Help please my 3 yr only says few words

Kassia - posted on 07/28/2010 ( 25 moms have responded )

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My son B. just turned 3 the 21st of July. He only says dada, mama and some times u can make out the word kitty and doggy. I have had him to four different doctors. At first they thought that he couldnt hear but he tested fine. then they decided that he will talk when he wants to. he understands what you are telling him and follows directions. I have tried picture books he just points at the pictures and makes noises. I dont know what to do. Any kind of feed back would be helpful. Thanks for your time.

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Callie - posted on 07/28/2010

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Speaking from experience, I strongly agree with the speech therapy and not waiting. My oldest is now 7, but she was severely delayed from birth. Didn't sit up til she was 12 mths, didn't crawl til she was 14 months, didn't stand til she was 18 mths, walked at 19nths, not toilet trained or speaking til she was 4 and a half. I was very young however, I was only 20, and made the foolish mistake of listening to well meaning but mis informed people around me, who said "Don't worry she'll do it when she's ready."
She started Prep (which is the grade before grade 1 for all the non-australians reading this) in 2006. The federal government developed an initiative to determine a child's interlectual ability to cope in standard board education, which sees all incoming prep students, tested accordingly. It wasn't until after my daughter had been tested, that it was revealeed that she is interlectually impaired (known commonly as ii). She has alot of learning difficulties in alot of areas including social developement, environmental understanding, speech developement and concentration.When she started Prep at 4yrs and 10 mths, she had the intelligence of a 2 and a half year old. The start of grade one she was about the age of a 4 year old. I have since changed her schools, to one that has a brilliant SEC (special education centre) and she is now only about 6 mths behind herself. She still has alot of speech difficulties, and numerous social developement problems.
If I had followed my own instincts as a mother, and had her assessed when she was 1, when I noticed her delay, she wouldn't be having so many problems now. My best friend has a daughter who is nearly 4, in the same situation as your son. Having seen how difficult it is for Ella, she has already booked her daughter in for assessment by the paediatric department in a major hospital in our nearest capital city. Please for your own sake ,and for the sake of your son B, don't wait til the school system finds the problem when he hits school. It is so much harder.

Keri - posted on 07/31/2010

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Hi. I am an early interventionist speech therapist. I have been doing this for about 10 years now, and have seen a lot of similar children and a lot of frustrated and scared mothers!

I recommend getting him evaluated by a speech therapist as soon as possible. Sure, he may just be a "late talker," but the therapist will help you to engage your son in language building activities in the home setting to facilitate language development. Also, an experienced ST will evaluate your child in ALL areas of speech and language development, not just his expressive language (what he is SAYING vs. what he is understanding).

If you are concerned about cost, since he is three, he can be evaluated by the school district free of charge. Also, Medicaid will usually pay for a speech evaluation. You need a doc's referral, and the office can probably direct you to the nearest outpatient facility.

Good luck! And I hope you both find the help you need!

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Crissy - posted on 08/17/2010

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My son is 2 and he goes to speech twice a week because he is stubborn and doesn't want to use his words. Whatever you are doing tell him the word for it-Juice-Pizza-Whatever it is use words-He probably has the words just doesnt want to use them if he can get what he wants with sounds-If ears are ok-i would check with a speech therapist

Misty - posted on 08/16/2010

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I have a friend whos son didnt talk much until he was 4 and in headstart... he just didnt seem to want to.. there was nothing wrong with him he just didnt talk much... so if the doctors dont think anythings wrong then hes fine... my daughter is 3 and she talks up a storm! but with her i never talked to her or let anyone talk to her in baby talk... ive always talked to her like she was an adult.. she uses big words like disgusting and can say pomegranate and hippopotamus. You can force him into talking but you can talk to him more.... make him choose things like what he wants to eat and what book or movie he wants to watch. my nephew who is FASD is kinda slow at talking also but he is picking it up more from my daughter and movies he watches... i hope some of this helps

Lisa - posted on 08/10/2010

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Something that worked really well for my son was at daycare his baby sitter wouldn't respond to his grunts and pointing to what he wanted. she'd say what do you want? use your words. so if he wanted a cup he had to say either milk or cup. he is 2 1/2 now and people tell me all the time how well he talks. part of it i think is he is an only child but i have continued telling him to use his words or when he starts jabbering i say Grady, Momma can't understand. Please try again. I have a nephew only a few months younger who is a third child and he has very few words. When he is around the oldest two they speak for him instead of getting him to try. All kids talk at different rates, if the doctors say he's healthy just keep working with him and he'll be talking before you know it and you'll be telling him to be quiet!

