Is taking a child from its parents right to do when the allegations are on assumptions?

Katie - posted on 04/20/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )

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My mother has taken my son based on allegations that are not true. It has been almost five months going to court. I have proven myself innocent in court and I still don't have my son back. If that isn't bad enough I have been traveling ten hours back and forth for visitations!

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Brandi - posted on 04/24/2010

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Imagine the situation from a different perspective. Let's assume that YOU assumed that your child's father was alleged to have done something to your child. *I am also operating under the assumption that you and your son's father are not together just for the sake of arguement* Wouldn't you fight like hell to end ALL visitations with his father until you were absolutely certain that the allegations or assumptions were indeed false??? Your mother has heard something that she believes may be harmful to her grandchild and did something to have it investigated. I believe that if we have to take away 100 children (temporarily) on assumptions to save even 1 child from abuse, it's worth it. I'm sorry if you are indeed one of the 99 wrong assumptions out of 100, but keep at it and if you are truly innocent, you will get your kids back. When a child MAY be in danger (according to any reliable source) then I believe at LEAST it should be investigated and if it determined that the child should be removed and placed in protective custody during the investigation, so be it. I hope for your son's sake that the allegations really aren't true and that if that is the case that you get your child back soon. Have you considered taking parenting classes to show your best effort to be the best mom you can be (the court looks highly on things like this). Good luck and Best wishes for your son.

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my mother is not aloud to really see my daughter unless supervised by Jim or I. The way she is i know she would pull some stupid shit like that. I am also afraid of abuse, which she did to me when i was younger. ALL CHILDREN develop differently, so she can not assume your child is underdeveloped. unless your child is 2 or 3 not walking or still acting like he/she was born yesterday. i know many kids that are literally the dumbest thing i have seen at their age, and are still with their parents. like 5 years old and saying only few words. or parents who usually just set their kids in front of the TV instead of teaching them. or wanting to bother with them.

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my cousin had a baby 4 years ago. Her and her now husband were fighting and yelling at each other all the time. My aunt was pissed and told them she owuld not have them fighting like that infront of thier child. she said if they wanted to continue that was fine. they can move out of her house and she would fight for custody of their kid. she did not end up doing it. but it did give them a kick in the ass. My hub and I got the same shit from my dad. i think it is normal to fight when you are talking about the childs best interest. sometimes yelling doesnt solve anything but you need to be concerned for your child

i say, show anything you can to show you are a fit mother. If you do not have a job, GET ONE. should not matter how much you are getting paid just to show you have one and are trying. spend extra money on the baby keep recipts! Take classes like mentioned above. if you have any "problems" such as bipolar or whatever talk to someone so you can make it look like it is under control. DO WHAT YOU CAN! If you do deserve to have this child, you need to fight. If you do not, Dont bother.

Annemaree - posted on 04/23/2010

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im so sorry to hear this about your son... n if you were found inocent cant u go n just pick him up ??? n seriously y would your mother take your child thats horrible if anything she should be there for you helping you in anyway that u need it ....im sorry but what is wrong with your family u asked?? lol well i wont go there but it seems selfish to me ! r u legally alowed to take him as uve been found inocent? after all u r the mother all i can say is keep on trying to get him back never give up tell him how much u luv him ....... i wish u all the luck in the world to get ur little boy back take care!

Katie - posted on 04/21/2010

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It is so complicated. When he was taken I was living in a different state then the court order was placed in. Then two weeks after she had him she had a therapist (that she told I did meth while I was pregnant(not true!!)) say that he was mentally and socially under developed. I have been going to school to major in child development, this just sounds like to me that my son has digressed. Which I have seen at the visitations. So when the judge is ordering something like setting up his medical care where I live, they told me that he was seeing a Speech Therapist and a Occupational Therapist. So thats what I arranged for. When we got in to court my sister who has nothing to do with this says that I never even contacted this medical group and that this company do not deal with my sons needs. Trying to make me look like an idiot. Well I proved her wrong by bringing in proof that I had enrolled him in with the therapists but because of what she said the judge wants to make sure that it is the rite medical care for my son. I understand the judges point of view but what is wrong with my family!

September - posted on 04/21/2010

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Umm if you proved yourself innocent in court then why don't you have custody?

Christina - posted on 04/21/2010

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i think it depends on what the allegations r if they r bad things i think yes until they make sure they r not true for the childs safety and if u have proven urself in court why havent they gave ur son back to u cause if u proved u were innocent they should have gaven ur son back to u already

Laura - posted on 04/21/2010

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I am so sorry to hear that. I don't understand if you have been found innocent in court why you still don't have him. All i can say is good luck and my prayers are with you.

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