How do i stop a 2 year old from spitting?
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Shayla - posted on 01/10/2010
As a mother of 3 boys, 15 years, 3 years and 20 months, I have gone through this "spitting phase" with all three, the youngest still does it on occasion.
Spanking or Smacking a child for anything is NOT ACCEPTABLE! I am appalled a the comments that refer to this. In fact, it is considered corporal punishment and is punishable by the removal of your children from your care and a label of "unfit" parent! I know many people who have gone through just that and encourage you all, no matter how upsetting your child's behavior may be DO NOT HIT! You teach them that hitting is ok when you do as well. Set an example, do not take actions you do not wish your child to repeat! If you are angry enough to spank, put them in a "safe" place and YOU take a 5 minute time out and calm down. Think rationally before you dish out punishments!
The ignore it method, no really does not work. Yes, get down on their level, on your knees, look the right in the face and tell them it is not nice to spit. Relate to them that is someone else were to do that, Mommy or Daddy, it would be rude and unacceptable. And frankly, do this every time they spit. Be consistent, be nice..you will get more reaction from them. Positive encouragement works better. Tell your child how proud you are of them for NOT spitting, not throwing food on the floor, whatever the issue is. Watch their face light up with the encouragement, and watch the negative behavior start to drop in frequency.
This has worked with all three of my boys and many many friends have incorporated this and find it works MUCH better then any other method. POSITIVE!!!!
Time outs should be given sparingly, yes they understand it, however do you want your child on a permanent time out? Thinking that they can do nothing right?
SPITTING IS JUST A PHASE! They will outgrow it, it is VERY normal. Be patient.
Most times yes, your child is attempting to get your attention, so give it to them. A child who craves attention will take whatever attention they can get be it good or bad, just to get it. Is your child bored? Lonely? Do they spend more time playing alone then with you or other children? Boredom will defiantly begin negative actions in any child.
Don't focus so much on what they do wrong, focus more on the things they do right and you will find your child responds to your requests to stop doing this or that more often. POSITIVE!!!
For the love of your children DO NOT SPANK! Children learn what they live...If you teach them to hit, they will hit, if you teach them to yell, they will yell, if you teach them to be patient and kind and to love, they will follow. YOU are your child's example, be a positive one.
Your child is a gift, not a right, treat them as the precious gems that they are!!!
And yes, I do feel I am a good mother, with the experience to speak of all I have, and the results are apparent in my children.
Donna - posted on 01/08/2010
Don't try the "Ignore It" method as that will usually encourage more of the same behavior. Try looking your child straight in the face at their level and speak in a tone (not yelling) that will make them listen. Explain that it's not acceptable to do that. Use their favorite character as an example (Do you think Dora would do that? Would Dora like you to do that to her?) Explain that if they want your attention, to ask for it. If that fails, give them time out. Even a two-year-old understands time out.
Rachael - posted on 10/27/2012
In the end, it comes down to attention. If a child is not getting positive attention he/she will resort to taking negative attention- in the end, to a child who doesn't understand positive or negative behaviour, attention is attention.
Your best bet is to emphasize the positives he does and don't emphasize the negative so much. If he spills a drink say to him, "Oops. It's ok, it was an accident. We have to clean it up though, can you grab mommy a towel?" Let him help you. When he helps you, praise him by giving him a big hug and kiss and tell him that you love him. We all get so busy with our lives that we forget the things that really matter. The unfortunate thing is that kids never do. They remember the bad times more than the good. In the end it makes us better parents.
There is a book that might interest you. It's called the Discipline Book. It does not talk about how to punish children, it talks about true disciplining- directing a child on how to conduct themselves.
All the best!
Angela - posted on 10/27/2012
I ignore spittin from my lil one.... just remove myself from the situation. Go in the next room or distraction works...
Smacking is not okay! How would you liked to be smacked for doin something someone else disliked. In the grand scheme of things is spitting really that serious a crime to be smacked??? U teachin them that if they dont like a behaviour its acceptable to hit..... thats how bullies and victims of abuse starts in a vicious circle.... 'if mummy loves me and hits me then my partner must want best for me too!!!' Think how it will be interpreted!!
My mum used to hit me and i can see how ive gone into abusive relationships!! And workin for cps dont make you a expert in parenting skills... if u smack a child ur releasing ur frustration onto another... if my partner did that he would be abusive. Simple
Suzie - posted on 10/26/2012
I would tell him, if he wants to spit, then he can spit in a sink.... make him go the bathroom and stand on a stool and spit until he is done. But you have to leave. He can't have an audience. Spitting in a bathroom sink by yourself... will get old, real fast!
I did this when my daughter came home saying words like "poopy"... thank you highly acclaimed preschool! haha I would tell her that's rude and if you want to do that, go to the bathroom and say it by yourself... It took two days.
Shalimar - posted on 10/23/2012
my daughter spits once and a while i just tell her thats a no no and when she doesnt listen i put her in her room for a time out, i dont see why some of the comments are u smack ur children didnt ur parents ever teach u its not good to hit ur child!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Bailey - posted on 06/08/2012
My two year old spits just because she thinks it's funny.... When she does this, like most other posts, I give her a swat on the butt and a short time out. After time out I explain to her why she got in trouble. As long as they know why they get in trouble the issue should go away.
Amy - posted on 05/27/2012
Ummmm...corporal punishment is not against the law. I am a cps social worker and kids are only removed when marks and brusies are left and are severe. There are instances when spanking is appropriate songet off your high horse.
I have the same thing going on with my daughter. The only thing I've goten to work is give her a little swat on the butt and a time out. Then I tell her, "You got a spank and time out because you spit. Spitting is ugly and rude -- do not spit!" then ask her to tell me she is sorry and i tell her I love & forgive her, I hug her and we resume whatever activity we were doing just before the spitting. Hope this helps.. :)
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