Michelle - posted on 08/05/2010

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Your county should have EI (Early Intervention) or maybe they call it something else. Find out from your pediatrician or another source their number and talk to them about your issue. They will probably do an initial evaluation and then let you know what to do. If you do qualify your evaluations and help should be free.



My twin 7 year olds have been in speech therapy since they were 2. I also have a two year old who wasn't talking and is now in speech therapy. At two, EI does a home visit a couple of times a month and he will be reevaluated at three.



Don't be afraid to be proactive.

Amanda - posted on 08/04/2010

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childeren are two sided they learn either verbal skills or motor skills. so he is probally really strong with his motor skills. so if u want this to change, i wouldn't give him his juice box until asked for verbally. i hope i helped. and good luck.

Danielle - posted on 08/04/2010

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You should call a speech therapist. They have the tools to help him get started.

Vikki - posted on 08/04/2010

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Try speechtails on line. Great tool and you can talk to a speech path to get questions answered. My kiddos love it!

Beth - posted on 08/02/2010

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my kid is the same turned 3 in january i am having the same difficult situation... terrified he wont be able to go to preschool

Deirdre O - posted on 08/02/2010

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he will speak when he wants to then you wont be able to stop him talking. does he have a brother or sister that speaks for him that has happened to my 2nd child the 1st boy talked for him in the end i stopped him from doing it and if eoin wanted something i woldnt give it to him until he asked for it himself and it worked. i know you might tell me im cruel but it worked for me

Christy - posted on 08/01/2010

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oh and she says alot of stuff uder her breath,i think helping her on how to get it out will also help,she is so update and even a head on everything else just speech delay its called something but i can't pernoubce it and don't have paper in front of me

Christy - posted on 08/01/2010

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my 2 1/2 year old starts speech therapy tomorrow,she has speech delay she was born at 36 and 1/2 weeks,she does sign alot and now we say waht she wants instead of just getting it,and we say whay we do for her to her,trying the books i think will help too,my lil one likes to be read to,working@home is going help to i believe she knows and understand everything you say or ask her to do most of the time,she also having hrer eyes checked,hearing was a ok,will reflect back thru her 1st 6 mons of therapy thru out to update process

EDDELLA - posted on 07/30/2010

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HELLO MY NAME IS EDDELLA I HAVE A 2 YEAROLD AND SHE WASN'T TALKING THAT MUCH EITHER BUT WHAT YOU CAN DO IS SIT DOWN WITH HIM MORE AND JUST GET HIM TO START REPEATING YOU FIRST LIKE FOR EXAMPLE ASK HIM FIRST IF HE WANTS A GLASS OF MILK IF HE SAIDS YES TELL HIM TO SAY MAY I PLEASE HAVE A GLASS OF MILK AND JUST KEEP WORKING WITH HIM ON THINGS LIKE THAT. THAT IS HOW I GOT MY DAUGHTER TALKING BUT I ALSO HAVE HER SPEAKING SPANISH AND LEARNING SOME SIGN LANGUAGE. BUT I OPE THAT THIS WILL COME IN HANDY AND GOOD LUCK.

Rhonda - posted on 07/29/2010

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Take him to a speech therapist. Every one kept telling us our daughter was fine that she would talk, then I was getting upset and my mom kept her for a weekend and suggested that she needed to get check, She had speech Apraxia has been going to therapy for 2 years and was told that they were sure she could go with out sessions next summer. They will continue 2 times during the week and hopefully when she is 6 we could be done. She is 4 right now.

