14 Month Old Temper Tantrums... Any Advice?

Hayley - posted on 06/18/2009 ( 8 moms have responded )

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My 14 month old daughter has started throwing major temper tantrums. One minute, she's fine and then in a split second she's throwing herself and more recently pounding her head and feet on the floor. The first few times scared the daylights out of me and I know tantrums are normal, but I didn't think she'd be doing this! Has anyone experienced this with their young children? Any advice on how to handle my 14 month old's tantrums? It seems the more recent tantrums have been brought on by being tired, but sometimes that's just not the case.

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Jalisa - posted on 05/04/2012

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The best thing to do is ignore her, I know it seem mean but what she's doing is trying to get you attention and if you feed in to it you will regret it because it will get worse. As long as she is not hurting her self she'll be fine;)

Brittney - posted on 01/11/2012

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Ask her to tell you or show you what the problem is. Kids throw tantrums because they are frustrated. Otherwise ignoring them is the next best thing.

Sarah - posted on 06/19/2009

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If she is tired then I would be inclined to sort that out a.s.a.p. ie give her a cuddle, her sleeping aid (if she has one) and put her to bed.

If its just a tantram then walk away. Give her and the tantram no attention at all. If she follows you around doing it just carry on as though she isn't even there. She'll stop when she isn't rewarded with attention.

If she is head banging then I would pick her up put her in her cot and say - "your in time out for throwing a tantram and banging your head". Then leave her there. The only reason I say put her in her cot is that its safe and padded.

And yes its a totally normal thing for her to be doing. But the golden rule here is "ignore ignore ignore".

Good luck - we're all in the same boat as you!

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Rhonda - posted on 01/05/2012

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A cup of cold water poured onto my grandson's face cured him of having tantrums! I let him know that if he did it again, so would I. Just saying ...

Kristin - posted on 06/19/2009

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Hi Hayley, my son is 17 months and he throws major tantrums too. He falls on the floor and bangs his head and feet and arms on the floor. ( which I just hate to watch him) But I was told by my mother and his Doctor to just ignore him. "He's just testing you". And as he got older the worse they got and now he really dosen't throw them. So as hard as it to watch and listen too try ignoring your 14 month old's tantrums. Good luck Krisitn

Hayley - posted on 06/18/2009

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Thanks everyone!!!! This is making me feel better about my 14 month old's tantrums!

Rebecca - posted on 06/18/2009

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my normally very well behaved 21 month old son has not so long ago started doing the same thing as your daughter. he will throw himself to the floor pound his head on the ground kick his legs and throw his arms around. i have found the best thing is to just walk away saying "mummy will be back to talk to you when you calm down, my walking out of the room while hes throwing his tantrums seems to be enough for him to stop as theres no one watching him or showing him attention, once hes stoped throwing the tantrum he will come to me and we "talk" about what he has done and what we can do next time so he doenst have a tantrum.



i know thats a little bit long but it seems to work most of the time with us, hope it helps with your 14 month old's tantrums!

MacKenzie - posted on 06/18/2009

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Hi Hayley! I have a 15 month old daughter that is acting just as sassy! ;) Your adorable little girl is just expressing her frustrations...in a very normal, yet hard to watch way. My little one throws herself on the floor, smacks at me, and my least favorite screams at me. I have found ignoring her is the best solution yet impractical at times. Whenever you can, try not to feed into it by being reactive...that is mostly what she is looking for...other times I take my little one and get to her level and tell her exactly why its not ok for her to act like that...she may not get it but it makes me feel better talking to her about it. Then I try to get her interested in a toy or even spoil her with a tv show or something.



I hope this helps with your 14 month old's tantrums! Just know you are doing everything right and she is just testing the waters and expressing her frustrations with not being able to do everything she wants on her own...big girl syndrome ;)

Good Luck!! MacKenzie

Kristin - posted on 06/19/2009

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Hi Hayley, my son is 17 months and he throws major tantrums too. He falls on the floor and bangs his head and feet and arms on the floor. ( which I just hate to watch him) But I was told by my mother and his Doctor to just ignore him. "He's just testing you". And as he got older the worse they got and now he really dosen't throw them. So as hard as it to watch and listen too try ignoring your 14 month old's tantrums. Good luck Krisitn

Hayley - posted on 06/18/2009

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Thanks everyone!!!! This is making me feel better about my 14 month old's tantrums!

Rebecca - posted on 06/18/2009

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my normally very well behaved 21 month old son has not so long ago started doing the same thing as your daughter. he will throw himself to the floor pound his head on the ground kick his legs and throw his arms around. i have found the best thing is to just walk away saying "mummy will be back to talk to you when you calm down, my walking out of the room while hes throwing his tantrums seems to be enough for him to stop as theres no one watching him or showing him attention, once hes stoped throwing the tantrum he will come to me and we "talk" about what he has done and what we can do next time so he doenst have a tantrum.



i know thats a little bit long but it seems to work most of the time with us, hope it helps with your 14 month old's tantrums!

MacKenzie - posted on 06/18/2009

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Hi Hayley! I have a 15 month old daughter that is acting just as sassy! ;) Your adorable little girl is just expressing her frustrations...in a very normal, yet hard to watch way. My little one throws herself on the floor, smacks at me, and my least favorite screams at me. I have found ignoring her is the best solution yet impractical at times. Whenever you can, try not to feed into it by being reactive...that is mostly what she is looking for...other times I take my little one and get to her level and tell her exactly why its not ok for her to act like that...she may not get it but it makes me feel better talking to her about it. Then I try to get her interested in a toy or even spoil her with a tv show or something.



I hope this helps with your 14 month old's tantrums! Just know you are doing everything right and she is just testing the waters and expressing her frustrations with not being able to do everything she wants on her own...big girl syndrome ;)

Good Luck!! MacKenzie

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