Boys and their "pee pee"

Kami - posted on 03/01/2011 ( 27 moms have responded )

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My son turned 2 in Oct, he has recently started playing with his pee pee (I think a little too much.) I know that he is a boy and he is curious about his body but every time I change him or give him a bath he grabs it and starts to try to rub it on things. And earlier while I was busy getting dressed he was what I thought just playing with his toys. I walked in nd he had his "pee pee" pulled out of his pull ups and pants and I hate to say this about a 2 year old but it was "hard" and he was trying to put it on his bike. When he saw me, the look on his face was a little embarrassed kinda. And now he tries to hide behind the couches to do that. Is this something I should be concerned about? Or is this normal at his age? It makes me think that maybe he has seen something very inappropriate.
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Dawn - posted on 03/06/2011

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A 2 year old wouldn't be "embarrassed" or hide unless you have already made him feel insecure about it. This behavior is completely normal for both girls and boys and like other posters have stated, the best response is to teach him when and where it is approriate to touch himself...remember this isn't "sexual" at this age...it's just exploration that feels good! Start thinking about this as an opportunity to teach him about his body. BTW: my son turned 2 last week and started exploring his penis well over a year ago....he would "hump" his stuffed animals and tables, even in public....he was too young to explain appropriateness, so I had to just smile and go ahead with a distraction in public!!! Since he was allowed to explore, his facination didn't last long and now he only touches it sometimes in the tub.

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This is "normal" behavior for boys. What your job as a parent it to teach him when it is okay to touch his penis 0 such as in the bathtub, or alone in his room, and when it is not okay, such as at the dining room table, and out in public.

Think about it from his perpective - it feels good to play with, it is entertaining, it is usually covered up under a diaper.

My son was a bout 1 years old andin the bath tub and I still remember the moment he looked down and saw his belly button was an "innie" and his penis was an "outie" and he spent the next month exploring how each of them was different.

Don't be suprised if he starts "rooting" against pillows on the couch or - my son likes this a lot - putting his blankie between his legs.

When in doubt - never hesitate to call the pediatrician! At the very least they can give you the "words" for how to speak to your son.

I did a quick google search and came up with these articles that you might find helpful
:http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/sex-edu...

http://www.drgreene.com/qa/masturbation-...

Alyssa - posted on 03/02/2011

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Like you said, he's a boy and he's curious. Boys can get erections very young and not necessarily because they are "excited". They don't know it's not appropriate to "play" when others are around and that it should be done in private. This is something he needs to be taught. I suggest telling him that if he wants to do that he needs to go to the bathroom/bedroom.

It is so important not to make a big deal out of it. (sorry but by the tone of your post, you sound a bit disgusted) His behaviour is completely normal...how you react will have a huge impact on him. Being told it is dirty or discusting can have implications for their sex life later and can also affect self esteem.

I'm not big on pet names either. It sends the message that it is so dirty it can't even be named. Call it what it is.

Sorry to be blunt :)

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My son is also two and will go and hide in the bathroom and take out his pee pee and when i see him do that i just ask do you have to go pee pee on the toilet and he says no and i say ok well lets go wash your hands because you were touching your diaper and i did this every time i found him doing that and it worked after a while he got tired of washing hands every time he took out his pee pee but you have to make sure that you arent telling him to wash his hand because he touched his pee pee because then he will think that his pee pee is dirty ts best to tell him that he was touching his dirty diaper or pull ups

Heather - posted on 03/08/2011

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My son is 6 and still does it. They most probably like the feeling of it. I know its disturbing to think that about "your baby Boy" I just tell my boy, if he doesnt leave it, it will get sore (as it did) he calmed down A BIT, it will calm down, just make sure he's not doing it too much, or he could end up with an infection. :/ x

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Gigi - posted on 04/16/2014

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How come all of you say it's not "sexual" at all. I study sexuality and if they are playing with their sexual organ to make it feel good, that's sexual. That's what men do more than women, but it's still sexual whether by themselves or with someone else. If someone is playing with their sexual organ to make it hard or feel good, then what would you call that?

Typical psychological thinking drives neuroscientists insane. They are jerking off-if that isn't sexual, then I don't know what is.

Sandy - posted on 04/13/2014

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Kami, It is awful that so many folks are so displeased with how God had made people. If it was not ok for a 2 year old boy to become sexually excited why do u suppose they do. Write in to the brouser Alfred C. Kinsey'ssexual experiments on children. Read all the page and u should learn that very young boys were observed in orgasms while he looked on. Also go to The Children of God and u will really learn something about boy babies sexuality. Write in: Nannies masturbating, fellating infant boys. This was done by many of David Bergs church members from his suggestion. He said if God hadn't intended that babies enjoy sex, he wouldn't have made the desire it til much later in life. Cant u see the kids are sexually frustrated? Why do u feel god wants them to be that way? Their sexual desires were in Gods Plan. Lets be happy with it. I suppose this letter will never be published. But if not, the website owners don't want the real truth told.Website owners Do u agree i got that right?

Julie - posted on 09/21/2013

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Boys have been caught playing with their penis on ultrasounds in the womb. It is totally natural. Just gently reinforce the idea that touching the penis is something to be done when he is alone, like in the bath just don't make it a shameful thing it's totally natural. It's not just a boy thing. My daughter is worse than my son. She is not to the age yet of self awareness and we have to keep reminding her. But they get the idea eventually to keep it to themselves.

Tessa - posted on 09/19/2013

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My grandson is 17 months old and he is constantly taking his diaper off to play with his penis. He then throws a tantrum when I put a diaper back on him. He constantly has his hand down his diaper if he can't get the diaper off. Today when I walked into the room where he was I asked him what he was doing and he shook his head no at me. ( he was completely naked) . I never went through this with my son so it's all new to me. Glad to hear it is normal.

