Humping things? Is this normal?

Ashley - posted on 01/15/2011 ( 42 moms have responded )

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It looks like my 20 month old is making the humping gesture all of the time... is this normal? Has any of your children done this? if you would like to know more just ask questions...

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Tamika - posted on 11/20/2012

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My son is 20months old and I recently noticed him humping the bed while sleeping...this scared me and totally got my attention...I was so alarmed...until I can't seem to stop thinking about what I saw>..I have other children and have never noticed them indicating such behaviors...Tho I have read other peoples post indicating that this is normal..I gotta propose the question..as to how this is normal? I know my son hasn't been sexually violated but I wonder does this behavior come from something that he could have seen while w/..my mind is racing because this didn't appear to be normal....Sexual acts and tendecies come at a certain age in life.... and I know I won't be a parent that allows him to do this...I'm planning to speak w/his pediatrician about this to see if I could get answers..Because I don't like what I saw....if you guys have mature parenting insight please post..I've also noticed while reading some people were posting some ignorant childish response.and should be reported..circle of moms should be a site for parents..not adults that wanna play and act like mischief children....not to mention they need to be reported and deleted!!

Crystal - posted on 11/18/2012

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Okay. My daughter is 3 going on 4 and she humps her hands. I see what everyone is saying about how it is completely normal and to just let her go, but when does it stop?? I guess i can see that it happens when she avoids going pee and when she is tired. But she is getting older and its happening more frequently. And i would also like to add that my daughter is definitely mot sexually abused!! I really don't feel that its healthy for a three year old to get off like that all the time so i can i help stop it?

Megan - posted on 07/15/2013

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I've been wondering about this myself. My daughter will be 3 in October and she literally humps everything....especially when she's tired. She's gone from my knee, my boyfriends knee, my moms knee, her sippy cup, her loofa in the bathtub, the chair, toys, those little toy door ways with activities on the side she's climbed on top of that at her baby sitters and humped that. I don't want to yell at her and tell her its wrong and such because she tells me "it feels good". When she's done she's proud of herself and exclaims "I humped the chair!" and is all happy. I have no idea to address this and I had no idea she was doing it at my sitters as well!

Leslie - posted on 01/23/2013

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This was actually an issue with me as an infant and child. Not on someone's leg, but on the bed or floor. I remember how innocent it was at a very young age and only did it because it "felt good." A few years ago, I finally approached this "issue" with my mother as it was such an embarrassment to her and my dad. She said I started this is my crib around 9 months when I was falling asleep. She said I also did it at daycare when put down for a nap. As soon as I discovered how embarrassed she was of this, I became embarrassed and only did it in private. I never grew out of it though, was always ashamed of myself afterward, and always wondered if I had an excess of estrogen or even testosterone that would make me want to do this. I was never sexually abused and grew up in a very conservative family where everything I on TV was strictly monitored.
In recent years, of course, I've learned it's more natural than abnormal, and in no way shameful. I've researched the topic to prevent my 3 year from ever feeling ashamed of herself should she ever start "discovering" or showing signs of the same behavior. My only advice is, redirect his attention now and talk to him about it in a very positive, non-shaming way around age 3.

Rachael - posted on 07/06/2011

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It isn't hormonal yet, it is simply nerve endings. Lets face it, chances are children wouldn't BE here if the clitoris and penis didn't have so many nerve endings that feel good when they are touched. These nerve endings don't just start to fire when puberty hits. chances are your little one noticed that it felt good when he/she accidentally brushed his/er genitals over something and is now reinventing that action to get a repeat of that good feeling. For my son (27 months) I tell him that I know it feels good when he touches his penis or rubs it on something, but that is a private activity that only he can do in private. That simple statement acknowledges that it feels good, gives him permission to touch himself, states that only he can touch his penis, and sets limits on the behavior. Now, my son might spend half the night playing with himself instead of sleeping for all I know, but he doesn't reach his hands in his pants in the checkout line of the grocery store anymore =) Even though it is natural people still get appalled by it. Good luck!

