baby's ears pierced??

Brie - posted on 05/19/2010 ( 116 moms have responded )

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im think of getting my 14 month old daughter ears pierced!! but kinda nervous!! its not bad to get them pierced that young right?? what do u think??

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I was married to body piercer in the past and if I were to ever do it to my children I would go to a piercing studio. Look into the difference between getting a gun piercing and one done with a needle.
Condensed version you are jamming the actual earring through the lobe and they don't have a very sharp tip so there are chances of keloid scars, and with a piercing needle the tip is so sharp and it is so quick that you don't feel it near as bad.
Just look into it and talk or call a piercer. If he or she is decent and a clean, knowledgeable place they will explain what may be best for your child.
Just something to think about.....Google gun piercing vs needle piercing and read what comes up...Good luck.

K.C. - posted on 05/20/2010

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I pierce ears, and have pierced hundreds of kids and babies. Personally I think you are all crazy piercing your babies ears. At least wait til they have stopped teething so they don't rip them out whilst tugging on their ears during teething. My mum wants me to get my 3 yr olds ears pierced. Unfortunately, I believe in kids rights. I'm not going to put a blunt hunk of metal through my daughter's ears until SHE IS READY. Usually by the time girls hit year one thay ask anyway. It's up to you. You probably will anyway....

Alisha - posted on 08/13/2012

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I just got my little girl's ears pierced today. She is 16 months old. They did both ears at the same time. She didn't cry. She did start to pout until they handed her a sucker, then she was all better. It's only been about 6 hours but she has already forgot that it happened. She doesn't notice them there, and hasn't tried to touch them. My husband and I debated having this done for a long time. Of course he didn't want it, until he saw them. Now he thinks they are adorable. I didn't do it for self satisfaction or to make my daughter prettier. I did it for the lower chances of infection. Instead of waiting and trusting her to clean them properly by herself at an older age, I will be able to make sure they are clean and taken care of now without fights and fits.
I don't think it is something you are taking from her by not letting her choose for herself. I have had my ears pierced since I was a baby. I don't feel like anything was taken away from me. I now choose not to wear earrings the majority of the time and you can't even see the holes unless I have them in. Good luck in your decision. Either way will be fine I am sure.

Haley - posted on 05/21/2010

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I pierced ears for a long time working at Icing by Claire's. Don't do it to babies. Yes, you have the reasoning about letting them decide for themselves when they're old enough, and I completely agree with that. But ALSO, it's true that it is very difficult to properly sanitize the piercing guns, and babies are more prone to infections than adults. ALSO, what happens if your baby jerks right when they're shooting an earring in? They can miss and accidentally put a hole through the wrong part of the ear, or simply in the lobe but have it be uneven with the other one. I've seen it happen, and it's messy. Incredibly painful for baby and mommy. Give your daughter the chance to make her own choice. Yes, it might be scary to do it when she's older and remembers, but she'll also feel empowered! SHE will be the one to make the decision! Make it exciting for her, and if she really wants it, she'll do it. Don't force her into it. For her health sake, and both of your happiness.

Julie - posted on 05/24/2010

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I don't get people thinking babies look cute with earrings in .. really? Last I looked babies were cute anyway. I remember my cousins were pieced as infants and I remember them getting caught in a blanket and screaming bloody murder until her mom could release it.

My sister and I had ours done when we were old enough to chose. It hurt, but no biggie.

What if she doesn't WANT them? what if she doesn't WANT holes in her ear lobes? All b/c her parent(s) wanted to play dress up?

Not really a big deal in the grand scheme of things, but take away one decision that should be hers ...

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Cristy - posted on 09/29/2016

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We actually got our daughter her ears pierced at her 4-month checkup we took her the same day and she's doing great with them she's almost two now:) I think the earlier you get it done is probably better that way they forget they're there and they don't play with them.

