Feelingf his self!!

Lashundra - posted on 05/04/2011 ( 17 moms have responded )

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My Two year old is in love with his private part!! Is this normal?? Because its werid when u catch a two year old playin with themself!!

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Liz - posted on 05/04/2011

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It's totally normal. How you react when you find him doing it, however, is important.

You need to be calm and reassuring when you tell him that it's not wrong to touch himself in those places, but that we don't do it in front of other people. You don't want to give him the idea that this part of his body is in any way unhealthy, but you also need to teach him appropriate social behaviour. If you're calm and normal in your tone when you speak to him about it, he should take his cue from that.

Shayna - posted on 05/07/2011

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@cynthia, you should never tell your child that his privates are ugly. you are only setting him up for a scewed self image of himself. i think that where the whole trans-gender thing plays a part.

Sarah - posted on 05/07/2011

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This is developmentally appropriate. To them it is just a part of the body and they are discovering themselves. I agree with others that you can teach them to not do it in front of people (the same as picking your nose, or passing gas or burping) but it is wrong to tell them their part is ugly and shame them for that!!! I am a clinical social worker, specializing in children and families and this type of talk WILL lead to a child having a low self esteem, having issues with their sexuality later on. Like it or not humans are sexual beings, and when our children reach adolesence how are we to expect them to develop healthy sexual behavior if we have told them it is ugly/ or shame them for it?? As parents, we need to realize why these things bother us and figure out what our own issues or feelings of uncomfortableness are before passing them on to our children.

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Laura - posted on 06/03/2012

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NEW RESPONSE~~"NOT WEIRD"~~INSTEAD~~VERY NORMAL......

......Many moms,do not yet understand,( we are so socially and church programmed with all this..."some body parts are nasty {.this is almost an epidemic )

,,,Is any mom out there ashamed of what is totally natural,these things just happen naturally,( we moms should accept as normal,and if they are made to feel shame and guilt for NORMAL EXPLORING, they will the become over- loaded with Anxiety,and perhaps scarred for life because of this... )

These fears seem to be the result of contemplating a negative that does not really exist.... as these happenings are normal....all boys in the whole world EXPLORE, have erections, and rub their penis. THIS has nothing to do with sex,the mistake many moms make is transferring adult dynamics onto children....

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Corinne - posted on 05/13/2011

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Both my kids do this. I have a girl (nearly 5yrs) and a boy (nearly 3yrs), we made them aware that this was a private thing to do and that we only do it when we're alone, in the bathroom or their own bedrooms. They also know not to let anyone else touch them there. I think that telling them that their private parts are ugly and that touching themselves is bad, is absolutely out of order and damaging to the child. Why shame them for discovering their own bodies?

Melanie - posted on 05/12/2011

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I agree, Stop them now, they just carry on when they are older - yes its a boy thing...

Lashundra - posted on 05/11/2011

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My son don't do it in public! He definitely just do it when he thinks nobody looking! Thanks everybody, this is my first son and I really don't know whats normal or not. If I had caught a child doing that before I had a child, I honestly would of thought somebody must be doing something to that child or around that child! But now I know that is normal behavior!

Ruth - posted on 05/07/2011

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My kids are 3 and 5 and they do it whenever, Mostly not even thinking about what they are doing....It is TOTALY normal for little boys and I agree with other Moms on here its just in telling them when its not right too do it.....Becuse in the end they are ALWAYS gonna touch it LOL

Shayna - posted on 05/07/2011

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its totally norm. my 2yr does it too. but when he does it i say thats your penis, no one but mommy and you can touch your penis and he repeats what i just said,

Ashley - posted on 05/07/2011

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It is COMPLETELY normal for your child to want to explore. They are not doing it for the same reasons an adult would do it..they are doing it because it feels good and, who doesn't like to feel good :) Never tell your child what he or she is doing is wrong. They can become ashamed of their body parts and have some issues when they get older...You just have to explain..over and over and over again(lol) that, a penis is a private part, and if you need to touch it, do it in private. ie, bathroom, bedroom etc. not in public. eventually they get the point and stop playing with it in public. if he is in the bathtub and wants to give it a little tug and pull..he is in private he is allowed right! no harm done. Almost ALL children go through it, and its a normal part of development :) (I have worked in daycares for MANY many years, and have seen many many things related to masturbation) lol

Peggy - posted on 05/06/2011

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Yes it is normal. My daughter who is 5 used to touch her part a lot and my son who is 17 months just realized he had a part and won't stop touching it. It's new and it feels good. They don't know its wrong/bad/inappropriate until an adult tells them so. Be careful not to tell him it's bad because it has been proven that it can hinder or hurt their sex life as an adult. Just tell him that it is something that you do in private in your own room. Eventually he will grow out of it. My daughter is 6 and no long does it. Hasn't since she was like 3 or 4. Just be reassuring to him and make sure he knows that its something personal.

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I agree that you should tell him that its just not something that we do in public and that it is perfectly normal. We don't what to make him feel like what he is doing is wrong or dirty - it's perfectly natural.

Melanie - posted on 05/05/2011

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My son is doing the same and he is 5 years old - he mainly does this when he is boared or watching TV. I dont know myself what to do about it, but it looks as if it is normal. Hopefully he wont do this for the rest of his life and it wont fall off either - just teach him not to do it in public.... Good luck

Nicola - posted on 05/04/2011

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It is his body and he is exploring it, all children do this and you would have done it too as a toddler. They get sensations from it. Just let him know that we dont get it out in public but don't make him ashamed of his body and body parts - its his and if he wants to touch it he can touch it lol.

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Let's see, it feels good/funny to touch - of course a 2 year old is going ot be all over it! This is TOTALY NORMAL! like most things, you should pick your battles. Telling your son that we don't touch ourselves in that way in public, but in the bathtub or bedroom it is okay.

I have a VERY funny story, when my younger brother was about the age of your son he was playing with himself to the point he got an erection. He went screaming and crying to my mom, thinking he had broken "it".

I viewed this behavior no different than my son picking his nose. something we don't do in public.

Cynthia - posted on 05/04/2011

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i dont agree that that u should tell him that it is ok. i tell my 6 year old that it is ulgy because it is. i dont see any reason for it so why be so careful not to tell him it is bad. i dont feel like i have to tell him it is ok to do it in his room bc when he is older he will figure that out on his own.

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