Done having kids, want my husband to get Vascotmoy at 22

Stefie - posted on 12/19/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )

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I want to have my husband get fixed so we can stop at 2 kids (I am due in May). I don't know if we can get it done, if our insurance will cover it, or if it has side effects. We decided that we want him to get it done because of the recovery associated with tubes getting tied. I know that it is reversible. But I would love some debate about it.

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Anita - posted on 01/04/2010

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I say go for it. I know he his very young but like you said it IS reversible. That way you don't have to worry about buying condoms or like you said getting your tubes tied or any other form of contraception.
You are doing the responsible thing by thinking of contraception.

Lora - posted on 01/03/2010

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My husband and I are in a similar situation. We have spend a ton of time talking about how many children we want and both agree that 1 is enough. We are 25. We dont have insurance. This procedure is expensive and finding a Dr that is willing to do it is not easy at this age. For now, I am on the Implanon. Its a good substitute until we can get the surgery done. I would suggest that you be really sure that you are done having children, and then act. Its your body and your lives that are going to be affected by another child. Dont let anyone make up your minds for you.

Brandy - posted on 01/03/2010

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thats awful young and your the one that doesn't want anymore kids for sure. so maybe you need to take the steps. or try mirena.

Rita - posted on 01/01/2010

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22, is an extremely young age to consider such a procedure. As the others have offered you, there are various other options you & your husband can consider. If I were you, you should consider discussing all options available to you with your OB/Gyn (being that you're due in May). My Ob/Gyn discussed these options with me & my husband as we approached our due date for delivery of our 1st born. Good luck to you in your decisions.

Sheri - posted on 12/31/2009

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have you thought about an IUC or IUD.. It is put in a female and it birth control for five years. I had it for less then a year and I only had like 4 periods within the year.

Roxanne - posted on 12/31/2009

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I think it may sound like a good idea now but you both seem pretty young and everybody changes there mind first of all i would have your baby and deal with some form of contraception that is more short term that a vesectomy but longer term than a condom or pill something like the implant in your arm or something. I dont doubt you have given it alot of thought but it seems a shame to completely get rid of your options you never know what life holds or how your going to feel!!
Just make sure its what you both want because as we all know men can sometimes agree with things just for the sake of it or to keep us woman happy and make sure you are sure you are not going to be broody for another baby because a choice like this although a good choice at the time may cause heart ache.
Hope it all goes well x

Melissa - posted on 12/23/2009

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i think 22 is really young to decide that for sure. after i had my son, i had the mirena put in (mirena.com). it's good for 5 years, and can be taken out if we decide to have another child before then. it's expensive, but my insurance covered it 100%. there are few side effects, and it will give you 5 years to be sure you don't want another one. i think if you decide at the end of 5 years, THEN he can get the vasectomy.

Christy - posted on 12/19/2009

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my fiance and i are going through the same thing, though mine is 24 (but what difference does 2 years make?). anyways, we actually only want one child. we discussed this before we ever had her and are very set in this game plan. i am currently on the Mirena IUD to prevent pregnancy until we can afford to get the vasectomy done because he has no health insurance but my ob/gyn is 100% supportive and offered to help us find a good doctor when we are ready. the only caution i will give you is to be sure that this is what both of you want so there won't be any feelings of regret or resentment down the road. i think this is an awesome step in taking control over having more children and i applaud you for it.

Lady - posted on 12/19/2009

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22 is very young to think about never ever having any children ever again - it is reversable but that would mean another operation and after a few years the chance of the reverse working becomes small. There are plenty other options to consider and i would look into these before going for a vasectomy - plus i have heard that after a few years it can decrease a mans sex drive just when yours will be at it's peak - just something to think about!!

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