Do you potty train toddler boys to stand?

Christina - posted on 05/24/2010 ( 11 moms have responded )

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Ok, I have 2 girls age 7 and 5, and a son who is 2. I've never potty-trained a boy. Am I supposed to start out by training him to sit on his potty to pee, or should I train him to stand like older boys do? I'm clueless!!

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Ali - posted on 08/24/2012

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Sherri, if you "have NEVER ever known any adult male that sits to pee" then come to my side of the earth to know it a lot. Even in your side it's not such strange and odd that you mentioned, since even in the current website there's some posts in which they say their sons are grown up but still they sit to pee, or as far as some say their husbands sit to pee either! Of course in my part of the world, no child or adult is in "a laughing stock in HS because they think it is only normal to sit to pee", and as for your part, I wrote in my first post and I write again that the solution is: 'sit at home and stand in the public'. I think this way there won't be any problem for any child or adult in any condition.

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I always start with sitting first, since it's usually easier to relax when sitting for children. Last month my son starting peeing standing up after trying to get him to do it for 3 months. We had always let him see his dad pee standing up if he happened to be following him, and also encouraged it but that's it. To potty train him I put him in underwear and encouraged him to choose the potty instead of going in his pants. Sometimes I let him go without underwear for a short time when I know he wont have to go for a bit. He started peeing in anything that could contain the pee, I then showed him a more appropriate way to do that and started taking him potty on his step stool in front of the toilet and telling him to go tee tee. One day he did it at 25 months and loved it so much he laughed and wanted to do it again and again. I had to explain the tee tee is all gone and he would have to wait to do it again. He loves the idea and does it as much as possible. Make sure he leans all the way against the potty so that the dribble goes in the toilet, my husband says he wont learn how to control the muscles that he uses to push the pee out with force and not make a dribble mess until he is older. So leaning forward is important at this age. When he doesn't have to pee really bad, he can dribble, so that's why we have to have his knees against the toilet and lean him forward just a bit. He has since learned in the couple of months he has been doing it to lean without me holding him and knows not to get it on his pants, although the first few times he did get it on his clothes. It was me learning too with having him lean forward, and then my husband telling me after the fact that he wouldn't control it correctly until he was older. I have taken care of one boy that couldn't pee sitting down, he didn't like the temperture difference on the seats, so he peed standing up. Although that made all the girls I was taking care of want to pee standing up when they happened to walk in on him one day, he was also 2. One of the 2 yr old girls actually did pee standing up for a few days in a row, until she finally gave up on the idea. You will do fine, just encourage him for both and let him decide what he wants to do first, and then you can go from there when he is ready.

Michelle - posted on 05/25/2010

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I would start out by sitting and then move to standing. I don't know your boys temperament, but he might be still kind of young to actively potty train. Don't be surprised if he takes longer and only day trains. I have four boys and the oldest (twins) didn't get fully trained until a month before turning 4 ( I started training when 2 1/2 yrs old), but they were day and night trained. My 'next' child was a few months past 3 when he was day and night trained. I don't know on my last yet. I probably won't start until he is 3 yrs. That doesn't mean I don't talk to them about it, show them the potty, and have them sit on it. I found either they are ready or not.

My advice is try and see what happens, if it doesn't don't get upset, try again at a different date. When my boys were ready they told me and that was that.

I have other friends with boys and they still wear night pull ups and have day time accidents and they are in kindergarten, first grade, and even some are in fifth grade. Your son could also be a lucky one and be ready now. Who knows. Don't get discouraged. Good luck.

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Sherri - posted on 08/23/2012

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LOL Aji your post makes me chuckle. I have NEVER ever known any adult male that sits to pee. Boys do learn to sit to pee first then they graduate to standing to pee. It just is the way it is. I would have picked on my husband mercilessly if I found out he sat to pee.



How in heck is it nasty to stand vs.sit? To me this makes zero sense. Not to mention I refuse to make my children a laughing stock in HS because they think it is only normal to sit to pee. They will be mortified when they realize they are meant to stand.

Monica - posted on 08/21/2012

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i taught him how to pee standing and now cant get him to sit on big or lttle or even seat on potty?

Amy - posted on 07/01/2010

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I started potty training my son when he was 18 months old. I never potty trained a boy, so I was new at it. I have an older daughter who basically potty trained overnight. My son took a little longer. He was completely potty trained and out of pull-ups in about a year. He is 3 1/2 now. In the past month, I started trying to get him to stand up. I wasnt sure how that was going to work being that I didnt have the right equipment to help show him. LOL His dad works a lot, so most of the time he doesnt get home until my son is in bed, so having him help was out of the question. The best I could do was use my finger to try and show him what to do. It only took a few times before he caught on. Now, he only pees standing & always puts the seat down because I told him I'd fall in if he forgot. He told me the one day that he forgot to put the seat down. He ran ahead of me when I was heading up & said he had to put it down so I didnt fall in. I think with standing, it's the same as potty training itself. It takes time & every little boy is different. My MIL still has my son using the small training potty & makes him sit down when he is there because, despite what I have told her, she thinks he is too young to stand up. I say try it after he has been completely potty trained for a few months & has the hang of that. Then try the standing up thing. Dont get discouraged it he doesnt catch on quickly. He will get it eventually. Good luck!

Sherri - posted on 05/26/2010

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I agree sitting down first and then graduate to standing.

@Michelle just because a child is not night trained does not mean a child is not potty trained. Becoming night trained depends on how deeply a child sleeps. Nothing to do with actually having the ability to go to the bathroom my oldest had wasn't night trained until the 2nd grade, my middle by 3 yrs and my youngest was night trained by the time he was 2 1/2. However, my older two were day trained a month before 3rd b-days and my youngest at 26mo's.

Heather - posted on 05/25/2010

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I have 2 older boys and I had to potty train them by my self so I thought them to sit and then when they got older I told them that they could sit or stand to go potty. I have a 16 month old that likes to go potty with everyone but he loves to sit on his little potty chair, I think that it is easier for them to learn by sitting down and then if he wants to be like most boys then he will learn to stand and Pee.But it is really up to him on how he wants to use the potty.

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