Late talker - 31 months

Camp2760 - posted on 01/18/2017 ( 2 moms have responded )

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My daughter will be 31 months on the 28th of January and doesn't speak at all. We've heard words in passing very occasionally like; mumma, dada, yaya, go, tank (thank you).

We've been concerned for a while. We've sought help and I feel like we're hitting a wall. We started on a wait list in march 2016 for a speech evaluation. We saw a hearing specialist in may 2016 and her hearing is fine. June 2016 she got in to see the first step speech pathologist. She was very late in talking (I already knew this...). So we were put on another wait list and in December 2016 we got in for another evaluation. My daughter did better at this one; she was making eye contact sometimes, wanted you to play with her, attempted to form the word bubbles, etc. This pathologist asked if we wanted her to evalutate our daughter at her preschool (she started in September 2016 with the hope of speech developement), we said yes. The findings were that our daughter was delayed by a year or more.

So, my aggravation is here. NO ONE WILL WORK WITH MY DAUGHTER. Sorry, I'll try to be calm but I am so very angry with the support system we have. We start a 6 week class, once a week next week with the speech pathologist and other parents. We will discuss strategies, etc., and our children will not be present.

We have an appointment in march 2017 for a developmental paediatrician, that appointment was booked in march 2016...

I'm a stay at home mom. We rarely left the house, she didn't have interactions with other kids her age and I was mostly home alone with her. I often would just give her stuff without verbalizing at all. I feel like this is completely my fault. I'm trying to do all that I can now to make up for what probably is my fault but feel like there's no real help to support me in correcting what I did. :(

-babbles jibberis CONSTANTLY, is this good? :)

-points sometimes

-has always communicated with actions. Wants snack, goes and gets a bowl and brings it to you. Same with water or if she wants something opened.

-almost never has melt downs unless she's tired or if you try to get her to verbalize. For example, brings you a bowl and the snack to open, but you won't do it because she hasn't verbalized. She persist for a while before getting upset.

-understands verbal direction. Stop, no, the dreaded countdown when she's doing something she's not allowed to, go to bed, in the house, stay on the sidewalk, out, hold my hand, close the door, kisses, hug,...

-she copies. I always wear sunglasses, she likes wearing sunglasses. I always have a purse, she LOVES having a purse (if she can't find hers, she drags mine around). She pretends to talk on the phone (she holds the phone up to her ear and jibbers on). She will brush her hair if she finds a brush, will help with her coat, help with her boots...

-she is very good at sharing.

-she is a VERY VERY VERY happy little girl. She laughs with me, we can play tag (I'm always it, the little turd monkey... lol ), she plays peek a boo,...

-new thing we found out this week. She likes taking selfies with us. Her dad like making funny faces into the camera, so now she sticks out her tongue for silly photos.

Other developments:

-rolled early
-crawled early
-stood unaided at 10 month
-walked full at 16/17 months, she was very happy crawling. I always put her in dresses, so she would crawl with her feet on the ground, but in the air and on her hands (it was hilarious!).

Sorry for the long story. I'm just feeling defeated and want to do everything I can to help my little girl. I feel guilty and she's honestly so perfect and happy. Has anyone else been threw this?

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Ev - posted on 01/19/2017

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-babbles jibberis CONSTANTLY, is this good? :)
*****It is good that she does the babble and jibbering.

-points sometimes
****Not all kids point all the time. Some just do it sometimes.

-has always communicated with actions. Wants snack, goes and gets a bowl and brings it to you. Same with water or if she wants something opened.
***At least she is communicating with you. It is good she does that action with her communication.

-almost never has melt downs unless she's tired or if you try to get her to verbalize. For example, brings you a bowl and the snack to open, but you won't do it because she hasn't verbalized. She persist for a while before getting upset.
*****This is where you verbalize for her so she knows the words that go with the items an actions.

-understands verbal direction. Stop, no, the dreaded countdown when she's doing something she's not allowed to, go to bed, in the house, stay on the sidewalk, out, hold my hand, close the door, kisses, hug,...
*****This is great.

-she copies. I always wear sunglasses, she likes wearing sunglasses. I always have a purse, she LOVES having a purse (if she can't find hers, she drags mine around). She pretends to talk on the phone (she holds the phone up to her ear and jibbers on). She will brush her hair if she finds a brush, will help with her coat, help with her boots...
*****Completely normal.

-she is very good at sharing.
*****Very good for her age...not many like to.

-she is a VERY VERY VERY happy little girl. She laughs with me, we can play tag (I'm always it, the little turd monkey... lol ), she plays peek a boo,...
*****Sounds like she is very normal in her play with one on one with you.

-new thing we found out this week. She likes taking selfies with us. Her dad like making funny faces into the camera, so now she sticks out her tongue for silly photos.
*****That is a good thing too.

It just sounds like she is just behind in her words. She is not yet three yet. I think you should work with her by talking about things going on with her more often. Explain the words for the things she brings you and their use or actions. My daughter did not go to preschool until the age of 3. She spent most of her early years at home with me and her dad. She was babysat for as an infant but by a year I had stayed at home. She had older cousins that were late elementary/junior high ages. She was around mostly adults and learned to speak well. But that is here. By your child's age she was talking as good as a five year old. My son on the other hand was 3.5 before he was talking with more words than babble/jibber.

Each child is different. Some talk sooner and some later. You posted her progress as an infant. That is normal to early for a lot of kids. But I would push more to get what you think she needs.

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Camp2760 - posted on 01/19/2017

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Thank you very much for your response. I did paragraph my post, but it seems to not of posted that way...

I will keep hoping for the best. Yesterday I took the evil mommy approach. I sat down in front of her and ate a cookie. With each bite I would say cookie. She really wanted this cookie and was trying to do actions. I said no, repeated cookie and took more bites. I was down to the last two bites and she said "coo coo," I was thrilled and gave her the cookie. I cried...

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