Why is my 18 month old screaming for no reason???

Amanda - posted on 11/08/2011 ( 11 moms have responded )

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My son is screaming a blood curdling scream whenever he doesnt want something. I can not figure out how to calm him down. He just recently started doing this and he does it even in the middle of the night when he wakes up. I am not sure what to do to get him to stop.

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Jacqueline - posted on 11/08/2011

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My daughter also tried doing that terrible screamy sound. I know it's extremely hard not to jump to do whatever it takes to fix it but not getting a reaction from you is what will communicate to him more than anything that the screaming is not the route to go to get/refuse things. With my daughter, when she stopped screaming and I would try to talk to her...she tried to get loud again. I made it a point to speak very quietly so that she had to quiet down to listen. Eventually she wanted things bad enough to try to listen. Always always reinforce any good behavior with lots of praise. Your son will always communicate in a way that seems to get your attention the fastest.

Amy - posted on 11/11/2011

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He is learning how to push your buttons. It's amaizing how smart they are to figure these things out even as babies.
I agree with the others to explain that the behavior is not appropriate and will not help get him what he wants.
To help instill this positively you could also try giving stickers or small rewards if he goes all day with no outbursts. Something for him to remind him to be good.

Kelina - posted on 11/08/2011

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Chances are it's attention seeking, put him somewhere he can't hurt himself and can get over it then go snuggle him if he wants it. However, before that, check for teeth! My son started getting his two year molars right around 18 months.

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Summer - posted on 11/10/2011

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its do to lack of communication skills, and its his only way of effectivly letting you know he isnt happy. it will pass in time. once he is able to find a new way to communicate better. it sucks I know my daughter did it and still will on occations

Julie - posted on 11/10/2011

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We have a "screaming or crying chair". When my 22 month old cries because he wants his way, I put him in the chair. (which is daddy's favorite leather chair -ha). I put him in the chair calmly and say, "I'm putting you in the crying chair because you are crying and not using your words. You can get down when you are done crying. Are you done crying?" He often replies, "Yes." So I let him down and tell him I love him. Oh...and there have been days when he has gone back into the chair *moments* after he says he is done crying. (ha) He's gotten much better and doesn't cry/scream like he used to.
I wish I would have done this with our first child (now 3 1/2), but my husband thought it was wrong to have a crying chair. Now he supports it. (Momma's always know what's best -ha) Good luck.

Amanda - posted on 11/09/2011

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Kelina, I didnt think about his teeth. Its a very good possibility I will definately check on that and thanks everyone for the advice....

Michelle - posted on 11/08/2011

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There's a good chance it's an attention seeking scream. Most toddlers go through that stage. You just have to tell him that you're not going to listen if he's making such an awful noise and ignore him. When he's calmed himself down then go and speak to him.

Raisa - posted on 11/08/2011

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I say, welcome to the terrible 2's! It starts early in some (meaning ALL) kids. Unless he's hurting in some way, I couldn't think of any other reason. My son went from being an angel to a screaming banshee in one day. Just out of the blue. It's suppose to be because they can't properly communicate what they want. Once my son learned the word "No" and that he could say it instead of screaming, he got a LOT better.

Brianna - posted on 11/08/2011

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still tell him its not nice to scream and that u wont give him what he wants until he stops then wait for him to stop then after hes stops then u can give him what he wants. soon he will realize he cant get his way when he screams

Amanda - posted on 11/08/2011

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He doesnt do it to be funny he does it when he wants something and when he is upset. He always screams that blood curdling scream.

Brianna - posted on 11/08/2011

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my daughter sometimes thinks it funny to scream like that.. so what i do i tell her mom isnt listening to you or your not getting what u want until u stop screaming, screaming isnt nice. and then i ignore her she then realizes shes not getting a reaction from me so she stops

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