Holli - posted on 07/29/2012 ( 23 moms have responded )
I'm at my ropes end. My almost 3 year old daughter does not listen to anything I say, her father says, or any relative. It started as a nice calming sit down and explain using small words and examples on "Do not touch, or you get owie", to I'm going to count to 3, and if you do not stop or go do it, you'll get Time-out. Then she has been in time out in her room, in a corner, in a chair secluded with nothing around her. All she does is kick scream and yell. When she's in the corner she bangs her head on the wall screaming. Once her time is over, which means she is no longer screaming or yelling I explained what she did wrong and told her I loved her and kissed and she'd say "Sorry Mommy" and not even an hour later she'd do it again, or back talk to me when I asked her to do something!
I don't ask her to do much, I do expect that if she pulls all of her toys out that she put them back into the bucket once it's clean up time at the end of the day. She likes to pull everything out into the floor, included clothes, toys, blankets, pillows, shoes, dirty laundry, anything in her room. She has a table that she sits at and colors she'll tip that over and throw things. She tips over her play kitchen set and kicks it screaming. Mostly all of these things happen at night when she should be sleeping. I'm done.
She will blatantly tell me "No Mommy!" to anything, whether it be I'm on the phone, doing the dishes, anything she doesn't approve of at the time. I grew up being spanked, so I did do the butt popping thing, but nothing is changing the way she acts at home. We go in public and she'll get so many compliments on how behaved, and quiet she is. I don't understand!
Anyone know of anything, it gets to the point that now my depression is back and it's affecting me when I punish her and she cries I cry right along with her feeling like I am a failed parent. Me and my husband both.
Also, don't be rude, or sarcastic, or condescending, I get enough of that from my family. I am asking for help and advice!