Brittany - posted on 07/28/2010

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My son is two and a half talks alot. I really tried word association with him. Pointing and explaining what things are and repeating it over and over. I had conversations with him since he was very little. Although he didn't understand I made it a point to speak to him in a way that was age appropriate, not baby talk. But, encouraged him to use words for what he wanted. Someone else suggested baby sign but I believe that at 3 it could only delay his speech even further. Especially if he can hear and understand just fine I dont think it would help. Maybe have him tested for a form of high functioning Autism known as Aespburgers. Children with this form of Austism are highly intelligent and don't speak much. Its worth a shot. Good luck.

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I am a speech/language pathologist. I would agree with the others who have suggested a speech/language evaluation. If you live in the US, usually you need to contact your local school districts' special education department for an evaluation. You could also have an outside speech/language evaluation done by a private speech/language therapist or clinic. That could be costly, however. It's better to have him tested and find out that he's fine than to wait any longer. It's a lot easier to help children before they turn 5 years old. I even work with babies and toddlers!! Good luck!!

Sarah - posted on 07/28/2010

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I would suggest connecting up with a speech therapist. If you are in the US you can go to your local school and they will connect you up with the AEA program. They can do a speech evaluation and speech therapy for free. The one down side of it is that since he is 3 yrs old he will only get group speech therapy through AEA. Group therapy is good, but depending on his need the group therapy may not meet all of his needs. You may want get individual therapy. You will pay more for it, but it may help meet his needs better. I have learned that you have to push for people to listen. No one cares more about your child then you do, so you have to be the advicate and push for answers and people to listen to you.

Taita - posted on 07/28/2010

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i would have to say read books- not just picture books. talk to him constantly and take him around other kids often... i thought my baby had problems but definately taking him around other kids helped alot!

Julie - posted on 07/28/2010

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If the doctors haven't already done so, have him tested by a speech therapist. Your son may end up "being fine" just waiting to talk when he's ready, but there could be a problem that is better to address while he is young. He would surely be classified as "severely delayed" and eligible for early intervention services in my state. Depending on what is going on, he may benefit from an occupational therapist who can work with oral motor issues.



My son will be "graduating" from his speech therapy soon (severely delayed b/c preemie) and I can say for certain, "just waiting" is a bad idea.



If he has trouble saying words, you can do baby signs/simple sign language. Multiple studies show that kids who learn signs are still "working out" the language center in their brain, even if they are not vocalizing! Plus, it cuts down on frustrations for all when he can indicate more specifically his needs/wants than a grunt and point. My son was up to 20 words before he finally started to talk. He will still sign and say words simultaneously for extra emphasis like "MORE cookie PLEASE";)



I've also seen a lot of parents say that kids with older sibling tend to talk less b/c they are being spoken for ... I'm not sure what is the best way to get everyone on board with helping the youngest talk on their own.



Oh, I found my baby signs book on e-bay for $4, so you don't need anything fancy to be effective. The signs used really only matter if they are hearing impaired and will need to sign to others and use "official" signs. You could even make up your own signs if he is primarily at home. You can find websites pretty easily to give you the idea of it, but few actually give you signs for free. Videos seem silly to me unless you watch together b/c it doesn't help if the child is using a sign that no one else knows but them.



It's tough and frustrating, but keep trying to be his advocate and do what you can to encourage communication.

Kim - posted on 07/28/2010

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Oh! sorry. Flash cards are a good idea and getting everyone else around you to talk to him as a child, not adult but also not baby talk. and if he does have a dummy: chuck it away...far far away. xx

Kim - posted on 07/28/2010

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hey! does he have dummies/pacifiers?? that might be a problem. my little one didn't talk much but mine's 3 in dec, and now he's a little chatter box, i read to him more (like disney books, with paragraphs and pictures on everypage) just before bed and during the day. talk to him more, ask him questions like what would you like for dinner? or which book would you like? i hope i helped :) xx

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