words for little girls privates
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Krista - posted on 10/28/2010
I would just call them what they are. We don't make up different names for their toes or their bellybutton, so why not just tell her it's her vagina?
There's a danger in making up too-cutesy names for kids' private parts. I've heard of cases where a child is being sexually abused, and tells someone that someone else touched her vagina, but the word she uses is so euphemistic that nobody understands what she's really saying.
Jeneva - posted on 10/28/2010
My kids will grow up being able to use the medical terms. Penis, testicles, vagina, vulva, labia, etc. Right now, at 3 years old, she just knows vagina but as she starts asking more questions she will be taught the rest. I feel it's important to her to know the proper names so she is comfortable talking about herself, especially if something happens and she needs to tell me (or someone) if something hurts/happened.
Sarah - posted on 03/16/2011
I agree with Jodi. On a similar post, someone said she was "horrified" when she heard such "obscene" words coming from a child's mouth, and preferred her girls to refer to their parts as "gy-gys" and "titties." To me, using slang (and yes, nicknames for body parts are technically slang) seems more obscene! Calling it something other than what it is makes it seem unnatural and embarrassing, while using the correct terms is just that...correct!
Connie - posted on 04/23/2012
I use to call my sons penis his pee-pee. But then I had a daughter and hers couldn't be a pee-pee too. So we switched. Boys have penises and girls have vaginas :) I think it'll make the sex talk easier many years down the line.
Melissa - posted on 04/21/2012
We use the correct names. When I was in college, I witnessed a huge sex abuse case fall apart because the children involved didn't know the appropriate words to use. It was sad and some very bad people got away with some very bad things. This wasn't the first case I have seen this happen with so when we had children we made certain to use the right words. Its not something people want to think about but it is a sad fact of life. In addition I don't think they should feel there is anything "wrong" with any part of their body. They have what they have and thats nothing to make then feel ashamed of. Just my opinon.
Carlie - posted on 04/20/2012
Male body parts, regardless of maturity level, are called penises. Female body parts, regardless of maturity level, are called vaginas. When your child asks, define the word maturity. Follow up that definition with the word HONESTY.
Utterly ridiculous that parents feel some sort of need or desire to call our body parts by silly cute names. As an adult, and read between the lines here, it's different when we direct our body part names towards another significant other-male or female.
But a child....NEVER use a silly little name. Body parts are SERIOUS BUSINESS and should ALWAYS be treated RESPECTFULLY.
Kelina - posted on 08/03/2011
My son has been told he has a penis, mommy has a vagina and boobs. Ya he says about 15 words right now and one of his favorites? boob. And just so no one misses his meaning he points to mine when he says it. If necessary he will try to pull down my shirt so EVERYONE gets the point lol. I wasn't so sure at first but my mom made up names and saying them embarrassed me. I figured if he's going to be embarrassed anyways might as well know the real names!
Jodi - posted on 11/01/2010
Obviously it's just a personal feeling for me, but I have to strongly disagree with the social acceptance of the medical terms for body parts. I would MUCH rather my daughter said vagina in public than hooha, nunu or some other nonsense name. I refer to my vagina as my vagina, my breasts as my breasts...and yes...I even say rectum. I don't say boobies or even boobs and neither does my nearly 2 year old. My daughter has talked about her vagina in public and my breasts in public...and while embarassing to a point that I answer her question quickly and explain we talk about these things at home, I would be absolutely mortified if my daughter were saying boobies or vajayjay...that's obviously just me though. But it's not about being uptight...it's about doing what's comfortable for me and my child. I didn't even know that our vaginas (or penises) were given special names until 4th grade sex ed. So...I guess for me, it's how I was raised and what I, personally, am used to.
Amanda - posted on 11/01/2010
well my daughter is only 11 days old so for now no big deal but my son is goin gon 4 and we call his parts a wee wee (he knows it is called a penis but is used to wee wee) he has asked what it is that his sister has so we have started calling hers a tweenie as in between her legs. my parents used nicknames for ours till we got old enough to understand and we were fine....I just feel awkeward saying the medical terms till they are older. now that my son is older and asking more questions about it we are slowly telling him about them and when she gets bigger we will tell her to. for now we like the cutsie terms.