Tara - posted on 06/17/2014

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Yes !!! you should definitely do it before they get to age 2 or 3 because they are more able to resist it. But be careful where you go, avoid places like claires and piercing pagoda, and opt for a cleaner/safer/ more professional place. I took my daughter to this place called Medical Ear Piercing Clinics to get her ears pierced and the nurse who did it was SO nice and informative and made me feel 10 times more comfortable about the whole thing :)

Shannon - posted on 01/15/2014

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I got both of my daughter's ears pierced before they left the hospital after birth. They are now 9 and 12 and both have multiple ear piercings. I see nothing wrong with it!

Paitience - posted on 08/23/2012

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I think it's a personal decision one you have to make yourself. I got my daughters ears done when she was 4 months just because at that age she didn't know where her ears where so she couldn't play with them. She only cried for a few secounds and then that was it. Some people said I was crazy that it was to young other said it was a good idea so it all comes down to you and what you decide if it was me I would go for it even though its hard to see them cry.

Paitience - posted on 08/23/2012

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I think it's a personal decision one you have to make yourself. I got my daughters ears done when she was 4 months just because at that age she didn't know where her ears where so she couldn't play with them. She only cried for a few secounds and then that was it. Some people said I was crazy that it was to young other said it was a good idea so it all comes down to you and what you decide if it was me I would go for it even though its hard to see them cry.

Ashley - posted on 08/21/2012

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Why don't you let the child decide if she wants holes in her body? To me you might as well be asking if it's too young for belly rings or nipple rings, That is something every person has right to decide for themselves.

Jennie - posted on 08/20/2012

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I think it looks cute on babies but my choice was to pierce my daughter's ears as a woo hoo your potty trained present when she was 3

Terri - posted on 08/04/2012

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My personal opinion is that inflicting unneccesary pain on an infant to satisfy YOUR desires is tantamount to child cruelty. Most mothers can't even stand to watch their babies get needed vaccinations. Additionally, babies can't say what they want. Infections are always a possibility. Allergies to metals can develop and cause nasty ear cysts. Come to think of it, I can't think of even one GOOD reason why you would.

Linda - posted on 07/31/2012

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I think that you take away from your child her CHOICE that should come later in her life. A choice, I might add, that can be a significant moment in her life and one that you will be able to share with her. I mean really, you are only doing it for YOU. How she will look for YOU. Save that decision for her when she gets older and you will be there with her, happily sharing the experience. To put holes in your child and giving them unnecessary pain is repugnant.

Amanda - posted on 07/27/2012

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I am 26 years old and I had my ears done at 6 months old. I cried for 5 minutes and had zero problems. They didn't get infected because I was too little to play with them... Older kids are more aware and often get infection from playing with them and their earrings fall out. My cousins got theirs as babies and so did my close girl friends- none of them feel like their lost their voice or their choice was taken away-

Kyla - posted on 05/24/2012

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I'm personally against the idea. I think any type of body alteration without a child's permission is wrong. I mean unless there was some sort of medical emergency I don't see the point. Whether it's ear piercing, tattooing, circumcision, anything that is unnecessary without permission I don't think should be done. That being said, if you do it I don't judge.

Shannon - posted on 05/23/2012

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I got my daughters ears pierced before she was 6 weeks old...the only thing i would be worried about is at that age she may play with them some...but if you wanna do it don't let anyone tell you not to...you are her mom not anyone else

Clare - posted on 05/23/2012

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I do find it ironic that a lot of people on here are saying "respect other people's choice". What about respect for your child's choice? By peircing their ears without their consent, you are taking away their choice. Its just wrong to mutilate a child for vanity. Respect you CHILD'S choice.

Marina - posted on 06/04/2010

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In my country you can get the baby's ears pierced in the hospital just about hours from birth, They ask you if you want to and charge you for the earrings that are usually made of gold or sterile titanium with special pointy ending that makes it easier. I asked a cousin who was premed,to do it ( here is really common that doctors does it, but you can make it in any jewelry too) when my daughter was 1 month, with same pointy earrings and she didn't notice at all. I think the only thing to care for is the size of the earrings and is better if they are small and round so they don't get stuck in her hair or clothes. I didn't bought them here, but these are exactly like my daughter's www.blujay.com/1/25/1441262_s1_i1.jpg
The little ball in the back is kinda hard to put on, but if well done it will never fall. I think if she is bigger she will noticed more, when I was about 4 i had an accident in the playground and suddenly I had one ear pierced and one not, so I didn't use earrings until I was 12 that was brave enough to get into the jewelry to get my ears again pierced.

