Trisha - posted on 12/16/2008 ( 4 moms have responded )
Hi there everyone . . .
I have a 21 month old son who has developed a case of the mommy syndrome . . . when i put him in bed at night (not all the time) he screams and screams "uppie" (his version of "up please") . . . it goes on for a long time with me going into his room, laying him down and walking out (i don't say anything to him though) . . . i eventually end up going in and picking him up and taking him for a drink of water or milk because the screaming leads to him coughing or choking (so hoarse) . . . after he finishes his drink, he will roll over next to me (whether on the bed or couch) and he starts shutting his eyes, so i wait a minute or two (til his burps are done) and pick him up while he is still awake and put him in his crib and he usually goes out like a light . . .
problem is that he has been getting up the past 3 weeks or so anytime between 1:30 and 3am and screams and screams . . . with this happening every night (and my husband being a shift worker) i will go in and pick him up, cause i am still pretty much asleep and i will cuddle with him, and then he won't go back to sleep unless he is laying down with me . . . so i take him into my step-daughters room (when she isn't there) and we lay on her bed together, but because i am still so tired, i usually end up falling asleep too . . . i usually wake up an hour or two later and take him back to his bed, but not always . . .
HELP . . . is what i am doing that wrong????? cause my husband is upset with me saying that he continues to wake up in the middle of the night because he knows that i will lay with him . . .
should i just get him up, change him, give him a drink of water, and put him back in bed and hope that he won't scream???? i have thought of that, but with my husband schedule, i also don't wanna keep him up or wake him up . . .
i don't know . . . maybe it is my fault and i shouldn't take him to the other room with me . . . it is just so hard cause i am so tired too . . . any help would be appreciated . . . thanks . . .