2 yr old temper tantrums....HELP!

Julie - posted on 12/19/2009

Hi. I found that staying with the child during the temper tantrum and really loving them made all the difference. By putting him in his room and leaving him alone, he is getting the message that I am not loved if I am mad. Taking him into his room and sitting on a chair next to the bed or sitting on the floor with him lets him know that you love him and that it is OK for him to release his anger. I found that often they needed to express their anger at me, so I would hold up a big pillow that they could hit and kick. This way I didn't get hurt and they were able to release all the frustration and anger. A third son will have much to be frustrated about as the older ones are so much more adept at everything and can do all the things he wants to do. You are doing a great job with not caving in. Both my children are now adults, and I worked with them this way the whole time they were growing up. I actually had less problems with tantrums in inappropriate places or at inappropriate times, because I encouraged them to go all the way through their feelings whatever they were.

Rebekah - posted on 12/19/2009

I think you are doing great... hang in there it is a stage that will go away. Ignoring it makes them go away faster unless they get so upset they try and hurt themselves. Some kids do better if they are held and restrained on your lap others do better if you put them in a safe place and let them work it out themselves like their room. He may be acting out because you arn't understanding what he wants and he is frustrated. I bought the super nanny books and they are wonderful, everything has worked so well.. a cheap but worthwhile investment..

Annette - posted on 12/18/2009

Hi Marie,
I have a 2 year old as well and what I do is just leave him where he is and he will scream and scream and once he calms down I say I love him and give him a hug and talk to him about what he did made me sad and it really seems to work. He then will walk around with this guilty face and I noticed big improvement... Good luck!

Tasja - posted on 12/18/2009

I am so glad I am not the only one, and there seem to be no answer! My 2years and 8 month old daughter want to do all herself, she has tantrums, she hits me sometimes, which brake my heart. If I have to put her in her room everytime she does that, it seems like she will be in her room all day. I try to keep to a routine and give time out in the toilet. Sometimes I pretend to cry and that helps but don't think it is the best way to go. Good luck you all.

Trista - posted on 12/17/2009

OMG!!!!! I am going through the same thing with my 1 1/2 year old. He whines ALL day long. And throws tantrums ALL day. I have been doing the put in ur bed thing. And it seems 2 do ok some of the times. As long as your consistant. Everytime they whine for no reason or throw a tantrum. put them in bed. Or make them have a time out.

Molly - posted on 12/16/2009

ditto on that ladies!!! My son is an extreme tantrum giver....although I give in every now and then which makes it worse, i'm looking forward to some advice on this one!!

Candice - posted on 12/16/2009

i'm going through the EXACT same thing with my daughter...She wants to do everything herself without any help and when shes not able to it ends in a fit...ive been doing the same thing that you have but it doesnt seem to be helping...any ideas?