3 1/ 2 yr old circumcision?

Tinyiko - posted on 09/21/2009 ( 30 moms have responded )

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my husband wants our 3 1/2 year old to be circumsized.im worried he wont be able to handle the pain and i really have no idea how i would treat the wound. has anyone had thier little boys circumsized and how bad is it for them in regards to pain and healing?i would've preffered he makes that choice himself when he's older.worried mom....

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My son was circumsized at 3 yrs old. Since I've had my son done, it is sensitive and after the surgery, it did hurt him quite a bit. When it came to the pain, I treated him with Tylenol. The hospital will treat it as an out patient surgery and they'll tell you everything you need to know. It is better for them to be circumsized. I understand why you wanted him to decide later, it will be much worse later in life. Although my son was in pain for 1 or 2 weeks, it doesn't bother him anymore. Ultimately, it is up to you, but I would recommend having him done.

Denise - posted on 06/11/2013

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You all sound ridiculous when you say DON"T DO IT unless it's for medical reasons. What do you think the medical resons are, Infections, of course, because children are not capable of keeping the foreskin clean so of course infections occur. Yes it is painful but with pain meds they will get through it, but not doing it, will cause infections for years. You decide:what's worse?

Denese - posted on 08/14/2012

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Well our 3 1/2 year old son was circumsized yesterday and believe me it is painful for them, but he was done for medical reasons not cosmetic, my peditrician gave us tylenol with codene in it and is working good. He does not wants me to touch it, but you have to put meds on it, no diapers and he will not let me leave his side, he urinated at the hospital yesteday and did not uninate again until this morning. I will tell you this i have cried as much as he has, th Dr will give you papers on how to take care of him, if my son had not had medical problems, not so sure i would have had it done and i work in the medical profession and know that is better when men get old if they have been circumsized. I know in the long run he will be better off but i send prayers your way and plan on taking some time off from work

Sammie - posted on 08/16/2012

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What are all these medical reasons that little boys need to be circumcised?? It is very rare that a boy/man EVER needs to be circumcised. Are you retracting their foreskins? Is it phimosis?

And NO, circumcision is NOT better for boys. How can cutting off healthy, functioning body parts be better for them? Please people, research circumcision before just letting it be done to your child.
Circumcision is painful and damaging. It is not cleaner or healthier for the boy, just the opposite.
All little boys are born with a foreskin because they ARE SUPPOSED TO BE. Foreskin is not meant to be cut off.
Circumcision has no proven benefits, that is why no medical organization IN THE ENTIRE WORLD, recommends it.
If it was a good thing, SOMEONE would be recommending it.

Bridgette - posted on 12/27/2011

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only do if its medically necessary. my son is getting it done because of various infections due to the foreskin.

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Carrie - posted on 11/16/2013

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Infections can be stopped by correcting the child's (and family's) diet and some natural supplements while waiting for the diet changes take effect. However, there is a reason that God requires circumcision. I know us moms don't like the thought of our babies in pain but this is part of being obedient. Just had my 3yr old circ'd 2 days ago. Glad we did it. He is doing well but I'm going to wait a few extra days before trying to get his bandage off (Dr. says on 2nd day but I see others say 3rd day for bandage removal). Wish we could have circ'd this baby on the EIGHTH DAY (as required by the one who created the penis) but my little guy had a hernia called a hydrocele. My first boy was circ'd in the hospital but too early (3rd day?). Wish I had biblical knowledge back then but did not. I am a fully natural mama... we EC, nursed all my babes up to 2yrs old, traditional cooking WAHM. Don't let us attachment mamas tell you that circ is wrong, mean, etc. God never lies and, even if you don't believe now, you probably will someday. I used to be against Christianity but then I (finally) read the bible for myself. Hope you will all do the same someday soon! :-)

Lindsey - posted on 11/07/2013

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My son is not curcumsized. He has had no medical problems or issues from not having it done. The best thing to do is leave it alone. When the skin starts to retract on its own is when you teach them to pull it back and clean it. Society expects it to be done and not to many doctors are familiar with uncircumsized penises. The first thing they jump on is do it do it... Get second opinions before hacking at your poor child's parts.

Hollie - posted on 11/03/2013

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My son was just snipped thursday and other thanhim waking up from the anastectic everything was fine. He just turned 3 in August, his doc said that it was a medical necessaity bc he kept getting infections. He has had some pain here and there..mostly when we change the bandages and put meds on it. But he is back to his normal self other than when he has to pee, it burns. But he's getting better.

