How to deal with a non-talker?

Sharame - posted on 08/03/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )

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My son is 18 months ago, and is clever as can be. He watches everything you do and can quickly mimic you. Which is why all the remotes are hidden or he'll change the channel and run away. He points at objects of interest, loves to pretend to read books and loves being read to . But he doesn't saying anything, and barely babbles. A few months ago he start babbling mama and dada and goggie for doggy because he would point at the dogs. But that stopped as soon as it begun. So now i'm sitting here and he's silent, he laughs, he cries he screams when he's pisted. But no babbling no words. We try pointing at things or giving him choices What do you want milk or juice, and he starts screaming at the tops of his lungs. Or it's which shirt do you want the blue one or the orange one and he'll run up and grab his choice. I know there factors he's a boy he has a older brother that continually interrupts and or talks for him. But i take care of children that were saying at least random words 15 months if not younger. I just feel frustrated and i think he's getting to the point where he's frustrated he wants thing and points at things but i don't know what he wants so he screams. It doesn't help that my entire social network of friends and family ask everyday is he talking yet. NO he's not! Give him time. But i feel like i'm running out of time. Our family doctor keeps telling me oh if he isn't talking by 3 then we'll talk about speech therapy. What 3, how i'm i suppose to start potty training he he can't communicate anything. I don't know just getting overwhelmed with the kid who can start the dvd player and watch a movie, who also turns on my computer but doesn't say a word. Any tips are helping him to start verbalizing faster, and was wondering is this normal.

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Melissa - posted on 08/04/2009

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oh geez...and i didn't think of early intervention because...? my mom works for them as a case manager...that should have been my first thought! LOL! it is early intervention through easter seals. they will send out a team to your house to assess him and decide what sort of need there is. then they will talk to you about what you'd like him to do, and then they work with you to set up a plan to make those goals happen. your tax money pays for it, so it is completely free to you, paid by the state. take advantage of anything you're offered! here is a link to their main page for early intervention, and you can go from there! good luck!

http://www.easterseals.com/site/PageServ...

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Mary - posted on 08/04/2009

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I think that 18 months is still a little young to be totally worried about him not talking - some are just late starters. However, it surprises me that your pediatrician said you should wait until age 3. Why??? There is a *federal* program called Early Intervention that provides FREE services to any child from birth to age 3 who is determined eligible. They'll come to your house, do an assessment, and if they feel your son is delayed, he can begin speech therapy. My daughter (now almost 3) has been in speech therapy through EI since she was 10 months old and it's been wonderful. The entire point is to catch delays before they become problems ... worth looking into! (I don't know where you live, or I'd give you a link to the provider in your area :))

Melissa - posted on 08/04/2009

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i agree that you could try a few signs. but that won't help with the talking like you're wanting it to. my son said "poody" for everything for a long time. only recently has he started talking so you can really understand what he's saying. when your son asks for something, encourage him to talk. don't just give him what he points at. say the word, and encourage him to say it too. give it a few tries. even if he makes a sound, give it to him. at least he's trying! then when he says something close to the actual word, have a little private party! not that i need to tell you that...the day he says what he wants, it's just instinct to get all goofy! but he will get excited too, and want to say more words. good luck! and just because he can't talk doesn't mean he's not communicating, so don't think that. he points to what he wants...communicating. he changes the channel and runs away...he's communicating there too (he wants to play a game). he's communicating a TON...just not talking. don't be concerned yet. my sister did not even babble or say mama until she was 2. but once she started talking at 2, it was full sentences, and she hasn't' stopped since! it's normal for many children, so don't stress too much!

Jenn - posted on 08/04/2009

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my 1 1/2 yr old was like that for a while, with the help of her older sister she's saying a hand full of words I'm telling her what everything is when she points to it or plays with it. But I have to agree signing is a great way to know what they want, my girl signs please, thank you, food, more, milk, things that are easy to learn and easy to show them how to do.

Fiona - posted on 08/04/2009

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Have you tried sign language? Since kids understand so much more than they can say, sign language can be a great tool for little ones and can relieve a lot of frustration while they learn to talk. You can find lots of simple signs online and I am sure there are plenty of books on baby sign language too.

Fiona - posted on 08/04/2009

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Have you tried sign language? Since kids understand so much more than they can say, sign language can be a great tool for little ones and can relieve a lot of frustration while they learn to talk. You can find lots of simple signs online and I am sure there are plenty of books on baby sign language too.

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