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Amanda - posted on 08/20/2014

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my daughter dose it all the time she stoped for a while and started again. it freaks me out i never seen a kid do this. its all the time on her blankket and useing her hand is thia normal?

Danelia - posted on 03/06/2014

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I remember humping things as a very young child. I wasn't exposed to anything I shouldn't have been exposed to and of course it began when I discovered that part of my body and that I could feel good to hump things. But I also knew that this wasn't just an "innocent" thing and I DID know what I was doing. I even used to make my barbies get naked and have sex with each other and make them touch each others privates. I was caught doing all these things and I was never told it was bad or anything of the sort. My mother just asked me what I was doing and I felt slightly embarrassed and began to hide it from her ever since. But I was in NO WAY made to feel embarrassed or dirty or guilty for any of this. My mother knew it was a natural thing that children do and go through, but like I said, I knew what I was doing. And children are much smarter than we give them credit for.

Alyssa Renee - posted on 02/20/2014

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Take phone computer any electronics away same thing happened to me Kearin

Kearin - posted on 01/05/2014

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Ok,ummm my daughter has done this for a while now and she started at age 24 months and has been doing it until now she is 10 years old.I asked her if she knew what she was doing and she said "i am making my private like me" so i decided that it was time to either stop it or at least try to.So i talked to her dad and we decided to talk to a doctor,he said that most children do this at early ages but it was not usaul at this age and asked us to tell her it was wrong. so we did and she said she didnt care so now i am looking for answers please help me!!

Kearin - posted on 01/05/2014

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Look i am 10 years old and i do i alo watch porn videos really no joke

TheGirl - posted on 01/04/2014

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Yes! Trust me you can get your child to stop humping or touching innapropiately. This behavior is NOT OK. Would you let your child dig his or her nose and say "it's ok" cause the baby said "it feels good" ? Are you serious!!?? The baby says it feels good so we should encourage this? So we should encourage potential rapists and child molesters to rub their little penis and clits when they are little because some people think it's "ok"! Sex is for procreation it does feel good but this is a big responsibility for a child to have. "They don't know any better" (i see a lot of people posting that here) If they don't know any better then teach them that it's it's wrong! It's wrong to do until you are grown enough to understand what you are doing! I mean if a child sticks a toy up his a$$ and says he likes to do that cause it feels good, sooooo does that mean that now I have to let and encourage him sticking toys up his a$$ now cause the doctor say it's ok. Listen you guys are the parents. Yes, you can and should stop this "Adult" behavior in babies. It's wrong people!

Heather - posted on 12/27/2013

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Julie...hmmmm. Guess that report to the authorities never panned out huh?? Ughhh, Seriously!!!! These are VERY normal problems for children. You seem soooo offended that people are talking about this!! How do we not know YOU aren't a pedophile? Why are YOU reading about this?

Anyways...I am a pediatrician, and we were taught about this in school. DONT make a big deal about it!! It IS normal, and the bigger you make this, the more your child will do it! They WILL grow out of it. And they have NO idea what they are doing, only that it feels good. They are not being hurt, or hurting anyone else. I promise you, you CANNOT force them to not do it. My suggestion would be to tell your child that you understand that it feels good, but that you'd wish they do it in private. IE...in their bedrooms. You don't want them to feel ashamed or embarrassed, because someday they WILL have sexual issues. Thinking sex and pleasuring oneself is "dirty". And NO, formula fed, breast fed, it doesn't matter!!!!!! It begins by a child ACCIDENTALLY finding that something feels good. And it goes from there. It doesn't mean they are weird or different...it's NATURAL!!! It is 110% human nature!!! And for all the prudish people on here...these kids will one day have sexual inter course!!!! SHOCKER I know. Seriously, some of you need to grow up! It now doesn't surprise me on how many of today's children are ACTUALLY screwed up! Look in the mirror!