Sharrie - posted on 11/01/2010
my son has a peter but i have no idea either on what to call a girls. i dont want my daughters saying vagina in the middle of a store but i dont want nothing babyish like ho-ho or such. my oldest daughter is 1 1/2 and still no name for it
Jenny - posted on 11/01/2010
You are right though when it comes to the sexual abuse. I did teach my daughter it's a "vagina" but we call it vajayjay.. (Which most daycare teaches will figure for vagina) calling it something insanely off route like a cookie is going to cause an issue.. I agree on that.. But teaching your child another term isn't so wrong.. Aslong as you teach the actual term
Krista - posted on 11/01/2010
I don't have a problem with euphemisms as long as the child clearly KNOWS what the proper term is in the first place.
Unfortunately, there are some parents out there who are so uncomfortable that they can't even bring themselves to say "vagina". So they teach the little girl that it's called a "cookie", or something equally inane. But they never teach her the proper word.
So then what happens if the kid's at daycare and tells the provider that her uncle poked her cookie with his finger?
There's no issue with a kid having a nickname for stuff. I don't always call my vagina by its proper name. But at least I KNOW the proper name. And all girls should know the proper name.
Jennifer - posted on 11/01/2010
there is no shame in calling it a vagina, and as the language and pronunciation comes through nice and clear, she will know what she means and should be able to associate the word with where it is on her body like every other part you are teaching her. This should be the same for the boys.
I'm also agreeing with Krista in regards to her sexual abuse comment, I think it is best we use the actual name instead of making up a language all of our own that no one else understands.
Jenny - posted on 10/31/2010
I don't see the issue with teaching your kids another name for the private parts. I know I have a vagina, and my mother always called it my privates.. In my house it's called a vajayjay.. And breasts are called Tata's.. She doesn't have any younger siblings so she hasn't learned about the penis yet.. But she knows boys have boy parts and girls have girl parts..
Betsy - posted on 10/31/2010
Years ago, when my daughter was about 5, a bunch of us moms were standing outside the showers, holding towels for our daughers as they washed off after swim practice. One of them moms yelled in, "Don't forget to wash your SUSAN!!!" ...there was a moment of silence, then every single one of us just cracked up. She looked embarrassed, then said, "Well. what do you call it???" Every one of us had a different name...VaJayJay, PeePee, WAHee, HooHah, a couple others I can't remember. But the point is, of course we teach them the right name for it, the anatomical name for it, but they have to understand that walking around saying Vagina and Penis is just not socially acceptable. I think of it as a humorous, affectionate name! I mean, when was the last time you said "oh, I love my breasts!" instead of "I love my boobies!" c'mon, now, ladies, let's just relax here.
Vicki - posted on 10/30/2010
Please teach your children the correct terms for body parts. I work in ambulance dispatch and have had an elderly woman call who couldn't tell me where her husband had pain (his penis). Someone else called about a cut to their vagina (no I can't remember how it happened) and they used a strange word that I've now forgotten. No one in our team knew what it was and it slowed down the help for them hugely!
Penis, vagina, vulva. What's the worse that happens if you teach them the correct terms? (I know, they scream in the supermarket 'I have a VAGINA!!!!!!' but you'll get over it)
Vagina. It is what it is. When my girls were little I was a tad uncomfortable w/ that word and just referred to it as 'the part of your body you go pee w/'... That backfired when in the shower cuz I would tell them to wash their bodies and that was all they'd wash. So... I got over my discomfort (around 2) and it's been vagina ever since (they're almost 9). It's been penis since day one for my 2.5 year old son.
Shana - posted on 10/30/2010
I have 4 boys and had never really given this much thought until recently when my youngest son 2years old realised I didnt have a doodle...I have gone with vagina - sounds horribly clinical but it seemed to make my eldest sons (aged 10 and 8) a little more comfortable. I must a admit my youngest does say "gina" and occasionally he calls it a flower too LOL
Angel - posted on 10/29/2010
We call it a nunu (new new) here. When my daughter was about 4 and could understand more I taught her the technical names for boy and girl parts (normally boys' junk is called peepee's here) but we still call them nunu and peepee in public. The reason for the "cutesy" names in this house is b/c if you stub your toe in public no one thinks twice if you say "Ow! I hurt my toe!" But if you're at the park and DD hits her privates and she says something like, "Mom, my vagina hurts!" Everyone stops and stares. Some people may not care, but I was raised in a house where you didn't talk about genitals in public, and little ones don't have censors. JMO.
Jodi - posted on 10/28/2010
Well...since it's called a vagina...that's what we go with. I don't get making up cutsey names for ONE body part...is the word vagina so dirty it's become unmentionable? Just my thought on it...not out to offend anyone...I just really don't understand making up names.
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