Autism

Brittny - posted on 12/11/2016 ( 2 moms have responded )

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My son is 21 months old. I have witnessed red flags for autism, but his ped and early interventionist have told me otherwise.
Here are my concerns
Does not say mom or dad regularly, but knows colors and shapes. Is constantly on the move and doesn't understand boundaries. He loves screens. Is not very affectionate (will kiss when asked, but sees it as part of routine and will immediately say bye bye) he will point for needs, but not as much as I'd like and seems to be getting frustrated with communication. He has also started saying "no" very anxiously when loud noises or lights come on. IE we took him to a hockey game and he just screamed no. There is also a lack of name recognition. I can not tell if it is selective hearing or if it is autism. He's a happy guy. Loves to play and interact and will bring me toys, show me his colorings, and will look me in the eyes. Extremely sharp memory.
I'm at a loss. I am also exhausted, and scared as all of his red flags point to autism.
Anyone in the same boat? I have already had him evaluated but no diagnosis can be made until age 2.

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Ev - posted on 12/12/2016

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{{Does not say mom or dad regularly, but knows colors and shapes. Is constantly on the move and doesn't understand boundaries. He loves screens. Is not very affectionate (will kiss when asked, but sees it as part of routine and will immediately say bye bye) he will point for needs, but not as much as I'd like and seems to be getting frustrated with communication. He has also started saying "no" very anxiously when loud noises or lights come on. IE we took him to a hockey game and he just screamed no. There is also a lack of name recognition. I can not tell if it is selective hearing or if it is autism. He's a happy guy. Loves to play and interact and will bring me toys, show me his colorings, and will look me in the eyes. Extremely sharp memory.}}
-----None of this sounds like red flags of Autism. Also it is normal for a child of this age as Sarah has so nicely stated here. A child is going to ignore their name being called at times, they are busy and on the go at this age, and as for boundaries---that is your job to set them and make sure they are consistent and in place. If you set no boudaries....he will run all over you. Taking him to a loud game of hockey did not help your situation either. I could understand him yelling no...it most likely scared him.

{I'm at a loss. I am also exhausted, and scared as all of his red flags point to autism. }
-----The reason behind being at a loss and so exhausted is this is all you are focusing on and for no real reasons. You are missing out on a lot of things. If the doc and the interventionist have said there is no signs of Autism then there is none.

Sarah - posted on 12/12/2016

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That really does not sound like autism and really no red flags towards autism either. Sounds pretty normal for a 21 month old. A hockey game may not be the best place for a 21 month old and most would react the same as he did or similar. For boundaries he is at the age he is learning the boundaries. You need to teach them and enforce them and be consistent or he is not going to know the boundary or if you are not consistent then he has no idea when that boundary exists or does not exist. Speech will come. Make sure you are talking to him a lot throughout the day, reading, and limiting tv or other screen times. Pointing to items is very normal. If he knows the word then have him say it before you get it. If he does not know the word then repeat it several times as you give it to him and do this each time he asks for it.

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