Heather - posted on 12/27/2013

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PLEASE tell me your joking?!?!???
Milk with hormones????? That has NOTHING to do with it!!! Ignorance is an UGLY thing!!!

Nikki - posted on 12/04/2013

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i did this when i was i child,5 till i was 11.so just a phase i guess. i remember it was totally innocent and just found it fun, something to do when i was bored. i never got told off about it and even did it infront of my older sisters and friends saying ''it feels nice'' then i started doing it in private. i feel ashamed because of it because of the rumours that was spread around secondry school about me about me humping toys and friends and it became very embarassing. i even lost friends because of it. i'm 22 now and i would say it has ruined my life and if i could start over in my life again i would, and wouldn't go through the humping phase and wouldn't hump anything or anyone. people even called me a rapist at school, and was disguisted or laughed at me. making me feel disgusted in myself and wanting to die. i wanted the ground to open and swallow me up. people older than me at school would ask me and torment me on the bus and would call me a freak or wierdo or rapist. i wish my mum told me off when i first did it and told me it was wrong then i would have stopped and wouldn't have gone through so much bullying and embarassement when growing up in my teens. literally even other teens from different schools would know and my younger brother was embarresed to be seen with me because all his friends knew about it too. please stop it as earlier as you can for your childs sake. take there teddys away and hide them, or punish them. i feel ashamed and hate myself because of it and wish i could turn back time or atleast someoneto have stopped me...

Danielle - posted on 11/18/2013

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Is it normal for a 7year old to sit on the corner of a chair and wiggle ???????

Rose - posted on 11/11/2013

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I agree these are babies . We are adults looking for answers. Ignorant responses should be reported!

Amanda - posted on 01/19/2013

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He is just a baby. He is 2 years old and it was just for a second on her leg. She is 11. Like I said I don't think he realized what he was doing. Don't be a pervert.

Amanda - posted on 01/18/2013

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My son has done this a few times to his sister and I. I don't think it's anything to worry about. It will pass. He laughs when he does it. I don't think he realizes what he is doing. Good luck!

Ashley - posted on 01/18/2013

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i wouldnt be to worried about it, my daughter has since stopped :) something she grew out of i guess... just a normal thing, they get curious and probably just anxious sitting in the car was my daughter it was usually right when she woke up or if she was fussing... well its stopped so im happy good luck :)

Lisa - posted on 11/23/2012

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Im sure they did ummm, I dont think kids just started masturbating recently.

Umm - posted on 11/23/2012

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According to doctors, this is normal and is called Gratification disorder or infantile & early childhood masturbation. Infants as young as 4 months have been found to be doing it and my daughter started at around 9 months of age.



However I can not accept this behaviour as normal.If lots of people have diabetes it is not considered normal.. it is still a disease.I have done a lot of reading online because i want to know what is causing it. I don't think such a disorder existed in the older generations before us! So it has something to do with our new lifestyle - processed food - formula milk - vaccinations maybe??



My daughter was not breastfed and was on formula milk. She also became lactose intolerant and was then given lactose free milk. This was around the same time she started humping furniture. Was your child breast fed or did you give him formula? Did you vaccinate him?



Read this research paper in which they have measured the sex hormones of the children with this disorder and it seems it has something to do with estrogen levels sepcifically estadiol

Since soy milk is known to have high amounts of estrogen, i was wondering that maybe all forumla fed children did this??!!



Also read other related papers on this topic and you will be surprised how common this is!



http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles...

Amy - posted on 11/19/2012

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No they won't actually she is right. Just making a questionable post on a board based in another country is not going to be enough to warrant much.

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This is ridiculous! I just reported this site to the authorities. It's obvious that at least half these posts are from pedophiles posing as parents.