Natasha - posted on 06/12/2013

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our son was 8 weeks old when we got him done the main reason was that the men in our family are all done.

Thomas - posted on 10/06/2012

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Zach was a home birth, happy and healthy from birth we had no need for a circumcision as we were not jews; having said that I am circumcised and so is my oldest son Dakota. Zach's foreskin had always caused him problems. It would not pull easily over the head and he was not diligent in keeping it clean. So we asked him at age if he wanted to have it done. It was Dr. recommended, but I felt like if he wanted to be responsible to keep it clean, then he should have the choice to keep his foreskin. He decided to have it removed and so far he has no expressed regrets; he is now 16. As far as my own experience, i am 40 and sex lasts about 15-30 min. It is very hard for me to come under 10 min. and sometimes I lose desire; I think that is mostly my mental state and partner related, but who knows maybe I would cum quickly several times if I had not hacked my dick-skin cut off by a butcher with a scalpel.



Hope this helps, I didn't read the whole post only the first 6-7 sentences.



Skeptisage.

Susan - posted on 04/24/2012

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WE chose to circumcise our boys simply because I thought that was what you were "supposed" to do. That,...and I was young and UN informed. If I had to do it all over again. I would NOT!!

Saskia - posted on 09/30/2009

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I wouldn't get it done unless out of medical reasons.

If you want to wait until your son can choose himself then do it! After all he is your son too.

Tinyiko - posted on 09/28/2009

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thank you so much for everyone's input!i made my hubby read what you mothers think and we've decided to put it off as we don't want to traumatise him for life.he wil make that decision himself when he gets older.thanx once again!

Shardae - posted on 09/26/2009

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Leave it and let him make his own choice when hes old enough that way he cant blame you for doing it if he decides he doesnt want it done

Tamara - posted on 09/25/2009

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We chose not to have our son circumcised because it is not part of our religious beliefs and is medically unnecessary. It is a very personal choice for each family. Here are a couple links we used to make our decision: 1) Mayo Clinic http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/circumc... 2) Dr. Sears http://www.parenting.com/article/Pregnan... 3) Kidshealth http://kidshealth.org/parent/pregnancy_n... ... and then the one that ultimately convinced me against it...

Niki-Dee - posted on 09/25/2009

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omg, i would never do it at that age. My son is 3 and we did it after he was born so I think because he was so little it was fine. But if i didn't do it then i would never do it now. I don't think you should put him through that pain. tell your husband to imagine if he got his circumcision at his age what it would feel like. I say no way. That would be a horrible experience for a child I do not think it should be done. It was hard for me to see and keep clean when he was a little baby imagine that now. please don't do that .

Brittany - posted on 09/24/2009

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I had both my sons circumcised a few days after they were born, the earlier the better, still mad em upset to think about the pain I hated doing it but I dont like the risk of bacteria infections when boys are not circumcised. But if you pull his foreskin back and clean him well and as he gets older show him how to clean and try to explain why its so important to clean well in that area I see no reason to do it now. It will be horribly painful! It may be traumatic. I know with newborns you just keep gauze with vaseline on it so it doesnt stick to the womb and Im guessing tylenol for the pain but tylenol isnt going to take that type of pain away. Its something to really look into for a child his age, the pros and cons. In so many countries its not done the only problem is bacteria which means its not properly cleaned and that can be treated. I see no point in doing it now... and Im a mother who does circumcise as a newborn, so Im not against it!

Silke - posted on 09/24/2009

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i belief that circumcision is assault equal to the circumcision of girls. if your son chooses to be circumcised at an age where he can make a educated decision that is a different story but if you or your husband decide to mutilate your son it is assault. you know in your heart the right decision as you already written it down yourself. love and peace silke

Jennifer - posted on 09/24/2009

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Most likely we would of circumsized our son had we had the option at birth, but because we adopted him and he was preemie I relunctantly (due to pain stories) agreed with my husband not to have it done, when he was adopted at two 1/2. He is nearly 3 1/2 now and we have had no problems with him being uncircumsized. He is (obviously :-)) not "like" his Daddy, but so far he doesn't care. He does have one friend who is not circumsized, but many more who are... I guess overall I now believe not circumcising at a later age then infancy was a good choice and if he wants to make a differant one in the future then that will be up to him. There may be very good reasons for ya'll to go ahead with a circumcision, just wanted to share.

