Francesca - posted on 06/17/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )
Our 18 month old is having terrible bedtime meltdowns. This all started over the last few weeks and has gotten worse with each day. H has always been a great sleeper and normally would tell us he was ready for bath/bed. After bath we would get him dressed- say night night and that was it. He fell asleep on his own & never woke during the night.
My husband recently deployed. My son has had a cold and is getting a couple of teeth. So there is a lot of change going on. These fits take place at night- only when I am trying to put him in his crib. I have tried to let it go, but he would go on for hours if I let it, He will hyperventilate and throw-up if I don't go in there & get him out of his bed and rock him back to sleep. It's almost like he's having a panic attack.
So in order to get him to sleep I have to rock with him to get him to calm down and put him in bed when is is almost asleep. But some nights that does nto work- it starts the crying all over again. So I have to sit and rock with him till he is asleep and put him in his crib.
I am exhausted & worried by these fits. I do not want to create bad habits but on the other hand I do not want him to need comfort b/c he is scared and not be there for him. So I let this pattern go on and hope he gets back to his "normal" sleep patterns or do I need to be doing something to break the cycle?
I have tried everything I can think of. I just don't want this to psychologically mess him up, but not sure what to do. I don't want him sleeping in our bed either. Thanks for any advice...