Clare - posted on 06/03/2010

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I personally feel its wrong to mutilate a child for reasons of vanity. Apart from the risks of infection and trauma (and why would anyone want to willingly put their child at risk of anything which could be avoided); there is the issue of choice-as in, your child will never have the choice if you decide for them now. Please show some respect for your child, don't put them through a painful procedure for your own benefit -and it is for your benefit as the child doesn't care whether their ears are pierced. Let them decide for themselves when they are older.

Samantha - posted on 06/02/2010

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i think its better to wait and let her decide once shes old enough. i personally think its kinda mean to do it at such a young age. they're to little to understand why they are in so much pain. its not like the needles that are necassary. when they're older they can decide if they want the pain. my mom waited to let me decide and im glad she did. i finally got them when i was 7 but i took them out soon after cause they got in the way when i was playing and they hurt a lot. just my opinion.

Alisha - posted on 06/02/2010

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I didn't read other people's comments, but we did our daughter's 2 weeks ago. She is 17 months old. She cried for a few seconds then I gave her a lollipop. They only hurt her for a couple days and now she lets me clean them and turn them with no problem. We went back and forth trying to decide, and in the end, I'm glad we did it. She loves them!

Baeyah - posted on 06/01/2010

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i wanted to get my daughter's ears pierced when she was a week old but the doctor actually advised me against it because her ear lobes were too small. now my daughter is 14 months old and frankly, i have zero interest in getting her ears pierced at this age despite her grandmother having already bought for her a pair of earrings. i had my ears pierced when i was 5 so i believe i'll do the same for my daughter. when they're younger, their skin heals faster hence the holes will close if they dun wear earring or ear studs often enough.

Brandy - posted on 05/31/2010

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Its not bad to get them done early but i waited on my girls because i wanted it to be special like a coming of age sort of thing it was kinda of nice i think

Caitlin - posted on 05/30/2010

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I think it's nuts to say that they do it early just so your kid doesn't cry or fuss or make a scene later on. If they really want it done, they will sit still and get it done. So what if you go to the mall or piercer 4 or 5 times to try to get it done, I'm almost 100% sure that when your 7 or 9 year old daughter overcomes her fear to sit in that chair to get her ears pierced she will feel like a bigger girl, brave and proud of herself, and she'll be able to show them off to her friends. If it get infected, so what? Life lesson. You daughter learns that when they agree to do something (clean their ears, turn the studs) and they don't follow through, there are consequences.. There is a lot to be learned by waiting.



I don't judge parents who do it when the kid is young, but I wait, because i'm sure it will teach my daughter a lot more about responsibility, which is important.

Morgan - posted on 05/29/2010

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I don't agree with it at all there is really no reason to get it done. Too many people get it done because they are tired of people calling their little a girl a boy. It isn't sanitary unless it is done by a body piercer and not many do that because of the cost factor. Also your baby looks cute with or without the earrings. I mean really give me one good reason why a baby needs earrings and because they won't remember it isn't a good enough reason. I was 5 when I had mine done and to tell you the honest truth I don't remember it other than a little pinch it wasn't traumatizing whatsoever. I have two daughters and wouldn't dream of piercing their ears until they are old enough to decide that they want it and can take care of their piercings themselves. All that said in the end it is your choice and you are going to do it no matter what anyone says.

Deborah - posted on 05/29/2010

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Had my granddaughters done when she was about 6 months old..that way she wouldn't play with her ears. Had no problems and she has been wearing them ever since..They don't bother her.

Beth - posted on 05/28/2010

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I don't usually put out an opinion to outright disagree with others, I think everyone has to decide what is right for them, but I am astonished at how many people think this is ok!!! I'm about as laid back as they come as a parent, but if I had a daughter I would wait until she grows up and see if it's something she wants for herself. Why would I put upon her something I want for her that has to do with her body for her life. Sure they could just let them close up later if they want, but why put them thru it to begin with? Just to vicariously live thru making them look pretty? Seems silly to me to even consider such a thing, it would never occur to me if I had not read this.

