Do you scold your toddler for whining or crying?

Michelle - posted on 05/10/2010 ( 51 moms have responded )

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I normally comfort the cries and ignore the whines! If I ignore Jacob for a minute while he finishes his little fit he stops immediately if he realizes he isn't getting any an attention. After a while you know if its a real one or a fake on for attention!

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Heather - posted on 05/21/2010

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My daughter is 2-1/2, and since she has started back in daycare, she has started whining quite a bit and she has now learned how to cry to manipulate you. For the whining, I have started telling her, "I can't understand you when you whine. If you want something, you'll have to stop whining so I can understand what you are saying." I normally have to say this 2 or 3 times before she stops whining, but she does stop. And for the crying, I have just started telling her that tears are for when she is really scared or really upset or really hurt, and that if she cries all the time over little things, I won't know when something really important happens. Believe it or not, for us, this really works. She burst into tears the other day when she dropped a toy, and I just said her name and she stopped whining & crying immediately. I still comfort her when she is genuinely crying, but not if I believe she is manipulating us.

Lee - posted on 05/15/2010

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This is something that drives me insane but I feel really strong about it. I never have told my children off for crying or even whining. Both girls , one now 10 and the other turned 3 in February. I don't give into their demands just because they are whining or crying about it, I always offer a hug and see if they want to talk about it. I believe crying is part of learning and getting those bad feelings out. I will tell them and have since they could understand, that if they want to cry (normally over something I feel is ridiculous) to go their bed rooms because I don't want to hear it. I never actually yell at them for it or even tell them they are wrong. I grew up in a very strict house where we where taught we had to be tough to survive. If we cried for any thing that my parents didn't think warrant tears, so if there was no broken bones, bruises or blood then there was nothing to cry about, if we continued to cry we were told they would give us something to cry about. And as the years went by when we cried about silly things like being told No we were given a whack and told now we have something to cry about. This affected myself in ways they never could imagine. They were not abusive and never intentionally tried to hurt us, they loved us and we knew this, but we were taught to being seen emotional was weak if it was something that couldn't been see. 6 of us in our family all grew up with issues that needed us to develop as adults. i started hurting myself at the age 14, i would put my fist threw widows phone booths or just cut my self. i would burn myself and belt myself until i was swollen and bruised. I did it in spots that would be hidden, eventually my parents did find out and seeked help for me. In those years the physiatrist were not much help, and we didn't know to see a psychologist. I continued this into my early 20's, with no reason why i did it. I didn't want to kill myself just hurt. then one day I was watching a very emotional story on opera and i just wanted to cry, so i went to get a knife, as i did suddenly a "light clicked on some where" and i suddenly realised i was only going to cut so I could give myself permission to cry. That day I cried for the first time without hurting myself. I later went to my parents and said did you know it is okay to cry, they looked at me blankly and said yeah of cause, what are you talking about. And i then went on to explain why I believe i hurt myself for so many years. As a teenager we experience many emotional issues we deal with that as adults will see as a waste of time and just senseless, and we will hurt. as a young child it really does hurt your feelings being told no. It is the end of the world because your mum said no to you having a glass of Coke. Your mum knows it is no big deal, but a 2 year old will cry over this, so all I am saying is let them cry, it probably does mean something to them and they do feel hurt. I am not saying give in, I am not saying you have to listen to it. Depending on the age, just put them in their room and say when you have finished you can come out, I just don't want to hear it. And as they get older, let them tell you what is happening in their lives try to listen and let them cry even is you think is is just nothing. We don't learn without experience, crying is very important in every aspect of being a whole person starting with the annoying whining and crying from an infant, And even boys should be allowed to cry, Just don't make it an issue for your self. Very sorry if i have bored you, just wanted to share as I have seen my story in others I have cancelled ( as i am now a youth worker) well I was until I had my 3 years old. Hope I have helped even just a little, the whole time I have been typing this my 3 year old has been sitting here art my feet trying to help type and yelling at me she wants potatoes, ( which i have already said no to) I am here just to try to get some sanity to deal with this tantrumm that is about to start. Good Luck

Elaine - posted on 05/21/2010

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My son is 4, he'll be 5 in June and he still whines when he doesn't get his way. Ignoring him only makes it worse!!! So I simply tell him to sit on his bed, collect himself and when he is ready to speak in his regular voice, I will listen. Until then, I have nothing to say to him and will not listen to him. It's really nerve-wracking since you know they know better and with my son, it's all a "who is going to give in first" game. Boy, is he stubborn!!!

