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EXTREME toddler behavior out of control problems?

Jessica - posted on 05/07/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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My daughter will be 2 in July. She has always had tantrums, but it's getting out of control. She throws herself on the ground like alot of kids do when they can't get their way, but then proceeds to bash her head into the floor. She screams at the top of her lungs while crying. If she is put in time out, she throws herself into the door, wall, cabinent or whatever is behind her, no matter how hard it is. She bites herself on the arms, fingers and tongue. Yesterday morning, she full out grabbed near her bangs and pulled as hard as she could while screaming. It's to the point where we can't take her anywhere because we never know what she is going to do, and we're terrified of taking her to the doctor or letting anyone who doesn't know us see her, because she is litterally beating herself and leaving marks..we don't want anyone to think we are the ones causing the marks. She does this all day long! She doesn't seem to nap and hates when it's bedtime even though she had been up since very early and barely sleeps at night. As in another post I'd made, she doesn't keep on her clothes or diaper and ruins them both, and refuses to use the potty. Everything piled up like this is making me lose my mind! Any thoughts? I'm going crazy!

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Jessica - posted on 05/07/2012

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She used to be better around certain people, like my mother. But now, even if my mother isn't the one telling her no or putting her in time out, she will go across the house just to go to her and pull on her shirt and hair in anger. She's reaching out to cause serious harm to others now. My fiance picks her up and cuddles her when she has these severe tantrums, but I completely disagree with it because then she never knows that it isn't okay. I am the only one who ignores the behavior and doesn't coddle her afterwards, because I don't believe that shows her it won't get her anywhere. And, I personally don't feel bad for her physical pain since it is unnecessary and she is bringing it upon herself. I'm hoping the pain will be enough to eventually make her stop since nothing else is.

Katherine - posted on 05/07/2012

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Ignore the behavior. Make sure she can't hurt herself by holding her down. I know it sounds bad, but you have to do something. It's called a bear hug. You NEED to tell the pediatrician! They will know it's self inflicted. You have to do something or you are going to go a lot more crazy. She may have severe behavioral issues that need to be addressed.

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