Louise - posted on 05/27/2010

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We did our daughter's ears at 3.5 months old, it was the perfect age. She was over it within seconds of the girls piercing them and by the time she could grab at her ears they were well and truly healed.

I tossed up whether to do it early or wait until she was old enough to look after them herself but I vividly remember getting mine done at 9 and that was 20 years ago so I decided to do it early.

LaLasha - posted on 05/27/2010

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if you were going to do it you should have done it when she couldn't pick at her ears. Now it is going to hurt a lot more and she can mess with them. I wouldn't advise it until she is older and decides for her self if she wants them or not. It is permanent and it should be her choice not yours.

Brandy - posted on 05/27/2010

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My husband and I got both of our daughters ears pierced when they were 6 months old. We talked to our pediatrician and she told us the only thing she would wait on was for our babies to have their 6 month checkup where they get their 3rd booster shot for tetnus.
My oldest daughter is almost 3. She has a jewelry box full and will go pick out what she wants in and bring them to me to change them.
Our youngest daughter is 10 1/2 months and she lets me change hers too with no problem.
No infections ever!!!
Our son is 10 and begged us for months to let him get his done. He was 7. He cried. Got mad. Wouldnt take care of it. Wouldnt let me take care of it. It was awful. I waited until he fell asleep one night and took it out of his ear. He hasnt put it back in since. The hole is now closed up with a tiny scar where the hole was.

Davida - posted on 05/27/2010

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It's definatly a personal choice as is anything with children but I had my daughter's ears pierced at 6 months old and she has never had an issue bothering them. We never had infections or problems later on. I attribute most of that to my pediatrician. They actually performed the piercing at the office during a checkup visit for a $50.00 fee inlcuding the earrings. My daughter is now 2 1/2 and seems very happy with them. Good luck in whatever you choose!

Carmel - posted on 05/27/2010

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In PR where my first daughter was born, all girls pretty much had there ears pierced soon after birth. Everyone thought my daughter was a boy because she did'nt!!
Personally I don't like it. But then it is uncommon in my country and rarely would you see a pre teen with their ears pierced. Different strokes for different folks - whatever you feel comfortable with.

Adrienne - posted on 05/27/2010

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I have four daughters and I got their ears pierced before they turned 1. The youngest was 6 mths. My 8 mth old, I just got her ears pierced Mother's Day weekend @ about 7 mths old. It's best to do it while they are young due to the fact, that they wont mess with them. Just have her favorite sippie cup filled with favorite beverage, in her hands, ready to soothe her

Lindsey - posted on 05/27/2010

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Everyone has different opinions here, but I think you should wait for something like that until the child can choose for themselves.
I was told i could get my ears pierced at 16, i was such a wimp I didn't get it done til I was 24 but it was my own choice. also you can look after your piercings better if you are old enough to understand what it could mean if you don't and to do it yourself.
In the UK it's not good/fashionable to pierce a child's ears so young.
the most important thing is to make the decision which is best for your child.
x

Andrea - posted on 05/27/2010

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So i sat here reading both sides and I see where everyone is coming from, but the problem with waiting til they can choose is simply this infection. Most 7 year olds wont clean them properly. You can clean a babies and they wont even notice. I got my daughters done at 3 months. People have different opinions. I am going to have to agree with one post that says that all your 14 month old will know is that mommy is allowing this to hurt me. She is at the age where she understands pain.

Miranda - posted on 05/26/2010

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I got both my daughters ears pierced at 2 months....they cried but just gave them a bottle and they were great! We now have no problems with either of them. The problem with doing them older is they play with them.

Tieast - posted on 05/26/2010

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Hi Brie,

I got both my daughter's ears pierced at the age of 1 month old. My oldest daughter's ears was done by her doctor in his office. My second daughter's doctor use to do them, but stopped and suggested a place where he sends his patients to go and have them done. It was a shop in the mall, but he trusted them and it was fine. I agree with others here, the younger the better. Neither of my girls ever pulled at there earrings and never had any infections due to the piercings. The most important thing is that the doctors thought it was fine, even at that young age.

