any form of bullying or teasing in a malicious manner towards others OR myself, which really has nothing to do with my intelligence. I see NOTHING wrong with her asking for answers on a question that she was sincere in asking.
Keep asking questions, Amanda, and if I am able, I, for one, will continue to answer them! (=

Tricia - posted on 05/28/2011

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He should take her with him to the mens room but do it quickly & cover her eyes if necessary. Kids are smart, so just explain to her that she will go to the girls potty when she's with mommy or when she gets bigger. Family bathrooms are the best invention ever. Also consider the little portable kind for the car at onestepahead.com

Alissa - posted on 05/28/2011

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Yes he should take her into the men's room with him. A lot of places now have family restrooms which solves this problem for you. Also, I agree with you Toni. Amanda was asking for help which is the whole point of these forums, not to be insulted. If you can't be helpful without being rude, or let's face it, outright mean, then don't bother posting and wasting everyone's time. Amanda, don't be discouraged in asking questions as there is NO SUCH THING as a stupid question.

Elizabeth - posted on 05/28/2011

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@Jennifer ...it's commonsense



whether it is a daughter or a son..they go with the parent they are accompanying regardless of the sex of the child ..which is clearly the point I made in my FIRST POST.if you didn't get that maybe you should read it again Jennifer

Elizabeth - posted on 05/28/2011

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nope she didn't but who else is going to take her if she isn't there and she doesnt know if her husband can take her lol

Jennifer - posted on 05/28/2011

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I don't think she mentioned ANYthing about having a stranger take her daughter to the bathroom....

Elizabeth - posted on 05/28/2011

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..are you serious?? if you had a son, you wouldnt ask some stranger to take him to the bathroom would you?? you would take him...



your husband should take her to the mens room with him ..cover her eyes if you dont want he seeing things she doesnt need to



we are having our 3rd daughter any day now and you better believe my husband helps with bathroom duty..you teach him what you expect him not to let her do ..like DON'T TOUCH ANYTHING in a public restroom because people are pigs and things are dirty.

Jennifer - posted on 05/28/2011

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lol yeah, he has to take her to the men's bathroom (; but he can take her to the bathroom there lol (:

Medic - posted on 05/27/2011

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Umm he would have to take her to the mens restroom. A grown man cannot go into a womans restroom.

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