Natalie - posted on 05/21/2010

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I comfort cries that are real. If one of the kids is hurt or truly sad then yes, I do give them comfort, but I decided long before I had children that I was not raising brats and giving attention to crying for no reason or whining will only create brats. I tell my kids (2 1/2 and 4) when you are calm we can talk. I also help them find the words like saying "are you sad because you couldn't....(go outside, play with that toy, having a cookie, ect)?" They usually can say yes or no and then you can say "Ok, I'm sorry your sad, but crying or whining is not going to get you.....whatever it is". My husband says "Where does crying get you in this house?" and both kids will say "No where."

It has worked for us. Neither of our kids are difficult to deal with and we ofte get complements about how well behaved they are. In fact, we have a set of twins who babysit for us that actually fight over who's turn it is to get to come play with our kids. Even if they are doing the sitting probono.

Denise - posted on 05/19/2010

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Step gently over them, tell them "you are fine and everything is okay" and walk away. You will be surprised how quickly that works. A child wants your attention. They don't care if it is positive or negative. If you give negative attention, they will just want more. You have to break the cycle. Just step quietly over them while saying you are okay and everything is fine. Then quietly walk away and do something else. They will almost immediately get up or stop. If you give the attention they will escalate the behavior and it will get more and more intense. Then it will just be out of control. Step over the child...or step away from the child. Less is more. Especially where words are concerned.

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Candice - posted on 11/16/2012

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I need help!!, I am 21 years old and have a 18 month old son. He is always crying for everything, I always am checking his bum, checking to see if he is hungry, thirsty, teething, fever, or just wants my attention! Nothing works, he whines when he wants anything, or does anything! I try to redirect him and show him to ask, not to whine. Also he is always chasing our cat and pulling her tail and trying to sit on her. Mind you he trys cuddling her but we show him to be gentle and nothing changes, we have had to put him on time outs for just running at her and kicking her. Im losing my mind and I dont know what to do with him! Im 5 months pregnant and due in april!! I'm worried he will treat the newborn the same way!! what do i do???

Melonie Hoak - posted on 11/08/2012

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I don't know what to do with this either!! My daughter is almost 5 & she whines over everything, but only for her Dad & I...She whines about almost everything we ask her to do or pick up, she whines about us not giving her something she wants, she whines about being told she cannot do something, & the most frustrating one is that she whines if one of us is not playing with her every second she is home!! I have no idea what to do!! It is so frustrating & I just want to break down & scream every time she does it because it is so fake sounding & so annoying!! HELP please!!

Rachael - posted on 10/27/2012

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I have a 19 month old and when he whines or cries he's letting me know that he needs something like a drink when he's thirsty or needs help with figuring out a toy when he doesn't understand how it works. Don't get me wrong, there are times where I think he is whining but it's only because I am paying attention to something else and missed his cues on what he is trying to convey. When mom's and dad's feel that their child is whining, it's important for each parent to schedule in some personal time so that they are not feeling so overwhelmed with all of the responsibilities that come with parenting. If you can give yourself some personal time then you'll be a parent that will be eager to watch and catch the cues that can help you with your child the next time he needs help. A cry is a baby's only way to communicate their needs and desires with you.



Hope this info helps you with your baby!

Charlene - posted on 10/22/2012

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I don't know if I would necessarily call it scolding but I definitely don't reward it or make her believe that it is okay to constantly cry or whine. She is extra whiny after she gets in from daycare. I am usually busy with preparing dinner, getting ready for tomorrow etc. if it is a light cry or whine, I ignore it but if it turns into a full blown, screaming cry or tantrum because I won't pick her up while I'm cooking or ironing, then I will take her to her bed and tell her that she can come out when she stops crying. This really helps a lot...A LOT! After taking her to her room 2 or 3 times per evening, she gets it and stops with the whining and crying. She knows that after dinner, we always play for a little while before bath time, then we play again at bath time, and then I read her a few bedtime stories. This has been our nightly routine so she knows that she will get her time with mommy after mommy does her nightly chores. I can't wait until this stage passes but this helps a lot but only with persistence.