JoRene - posted on 03/14/2011

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Boys are like men when they get older...can't seem to leave the damn thing alone and they alwyas want to explore with it..my grandson can actually rotate it..make it go around and around...men will be men and boys will be boys.....

Nicola - posted on 03/10/2011

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Completely normal my lo is 2 now and he went through it he is just exploring xx

Siobhan - posted on 03/09/2011

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My son played with his pee pee too and sometimes I used to think he was going to pull it off!! In my opinion, or what I tried to do, is not make too much of a fuss but just said put your pee pee away now, or careful dont pull too hard, and if in public would say pee pee in your nappy please and things like that. He is 4 now and it is fine. It is definitely just a phase and he is exploring.

√v^√v^√♥ - posted on 03/08/2011

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Look up Jo Koy's 'Ting Ting' comedy bit. He has a son who does the same thing, as all little boys do........ and it's hilarious!!!!!!! It will make you laugh your way through a few odd situations :)

Jen - posted on 03/08/2011

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totally normal! do him a favour, call it a penis. My son is now 5, and has just started to understand that its not goign anywhere. We talked about that if felt nice, and it was safe. But we stress that he has to keep his penis clean and only touch it in private. His 3 yr old sisters will jump up and run to her room, come back and tell me she wanted to touch her labia. So don't shame him. Everyone does it! even u

Heather - posted on 03/08/2011

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I feel so much better after reading this post and these remarks! My son has been grabbing himself since birth and I was pretty sure it was just something boys do, but his twin just isn't interested in his penis at all! To each his own. But sometimes it's just sooo excessive and EVERY time his penis is exposed - diaper changes, bath time, changing clothes...he's just on it! I hope it's a "phase". I think because his twin has never had an interest, it just makes me go "hum".
At least from reading all of the comments, makes me think it is. I don't make a deal of it at all, nor does my husband. We just go about changing his diaper and doing what needs to be done. Of course, he hasn't grabbed himself in public yet - something in which to forward!

Lexi - posted on 03/07/2011

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I know it can feel awkward but it's totally normal. If he's trying to hide it, it's most likely because he's realized that you don't approve. That said, if there are other things that make you feel something bad could have been done to him, follow your gut. Is he any any situations with anyone where something could have gone on?
My son started rubbing himself when he was around one and I swear if a breeze even blows while I've got the diaper off he gets an erection. It's not sexual at all when they're this young tho. Just a new sensation to explore. He is 19 months old and for now I just ignore it, finish his diaper change and go about the day. When he's old enough to understand I'll start teaching him that it's only ok to touch yourself in private. I babysit a five year old boy and have to ask him now and then if he needs to go in his room for some alone time. It's totally unconscious, he just randomly starts playing with it through his pants, almost like a bored habit.
As Jeff Foxworthy says "My son treats his penis like it's his own personal worry stone. When I meet the person who told him it will fall off if he lets go of it, I'm gonna kill em!

Clare - posted on 03/07/2011

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my 4 year old used to do it too, i used to tell him if he pulls hard enough his willy would drop of and id have to call him matilda hehe, but hes grown out of it now and has found other thing todo like putting fingers in his nose, so dont worry its a boy thing and perfectly normal

Christy - posted on 03/07/2011

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NORMAL! Explain to him that if he is going to touch it, he needs to do it in private. I know he may be too young now to understand, but it will sink in eventually. My son is 3 1/2 and doesn't do that (I was certain he would by now) BUT my daughter is 2 1/2 and humps things. I tell her that doing that should be done in private. :)

Krystyn - posted on 03/07/2011

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My son did that too. TONS of times ! i always thought he its his thing... i just thought it was a male thing. you see grown men do that sometimes :) hahaha just gives up something to look foreward too. My sons three and he hasnt touched his in almost six seven months ... its a phase.

Zoe - posted on 03/06/2011

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Hi
my son turned 2 in feb and he is forever playing with his ' pee pee'. i found it cringing and thought that maybe it wasnt normal but it is. they have just found something to play with and its not sexual in any way what so ever. every chance my son has got he has got he got hold of it is perfectly normal.
i found from personal experience is that to ignore it and they will grow out of it. or even make a joke of it you know like say ' if you keep playing with that it will drop off' otherwise i find that if you shout at them then maybe they will think that they are doing wrong which i dont think they arent at all just exploring there body. its only like them sticking there finger in there ear or up there nose as they have found a hole.
i hope that this has help

Lara - posted on 03/06/2011

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Totally normal, although you will need to explain, to him, that it's inappropriate, to do, in front of people (which, if he was in his room, then that's...well...gross, but...normal).

YOUR reaction is also totally normal. It grosses me out, too, but, it really IS just part of being a boy.

The older he gets, the more he should realize, that such things are personal, and shouldn't WANT others, to see it, or see him doing anything with it. Especially his Mommy, lol. Hope that helps. :)

Heather - posted on 03/06/2011

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i actually think this story is cute. he's a boy, it's his penis. sounds pretty normal to me. all my friends with little boys mention that point when they discover what they have, or what daddy has. we have a little ritual at changing time where after finishing we say "bye bye, penis" and tuck it in the diaper. that gives him a little closure and he can move onto other things. lol.

Marisa - posted on 03/04/2011

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It's normal and pretty short lived most of the time. And don't make a big deal about it.

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my 2 year old does the same thing. Changing his pull up, he reaches down. In the shower, he plays with it. Potty training, he plays with it. I've notice too sometimes he does seem "hard". It seems like its something new that he is learning. I just ask him to stop playing with it. I've never heard of it being a problem of a child that age finding it. I would have to agree just don't make it a big deal, that might make him upset

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