Nurun Nisa - posted on 11/05/2012

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My daughter started humping while she was still in her nappies just after she turned 1, i just thought her nappy was wet so i'd change her. Then she started doing it on my leg, then the cushion! When she was toilet trained i thought it would stop but it hasn't. She's nearly 3 now and she's still doing it, even on the arm of the sofa. I found her lying on top a giant rabbit at my mums house once, it was so embarrassing. its really awkward when she does this sort of thing infront of people. I've recently found her lifting one leg onto a chair whilst the other leg is on the floor and humping the corner of the chair. I was really worried until i read these posts. I hope she grows out of it before she goes into nursery!

Amanda - posted on 10/29/2012

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Oh my word..this is such a relief to me to read..my son dry humps his bed, his hands are always under him but never in his pants..he hugs me and then starts humping and i tell him "no humpies" when you are holding someone and he stops but then sometimes tries again and i get up and just tell him sorry i can't hold you if you behave that way.

We were okay with it until after church service he came up to me and started humping my leg..man, someone even said " did you son just dry hump you? i was mortified but anyway..thanks to all of you..i know he isn't going to be a porn star (I HOPE()

Rachael - posted on 10/27/2012

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Its very normal. Its sexual development. It should not be scolded or repressed due to issues of suppressing in adulthood. Allow it to happen, but teach the child to do so in private and emphasize that it is a private thing . Be open to possible questions about sexuality as the child gets older.

Kaily - posted on 10/27/2012

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I hump myself it feels good in my vigina and i hump my hands and it feels so good

Amanda - posted on 01/12/2012

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Ashley, as of yet I have not experienced this, but just reading the title, literally had me laughing out loud! I hope you find the advice you need!

Tori - posted on 01/10/2012

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My daughter started doing this about a month ago (around 16 mos) to her giant stuffed frog. It's become a several-times-a-day occurrence... weirds me out a little, but I just keep telling myself that she's still in the process of discovering her body and has none of the associations that adults do about this kind of thing - she doesn't even talk yet, so it will be a long time before I can explain things to her. I'm not a prude or anything but I have to admit it makes me uncomfortable.

Rita - posted on 07/06/2011

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At Rosemary Englerth, sounds like your son is only imitating what he has seen and/or heard [wow!]. You must be careful that you don't have an unwanted audience when you're intimate with your DH; especially that you have a 3-year-old. At Ashley Ames, do you have a dog in the home? When you say [humping], I visualize a dog humping a toy or something similar. I have a 3-year-old son & he's never done anything like that. If your child is in daycare or someone else's care [with other children], perhaps he may have learned this from another child or simply imitating the dog [if you have a dog]. It's been a while since your post, is he still humping by any chance?

Dana - posted on 07/05/2011

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yes ashely dear it is normal i am afraid to say!!!! LOL i have been through it with my children and now i am experiencing it with my grand children it is as if thier lil hormones just go hay wire they can not conto; it the more you tell them it is not a nice gesture they just keep going it is as if they are finding thier sexuality they fianlly learning the diference between boys and girls .... so do not fret my love just a phasze that will go away.

Gloria - posted on 01/20/2011

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I have a 20 month old daughter that does that too. I think is normal because they are in the process of discovery. They dont understand what they are doing. I will wait and see and if it progresses to doing it in public or constantly then i would figure out what to do about it.

Christy - posted on 01/17/2011

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My son never does this (which i sort of expected, LOL) but my daughter does it all the time! She's 2 yrs 4 months and I don't call her out on it. I just redirect her to some other activity. Hey, it feels good I supposed which is disturbing to me but really it is harmless...regardless of sex. Just let him or her know when they are old enough to understand, there is a time and place for that.

Dawn - posted on 01/15/2011

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My son started doing this at about 15 months, mostly to his stuffed animals or pieces of furniture, but sometimes my leg!! If it was my leg I would just move, but other things I just let him and didn't say anything. He has since stopped, but may start again. This is completely normal, just like touching his penis. As he gets older, you can explain when and where is approriate.

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