Sushmitha - posted on 05/03/2012

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even my son aged 2 1/2 months is very stubborn. if he wants something he wants it by any cost, i have to scream at him

Sam - posted on 04/30/2012

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Honestly...I would what you see fit. I don't believe in the whole 'don't scold your baby or he/she will be emotionally scarred for life!' I think that you should not let a child get away with murder and the sooner boundaries are set the better they are behaved later on. My parents weren't around so I took care of my 7 little sisters, plus I have 2 little ones of my own! All very well behaved and respectful little girls! You will be fine! Good Luck!!

User - posted on 04/26/2012

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my son is 13 months old hes not walking yet and i think he gets frusterated because he cant walk yet he sees his 3 1/2 year old brother walking. but i just get frusterated because when i try and do housework or something he starts crying and wants to be held, or when im on the phone they both yell and scream at me and i just sometimes want to pull my hair out or go in a corner and cry i dont get any me time anymore and im hoping to get a part time job so i can have a break but my luck hasnt been that great lately and im hoping if i get a job my son wont be so clinigy i hope

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I recommend never scolding a child of any age for crying nor would I try to get him to stop crying. Your child is crying for an emotional reason, and we as parents need to honor and allow his feelings. It is important to allow your child to experience and express his feelings until he has worked it through. This means simply being with your child as he cries, which may include holding him.

I suggest you also be aware of the bigger picture to see if you have an idea of what he is experiencing emotionally that is prompting him to cry. This will guide you to know how to respond and to make any needed changes in your own behavior.

If I can help you further, please let me know.

Connie
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Heather - posted on 05/26/2010

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Jessie, have you tried telling her that the other girls need your help because they are little & can't do it themselves, but she can because she is a "big girl" and such a big helper to Mommy. We try to put a lot of emphasis about how our daughter is "such a big helper" and praise her for doing things on her own or doing things to help (such as cleaning up a mess, bringing us what she wants to wear or dressing herself, etc.). It seems to really make her proud to be our helper and to do things for herself. And sometimes when she is fighting us on something, we will ask her to show us how a big girl behaves or what a big girl she is, and she will start to cooperate with us. That might work for you, especially if you emphasize how special it is that she can do it for herself without your help and how the little ones can't. A teacher also suggested to my friend to withdraw a treat if you will...like saying, "We were going to have a snack before we left but now we don't have time." or "It took so much longer to get ready that now we can't play on the playground/at the fountain/etc." or "We were going to read a book, but now we don't have time. If we can all get ready faster next time, we'll have time to read a book." or whatever. Good luck!

Rebecca - posted on 05/23/2010

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My son is 15 months old and does cry or whine sometimes. If he does this I try to calm him down by talking to him calmly to find out what he wants. If he is whining for no reason I just ignore him and he soon gets bored. After he stops whining he gets my attention back and a cuddle..has worked so far.

Jennifer - posted on 05/23/2010

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I am presently going through the threes with tons of whining and crying for things that I don't perceive as imporant, but my daughter perceives as life altering.Yesterday I didn't have the right hairband and well she cried for a good 10 solid minutes at full volume. I do the only thing I can... I remove her from the situation until she can get a hold of herself. It often happens at or around dinner time and just before bed. Once she is removed from the normal population and calms down then I can usual talk to her give her a hug and explain the situation... your hair band is at daycare etc. after this incident played out around 5 times. I put her to bed and drink.... (just kidding.. really just kidding)

Monique - posted on 05/22/2010

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I'm not sure scold is the right word but i do let him know that whining annoys grandma. I demonstrate it and tell him just to ask.

Michelle - posted on 05/21/2010

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Well it depends on what the cries are for. If they are crying just because they aren't getting their way or are just mad then they can take that to their room. As for whining I stop it dead in its tracks. I tell them to stop and then tell them "when you are ready to TALK to me then I'll listen, but until then you can go somewhere else with all that whining" that usually changes the tone real quick.

Jessie - posted on 05/21/2010

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My 4 year old has the whining voise ( mommy I can't ) All the time and I feel this is because she is the oldest of 3 girls. When I get this is when I am helping one of the other girls and she wants me to do for her. Like put on her socks and shoes. I feel that she can do this and I need to help the 22 month ole and the 4 month old. We have been late to things because she refused to put on her own shoes. I remember age 3 when she did not want me to do anything for her, now with the new little one she is missing the attendtion. I try and make time for her when the others are naping and she stays up 1/2 hour later and that is are time. This seems to help. But the whining is frustrating when you are trying to get everyone out the door to school on time....