Kylee - posted on 05/26/2010

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This topic has come up a lot her on Circle of Mums. I don't think it is too young. We go our daughters ears pierced at 5 days old and never had a problem with them. We took her to a reputable piercer.

Heather - posted on 05/26/2010

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I got my daughters ears peirced at 3 months old. Her pediatrician actually does it at the office. I would ask your peds if they offer it, so you know she's in good hands.

Yannine - posted on 05/26/2010

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My daughter's ears were pierced at less than a week old, i'm hispanic (my daughter is racially mixed with islander) and in our culture this is the norm, as in my husband's culture. I had my ears pierced the day I came home from the hospital. I have never had any problems with mine, and my daughter loves them, she is 4 years old now, and tells me when she wants to change them, she has had hoops (small diamond hoops) and never had a problem tugging at them, so pierce them if you want to... god bless

Lucinda - posted on 05/26/2010

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If you want them done do them you will be the one taking care of the earrings so you know it will be done right some babies get pierced right after birth!

Sara Caryl - posted on 05/26/2010

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No way. I have many friends that did that to their babies and they were always infected or they would lose the earrings. Plus, they would scream when they were getting it done-why put your baby through that if you don't have too? I would wait until your daughter is old enough to take care of them herself and understand what it is all about.

Wendy - posted on 05/26/2010

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I had my daughter's ears pierced at 2 months. At that age they are not aware of their body parts and do not play and tug at them and they sit still. In fact my daughter slept through the whole process! Since your baby is a toddler now she will likely not sit still for the process and will play with her ears and may pull the earrings out and choke on them. I think you may be better off waiting until she is in kindergarten now to pierce her ears. Just my advice. I hope it helps.

Kimberly - posted on 05/26/2010

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I have decided to wait to pierce my daughters ears, she is 12 months now. I think when she is old enough to say she wants to get them done is when I will do it.

Lisa - posted on 05/26/2010

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My daughter got her ears pierced at 8 weeks old. At that age you know they won't mess with them and you can properly care for them.

Taria - posted on 05/26/2010

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No thats not too young! They start doin piercing at 3 mths. I couldnt wait to have my daughters ears pierced we went the exact day she turned 3 mths

Khadijah - posted on 05/26/2010

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I think ear piercing is a cultural thing and can also be a traditional thing. In my culture MOST children have their ears pierced before they say their first words. Some parents wait a little longer but for the most part it just always been done that way. My mother had my ears pierce when I was 4yrs old and my sisters ears were pierced when they were about 2 years old. I had my girls ears pierced when they were 7 months old and they NEVER tugged or pulled at their ears. I've even heard of people having their infants ears pierced when they were a month old. I thought that was too young but to each his own.



Some Moms choose to do and some Moms don't.....lets respect everyone's choice here.

Janice - posted on 05/26/2010

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I got my daughters ears pierced when she was 8 weeks old and she did perfectly fine, I think we were more upset thinking about her crying but she didn't. The only time she has messed with them is when she has gotten an ear infection. She is 3 now and loves to pick out new earrings. The reason I did them so young is I didn't with my older daughter and when she wanted to get them done it was a nightmare!

Julie - posted on 05/26/2010

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I did both my daughters ears while they were young. One 13 mo and one at a year. The 1 yr old left hers alone and had no issues. The 13 mo played with them for the first day and then left them alone. I didn't have any issues during the teething times but my daughters didn't play with their ears. i think it is up to each person. A friend had her 6 yr old want earrings but then when it came time. the store did one at a time so she has only 1 earring done...She freaked before the second. Make sure to call ahead to the store so two people are available to do both sides at the same time. I did and no issues.

Shannon - posted on 05/26/2010

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oh my gosh brie I got my daughters ears done at less than 6 weeks and you know what she did great...actually cried less than when she gets her immunizations so no I don't think that 14 months is too young at all...go for it and you know what follow your gut not what people on here say :) good luck and I hope to see pics :)

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