Kasey - posted on 09/24/2009

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There really is no reason to have it done. I would not do it now that he is older that is something that should have been done at birth. I think that it would be to pain full for him, and it is some thing that you would have to clean everyday and put cream on till it is healed. I would talk it over with the doctor first.

Shayna - posted on 09/22/2009

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We had our son circumcised when he was 2 days old still in the hospital. His father and I both agreed to it for personal reasons. He is now almost 3 years old and I would never dream of putting him through that willingly now at his age!!! I can understand if it medically had to be done but not just because you as parents want to. That is just my opinion. You just need to weigh out the pros and cons to this, and that should give you a clear answer to your question.

Crystal - posted on 09/22/2009

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my son was done when he was 2 months, but they didnt do it properly it healed wrong, so at 9 months he had to have it redone...only thing is by this age or older its a surgery...they have to be put under....it was fine, he did great and its done....not sure about a boy of that age though....would probably be hard to keep him from touching it and keeping it clean.....best to check with a doctor there....

Marcia - posted on 09/22/2009

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Hi,

We had our son circumcision for mainly religious reasons.

I'm from Canada and doctors here will not perform circumcision after two to three months of age, unless there are medically exigent circumstances...of course though when you are an adult you can choose to have it done to yourself if you would like.

I'm uncertain what the medical advice in South Africa is, but you might want to check with your pediatrician and perhaps a child psychologist regarding doing it at 3 1/2 years of age.

Megan - posted on 09/22/2009

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Quoting Krista:

You can't have a 3 1/2 year old circumsized. To my knowledge, if you miss the mark when they're born, you have to wait until they are around 8. The reason for this is because the table that they use for circumcision (an x-shape from what I am told) only holds a certain weight and height. Once you're past that you have to wait until it's safe enough to put your child under general anesthetic.


Yes you can!



 



 



I do not have a son so my advice may not matter.



But, why did you not circ him in the first place? Something you believed? I think putting your child through that now may make him afraid of going to the doctor, it may make him afraid or mistrust you. I certainly do not know that for a fact, but I can speak from experience with a 'traumatic event' at the doctor with my daughter! She's scared to death to even walk in the door at the hospital.



 



I think doing it now may hurt your son. Why does your husband want it now?! Why didn't he push for it THEN?!

Mandy - posted on 09/22/2009

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My son was just done for medical reasons. He is 2 1/2 years old. We did not sleep for 3 days, he didn't want anything touching him, had to stay awake beside him to make sure he didn't roll over. He was in pain for about 6 days. Tylenol every 4 hours and Motrin every 6 hours and still cried ALOT. He finally let me put a diaper on after 4 days stopped giving him pain meds after 6 days. It has been almost 2 months and he says it still hurts sometimes.

Krista - posted on 09/22/2009

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You can't have a 3 1/2 year old circumsized. To my knowledge, if you miss the mark when they're born, you have to wait until they are around 8. The reason for this is because the table that they use for circumcision (an x-shape from what I am told) only holds a certain weight and height. Once you're past that you have to wait until it's safe enough to put your child under general anesthetic.

Shirley - posted on 09/22/2009

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Circumsizing your son now will be painful ( I am Jewish and we do it when the baby is 8 days old) and the earlier you do it the better generally.But doing it now is better than him having to get it done later in life if he gets chronic infections ( as many men do get particulary when they are elderly) They will sedate him so he won't remember it, he will have pain but the Dr will write you a script for the pain, and the nurses will show you how to care for the wound, there is not much to it ( keep it as dry as possible, leave it for a few days before you change it and some places may even do the dressing change for you.) I have seen many circumcisions being done in hospitals ( I am a nurse) and it bleeds generally for one day, and the wound heals quite quickly. The only problems you may come across is getting your son to not touch it, and finding a surgeon that will do it. Many Dr's are against it so you may have to do a little researching. Once it is all over and your child has grown up he won't remember it. Don't let anti- circumcision people make you feel bad, it is yours and your husbands choice. It won't effect the penile function in the future, there are many medical benifits, and he will be more confident if he looks the same as his dad.

Adrianna - posted on 09/21/2009

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well doing it now at this age is a lot more tramatic to your child. if you are willing to do it still, it is an out patient surgery. you will have to go to the hospital, your child will have to be put to sleep, they will circumsize him and they will tell you everything after and how to take care of it and you will take him home... you will just have to think.... do you really wanna put your son threw that at this age... he is at that age that he will regress back and be afraid of things after this.

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