4.5 year old behavior in school issues

Lbelyavina - posted on 05/19/2017 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Hi Mommies, I really need your advice. I’ve been in tears almost daily since last year. Maybe some of you had a similar situation. So our daughter who is almost 4.5yr. She started having issues at school when she turned 3.5. Acting out, ex. not listening to teachers, sometimes hitting, tantrums, etc. We thought it was due to school and new teacher. We decided to pull her out and put in a new school. There were other reasons we didn’t like the school, not only because of the sudden behavior change. Anyways long story short, in new school she still continued this sort of behavior and still does, although its much better now, but still existent. School recommended to get her evaluated which we did, they found NOTHING. In fact, all her scores were above average almost top of the scales. Anyways, they still send a seit to help her out that comes for 1 hour a day, but i don’t think it’s helping at all. I personally think it’s either her personality or she just doesn’t like school setting. I want to point out, at home, and her 2 curriculum activities dance and gymnastics, she’s wonderful. She is patient, no tantrums, easily takes turns, no hitting, super sweet and shy girl. What can this be? We are so upset about this situation, because the things they say she does at school she doesn’t do at home at all, nor in any curriculum activities, nor on playground, nor among our friends and their kids whom she plays so nicely. What could this be? She’s starting pre K at the same center, we are starting to rethink weather she’s just not ready and needs more laid back environment? Maybe babysitter at home? I don’t even know what to think anymore. We are just sick and tired hearing almost daily from teachers about these little things…..

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Lbelyavina - posted on 05/30/2017

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Thanks Ana. I spoke to her numerous of times. She’s not very open about it. I ask her if she likes her teachers and friends and most of the times she says yes. I ask if someone huts her or makes her upset, she says no…. I don’t know what it is…. Maybe someone picks on her, but can kids this age pick on a certain child? I just don’t know what else to do. We are so upset about it because she’s such a sweet girl and listens so well everywhere but the school…..

Anamaclellan - posted on 05/22/2017

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I am sorry you are going through this. I personally don't have an issue with this situation, since the way my kids act at school is how they act at home, sometimes it's bad and sometimes its good. Maybe talk with your daughter, perhaps she doesn't really enjoy something at school, or someone is picking on her. I know my eldest gets picked on because she seems to have ADHD and can be a nusance in school. My second child is about to go into kindergarten and has anger issues and can't take a joke, he is easily angered or his feelings get hurt easily, I hope not, but forsee some issues with him in the future. I hope I have helped a little. If talking with her doesn't help, maybe talk to her doctor about your concerns. Good luck.

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