Stephanie - posted on 05/21/2010

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I tell my 2.5 year old that Mommy "can't hear whining, please use your talking voice." She does, and I respond to what she needs or is asking. As for crying, I always offer comfort when she's crying, (unless she's in time out or something, and then I wait until afterward) but I do want her to TELL me why she was upset, because we can't "fix" it if I don't know why she got so upset in the first place.

Glenda - posted on 05/21/2010

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This works for me as well and I thank you so very much for your post it goes right to the root of the issue. I am a Grandma raising my daughters child, she is 2 I have had her sense 6mo. I can take my grandchild any where and am complamented on how well she behaives. wish my spelling was as good, I ignor attention getting behaivor with fake crieing and small fits but soon as the happy girl comes back I'm "there's the happy girl, give muches an hugs"
I don't want her to feel the bedroom or bed is punishment so where ever she is I don't say go else where just let her know that poutting, whining ect.. gets no attenshion at all but boy howdy do we get lots of nuggles when it's over

Lisa - posted on 05/21/2010

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I do the same thing, comfort cries and ignore whines, unless the cries are a part of a temper tantrum, which always seems to happen about the same time the word "no" comes from her father or I. If it's a temper tantrum that goes along with crying, then I ignore it too. If she's hurt, sick, scared, or some other reason, then comfort all the way :)

Lynette - posted on 05/21/2010

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I have 2 toddlers that are 17 months apart and if they get ridiculous I will put them in there rooms until they calm down. Then talk to them, I do the same for tantrums... My youngest is almost 2 really smart and can open the doors so I don't worry about shutting the noise out.

April - posted on 05/20/2010

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I rarely admonish Abraham when it is a genuine cry because I understand that at this age, he experiences separation anxieties when I walk away. I will reassure and comfort him and explain to him that mama has other things to attend to. There were a few times when I had a meltdown and scolded him but the scolding only made him terrified and cry louder and I always, always feel really lousy afterwards.

Christine - posted on 05/20/2010

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It depends.. if my daughter is crying because she's hurt, or sad.. of course I comfort her (sad over a person or situation.. not over not getting a toy etc.)

But if she's crying over not getting her way, or over something petty, a toy in the store, candy.. or what not.. then yes, I do scold her and put her in time out.. because I don't want to encouarge that behavior by her getting a positive response from me on it.. ie: hugging, holding, reassuring, or giving in. I want her to learn that it's not okay to cry when you don't get your own way, and I want her to learn to deal with those feelings in a positive way.. and so after time out.. I tell her.. did crying fix your problem? She always says no.. and then we think of solutions.. if it's a toy or something... we think of a way she can earn it over time.. or talk about making an early Santa List.. etc.. but I try to show her that crying isn't a way to get what you want. I dont want a spoiled toddler. She won't be able to deal with a lot of disappointments (not getting your ways) in life.. and that happens a lot. Being a creative solution maker is a more positive thing to teach her.. once she has been disciplined by time out.

As for whining.. uh.. we don't deal with that. There is no appropriate whine. If she whines, she gets time out until she can talk like a human.
If she's whiney because she's tired.. we tell her.. you're whining.. go on to sleep and we put her down.

But whining isn't part of this household.

In life.. whining and crying don't take anyone very far, and it doesn't teach life skills that will be assets to our kids.

Our daughter compared to other toddlers, she's well balanced, funny, has learned to control her emotions, and everyone comments on what a good kid she is. She has the things that bother her or upset her.. but she understands how to talk about them and how to think of solutions. She is 3 1/2.. we've been doing this pretty much since she could understand how to properly express herself.. probably between 18 months and 2 years is when we really pushed for this.

It's worked for us.

Kristen - posted on 05/20/2010

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TBH I usually try to figure out why he might be whining i.e. is there a good reason for it? If not, then sometimes I will tell him that it is annoying and may even tell him I am going to ignore him. Just depends. As for the word scold, the word you are referring to (Jen Howley) is "scald" that means to burn (with boiling hot water usually) which is different to the word "scold". I was good at spelling and English in school so I like to play with words and thought you might be interested in the differences. :)
- Plus, I didn't notice if anyone else gave you this info.

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My oldest daughter is almost 3. We just had our second child (now 5 months) and Jordyn often whines to get more attention. I think she hears the baby cry and see that we respond immediately, so why should that tactic not work for her right?

