MamieHarding - posted on 08/22/2012 ( 10 moms have responded )
Hi. My son is 30 months old and he is only saying a few words. His hearing has been testing (has tubes due to recurrent ear infections) and his hearing is good. Took him to the ped, who stated that his is speech delayed with no signs of autism. Ped made referral to CDSA to evaluate for delay speech; however, they noted that my son has autism. The Ped doesn't agree with that assessment, so I will be getting a second opinion. My concern is they only observed my son for 30-45 minutes and they determined he has autism because he was not interested in the toys that brought for the assessment. Instead of placing the spoons and blocks back in the box as instructed, he sorted them (blocks by color). Instead of stacking one cup in the other, he sorted from smallest to largest; however, he received very low marks. He was sociable to the team, touching their face, trying to put on their shoes, smiling and dancing, he just wasn't interested in what they wanted him to do. He can turn on the computer, TV and change channels until he gets to his cartoons, plays on the drums with good rhythm, and he really enjoys being a child.
He makes eye contact, initates contact, very sociable, very loving, likes to cuddle and give hugs, plays with kids in daycare and plays alone (only child), loves to look at the pictures in books and babble as if he is reading. The Ped doesn't agree with the assessment and now I am at a loss of what to do. I have several friends who are in the school system, that work with preschool and special needs children, and through their experience, they feel that I need to interact with him more, through word association. He plays with his toys appropriately (as intended), and he also come up with new things to do with the toys. When he wants something, he pulls and pushes me to the location and say "that". He brings my pocketbook to me to get gum. If I don't produce, he looks in the pocketbook for himself to make sure that there is none in there. My son mimics me when there are spills, he grabs the broom and dustpan together and try to sweep the floor, he knows how to open and place his cup in the dishwasher and knows that the key goes to the door. He tries to drive the car, things that I consider normal.
There hasn't been much discipline by me or his father and we tend to let him have free reign over the house (I know, not good). I have always talked to him like an adult, so I feel that he understands me, but I haven't emphasized words or explained what items are (which I was informed that I needed to do). I always thought language was a given that didn't need that type of nurturing, so he is delayed in speech because of it. Any thoughts. I am really confused,and I don't want to be a naive parent.