18 Month Old Bedtime Meltdown

Francesca - posted on 06/17/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Our 18 month old is having terrible bedtime meltdowns. This all started over the last few weeks and has gotten worse with each day. H has always been a great sleeper and normally would tell us he was ready for bath/bed. After bath we would get him dressed- say night night and that was it. He fell asleep on his own & never woke during the night.



My husband recently deployed. My son has had a cold and is getting a couple of teeth. So there is a lot of change going on. These fits take place at night- only when I am trying to put him in his crib. I have tried to let it go, but he would go on for hours if I let it, He will hyperventilate and throw-up if I don't go in there & get him out of his bed and rock him back to sleep. It's almost like he's having a panic attack.



So in order to get him to sleep I have to rock with him to get him to calm down and put him in bed when is is almost asleep. But some nights that does nto work- it starts the crying all over again. So I have to sit and rock with him till he is asleep and put him in his crib.



I am exhausted & worried by these fits. I do not want to create bad habits but on the other hand I do not want him to need comfort b/c he is scared and not be there for him. So I let this pattern go on and hope he gets back to his "normal" sleep patterns or do I need to be doing something to break the cycle?



I have tried everything I can think of. I just don't want this to psychologically mess him up, but not sure what to do. I don't want him sleeping in our bed either. Thanks for any advice...

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how long has your husband been deployed. did your husband have any part in the bedtime routine? im wondering if your son might be missing him. if your husband is able and you have webcams you can set up an acccount on SKYPE that way maybe half an hour before your son goes to bed he can talk to and see his dad. i know its tough but hang in there. my son and i had a routine for bedtime as well, but now thats hes two and a little more independent he makes his own choices as fasr as what books to read and how to sit. i would definatly bring it up to your pediartician about the panic attacks though.

Francesca - posted on 06/18/2009

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I have seen several posts that seem similar to this situation, but what is so frustrating is no one has posted anything that helped or that it is a phase.

I would love to get some answers.

Bust of luck to you.

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I have no advice. My son is 15 months and our situation sounds very similar. I just created a post asking for help for me. Good luck. And thanks for letting me know I'm not the only one.

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