I physically get down to Jordyn's level,eye level with her, and ask her to speak clearly so that I can understand what she is asking. If she continues to whine I calmly explain that she needs to talk to me. I can not help her if i do not know what she wants. If her request is outlandish I explain why she can not have it. I also try to give her 2 options ( only 2) the "big girl option and the baby option..that way she can choose. And I act accordingly. Big girl option, ( the one I secretly want her to choose) gets lots of rewards with positive reinforcements. hugs kisses verbal praise. The other option is accommodated, but not nearly as exciting for her because babies can not do fun things and help with things.

However, I feel there is a huge difference between crying and throwing a tantrum. Crying is comforted in our house and we take a deep breath to calm down. Once calmed down, we can talk about what is upsetting. Sometimes, a glass of magic water is needed. This is a a glass of water with ice cubes, and some " mommy magic added". Seriously, a child can not cry and drink at the same time... so it breaks the sobs and we can chat. Now if there is a tantrum...kicking screaming, flailing movie-style. Jordyn does not get much response, I tell her she can scream if she wants but mommy has to go ...( insert something that I was doing such as finish my picture, finish cooking, dishes what ever we were doing prior to tantrum) I leave the room for a few MOMENTS, and she will come to where I am ( usually seconds after I depart) and then again get down on her level and calmly explain why she can not have/do what she so desperately thinks the she needs. Again, I always offer an alternative,For example, No she can not stand at the stove and cook because it is dangerous, but I would really like her help in mixing ingredients at the table.

Another mom also mentioned labeling the emotion for the child. I also agree with this. Children of young ages do not know what they are feeling, when it is labeled for them they can better communicate..Jordyn is open about telling me "me mad at you momma" I never reprimand her for emotions, she is allowed to feel these ways and I am grateful that she can tell me and I can better understand her. My heart melts when she tells me I make her happy, or she loves me etc..

My last thought on the topic is this.. every child is different. Jordyn responds well to our tactics because she is very independent.. she needs to think she is doing something all by herself. The overheard line is my house is " me do it. Kay? Me do it mommy". Not every child is going to respond well to this. Some children need more nurturing and guidance, some need less.I am sure my younger daughter will be the exact opposite! Mix and match, listen to you child and find out what works for them, what they understand the best.

Fiona - posted on 05/19/2010

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Everyone has a way of discipline when it comes to ther children I could go on and on all day about if its a attention cry or what ever but u know what listen to the cry if its a dont leave me cry or a i want yr attention cry etc act how u c fit its yr child at the end of the day u need to do whats best for u

Desiree - posted on 05/16/2010

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since you are writing in a toddler community i would assume your child is trying to get attention. If it is for a legitimate reason (hit their head, hungry, thirsty, need nap) then tend to it. If the child is just trying to get your attention negatively do not reinforce by yelling at them or disciplining in any way. ignore them but still pay attention to keep safety. you know your child and they have to be doing something that causes them to need to whine or cry and you know the difference. remember to always givce your child positive attnetion (hugs, kisses pats on the back, i love you's, etcc) through out the day and they won't seek whining to get what they want. best of luck

Ashley - posted on 05/16/2010

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I tell my 2 year old to go to his room and when he has calmed down he can come out and we will figure out how to resolve the issue

Kira - posted on 05/15/2010

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I have 3 kids.. ages 8, 3, and 18 months. I am always getting compliments on how well behaved they are. When one of them is whiny, or just throwing fit for no reason, I try and fix the problem for them... Sometimes, as you know, THAT JUST ISN'T ENOUGH!! If the fits/whining/crying persists, then I remove them from the situation..."No fits in my kitchen".... "No yelling in my bedroom"... Usually after a few times of separating the kids from me; they start to calm down. When this happenes I try and do an activity that they can participate in; a puzzle, or cooking a snack... Ultimately, I think the kids just want our attention! Showing them how to get it in a good way is important :)

Peggy - posted on 05/15/2010

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No I attend to the comlpaint. If that does not help I ignore him. If time allows we destruct him with some food or activities.

Jillian - posted on 05/14/2010

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It depends on the situation. If my four year old daughter whines when she is asking for something I remind her to use her nice boice. If my two year old is crying, I tell her "I can't understand you, when you're done crying I will answer your question."

My general rule is they don't have to be happy all the time. But they do have to be polite and respectful.

Elizabeth - posted on 05/14/2010

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I simply tell my kids that if they want me to attend to their needs, they have to speak properly or they go else where and over time, they have come to understand that as the rules even though I get to remind them again and again because they are kids and will always be until when fylly grown.

Laura - posted on 05/13/2010

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If it is unnecessary.... yes... If she is hurt or tired, no. But if she wants something and I wont give it to her or she is whining for no reason, she gets 2 warnings then she goes to her room to "work it out"

Kristen - posted on 05/13/2010

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It depends. Sometimes my daughter whines when she teething, so if that's the reason I'll comfort her. If she's whining because she's mad at me for taking something away or because she has to sit in her carseat/highchair, I explain to her the reason why and if she still whines, I ignore it and she stops.

Katie - posted on 05/13/2010

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depends on the situation - if they are hurt or sick i comfrort them the best i can but if its for no reason then they have to go to their room till they can calm down. Try to combat the whining and crying by putting them on a schedual and making sure they are well rested and feed to see if that helps

Amy - posted on 05/13/2010

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If my son is whining constantly just to whine, then yes. I will explain to him that whining doesn't have any purpose and he shouldn't do it.

Veronica - posted on 05/12/2010

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I have a 2 and 3 year old and i try several things... sometimes i tell her that my ears can't hear whining but they do hear when she tells me what the problem is.... I also send her to her room for CONSTANT whining.... sometimes just telling her to go to her room so she can let her body Relax.. and to come out when SHE is ready works :) I also do many variations of "speaking for them" if i know what they want I say what they WANT to say in WORDS! I think it has realllllly helped my girls express what they want and or are feeling rather than pitch a fit!

works for me but ???? really just depends! do what YOU feel for that specific situation!

Veronica

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i think helping to label your child's emotions is key here. they don't know what they are feeling and need to be told the words to describe their emotions. "you are feeling sad, how about a hug", "you are frustrated, do you want help?" then you can encourage your child to use words instead of crying or whining. sometimes everyone needs a good cry though. if you find that might be the case taking a few minutes just to comfort might be the quickest solution and a good path to discussion: "why are you crying? are you hungry? are you hurt? are you tired?" personally, i don't like to ostracize my children for expressing themselves. i believe this can lead to stifled emotions later in life which can lead to any number of problems with health and wellness. i also don't use the bed as punishment. my children like going to their beds. it is a safe place for them and we never have arguments about bedtime! hope this is helpful.

Ashley - posted on 05/11/2010

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my son will be 3 and he pitches a fit that is just unbeiliable... im trying to teach him he cant have everything he wants...when he throws a fit like that i usually put him in the bed and tell him to calm down and when he is calm and ready to act like a big boy he can come out usually it works...after about 5 minutes he calms down

Diane - posted on 05/11/2010

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My son is 2 and when he wines becasue he's not getting his way i just send him to his room and tell him to come out when he's done..always works for me =]

Kimberly - posted on 05/11/2010

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What I usually do is try to help my 2yo daughter calm down and I remind her to use her words instead. When she is whining, I usually tell her that I can't understand what she is trying to say and she needs to slow down and stop, then use calm words so I can help her. It works most of the time, the only exception seems to be if she is overly tired.

Cynthia - posted on 05/10/2010

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My little one is 14 1/2 months and is jsut starting the whining big time. Although it's very frustrating to listen to I wouldn't scold her. At this age I tell her not to cry or whine but not a whole lot of understanding on her half. As she gets older my tone of voice will change with her. Children don't know how to express their feelings the way we do so they do what they know best. It's up to us to try and get through the crying or whining and see what the real problem or want is. And you're also correct I think in finding out if it's just for attention by ignoring for a little bit first. Only you know your child best.

September - posted on 05/10/2010

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No way! I address my son's emotions regardless of how he chooses to communicate them.

Tracy - posted on 05/10/2010

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if my boy cries for no reason then yes I tell him to stop and that he shouldn't be crying. If he whines then I just let him be and walk away then he cries for me and then he comes to get a hug and then he calms down. Sometimes it is good for them to cry and figure it out on thier own.

Jen - posted on 05/10/2010

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thanks for tht. well to the question no i dont yell i jst tell my son no n will pick him up n remove him from the situation if he has a fit i just lie him on the floor let him cry it out wen his calmed down i ask for a sorry which to him is a kiss n cuddle as his only 18 months old

Jen - posted on 05/10/2010

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wht does scold mean. over where im frm it means burn i dont think u mean tht tho. do u mean how we control our toddlers wen they am having a meltdown

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