My 25 month old son won't give up the bottle of milk. Big fits at the mention of it. He drinks water from a cup or sippy cup but wants his milk in a bottle (his drink of choice). Should I go cold turkey and toss them (and deal with his wrath) or wait for him to be ready? When I mention getting rid of them he says
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Marike - posted on 11/12/2008
What's the harm in letting a child drink from a bottle if he/she is comforted by it (and is getting the milk they need)? I don't understand why people feel that sippy cups are so much better for children/babies than bottles? I certainly understand not wanting to clean the parts, or continue to buy expensive nipples/liners, etc., but can anyone site research that offers developmental reasoning for forcing babies to make the switch?
Julie - posted on 11/11/2008
I have an 18 month old little girl and we are having the same fight, she also drinks juice, and water out of a sippy. If i put milk in there she refuses, she only has a bottle at bed time but i worry that she should be drinking more milk. I also belong to another community of moms that has some great advice it called itsamomthing.com. let me know if you find a good fix for the bottle situation
Mindy - posted on 11/11/2008
My daughter is 18 months old and at 12 months, I decided bottle time was up (partly because I thought it was a good idea for her development but also because I was so sick of washing all the little parts of the Doc Browns bottles). Anyway, one day, I just switched her to taking milk in NUBY sippy cups. They are as close to a bottle as you can get without being a bottle. And she took to it immediatly- not even a wimper. Now she still drinks milk from NUBY cups but can basically drink it from any sippy or straw cup I offer to her. I know that may not work for everyone but it's a good option that worked for me and my daughter. Good luck!
Terry - posted on 11/11/2008
You should just get rid of them, its like a paciffier. It may be hard for a couple of days, but don't give in. Most changes for young ones is 3 days. Be strong, comfort them, but don't give it back. We moved our son to a cup with a straw and/or a sippy cup. Now he drinks from a spill proof cup with a hole in the lip. Your son will be just fine.
Nancy - posted on 11/11/2008
Hi! I have a wonderful trick for you to try. My twin sons were drinking well from sippy cups during the day but at bedtime I struggled a lot to get rid of their bottle until I tried to put a nipple number 1 on the bottle. I was offering the bottle as well as the sippy cup with milk in it so they had a choice. Drinking from bottle was harder and not as gratifying as earlier and they started rejecting it and using the sippy cup! I told this trick to all my friends and they all swear it works well for them too. Let me know if you try it ok! Good luck! :-)
Amanda - posted on 11/11/2008
My son was the same way. We took it from him cold turkey. Not because we are mean parents, but because we knew that sooner or later he was going to realize that he is not getting milk from the bottle and that is just the way it is. I had some professionals tell me to tell him that he is a big boy now and that he needs to use a big boy cup (like daddy) or to have him throw them away so it is them getting rid of it and not you. It took our son about a week to deal with it and now he has no problem drinking milk from a sippy cup. Good luck!
Melissa - posted on 11/11/2008
I'm not the kind of mom that goes cold turkey. I don't like to do it, so why should I put my kid through it. So, I did a bunch of research on this and tlaked with people and came up with my own self help plan for getting off the bottle. We got rid of the morning one and started putting milk in a cup that had a straw and mixed the drinkable yogurt (we don't drink juice at all). It was about 1/3 part flavored yogurt to milk, and then started scaling back and now it is all milk. She's just naturally started rejecting her bottle at night now and at dinner time, I've started the same thing with milk in a bottle mixed with yogurt. By night, she doesn't really even want her bottle anymore.
She still uses a pacifier because of her teething, but only at night and nap and she hands it to me to put in her special spot for the other time. It's her "night night pacy" and then pretty soon it is going to be gone, but just one thing at a time is my philosophy. Change is hard for all of us.
I'm sure most moms will think I'm not tough enough, but it works for our daughter.
Clare - posted on 11/11/2008
Sorry, you have to go cold turkey. Two years olds are not great with transitions and probably won't make the decision to get rid of it anytime soon. It actually is best to stop putting anything in bottles after the age of one (give or take a few months) because they will forget much faster. At this point, it WILL be difficult. She may even not drink as much, but it won't be a long process, if you are stern and consistant. Encouragement of the new thing is always helpful. In the long run it will better for her teeth and just moving on to the next best thing. Good luck.
Ashley - posted on 11/11/2008
Go cold turkey - that's what worked for us at 15 months. It wasn't as bad as I thought - I got the garbage can, had him throw them all away in it saying "bye bye" then him and his dd took them to the garbage. I wasn't able to cave because we had no bottles, and while he didn't drink milk ever again, he eats other dairy (yogurt and cheese) to make up for it, and he drinks water or juice. He is fine. Honestly, it was just a day or two of crankiness and then it was over - I was so glad I did it this way.
Liesl - posted on 11/11/2008
I also had a hard time transitioning my daughter who drank water from a sippy cup but milk from a bottle. I tried at 12 mo and 15 mo. At first she was intrigued by the new sippy cup (no handles and taller) that I bought that was different from her 'water' sippy cups but after she found it had milk she lost interest. She wanted the soothing of the bottle. I think she finally transitioned around 16 mos and that was when I got rid of the bottles and offered her milk only out of a sippy cup or straw. I supplemented with cheese and yogurt so she got her calcium and eventually she gave in because she wanted her milk. Since your son is older perhaps you can have him select a 'big boy' straw or sippy cup or kid cup. My 2 yr old has been drinking out of a cup pretty well at meal times for a while now but we still use sippy cups for convenience now that I have another baby. Good luck - this too shall pass.
Carrie - posted on 11/11/2008
Thanks for all of the help. We are talking about it right now, he asked where his ba was and I just said "I don't know, go look for it". He gave up and I asked him if he was ready to throw them away- he said yes but I'm not sure if he understands fully what I mean. I think we'll do a clean sweep of the house and hand deliver them to the garbage man on Thursday (he loves watching the truck so maybe seeing it eat his bottles up will be funny). Maybe a special trip to the store for a big boy cup that he picks out. Thanks for the support, I've been fearing the tantrums but I have been letting him be in control and I just need to suck it up and be strong.
Sara - posted on 11/10/2008
Have you ever heard of Nuby? Those sippy cups made my sons transition easier. The ones with the rubber tops. They have the same feel as a bottle. And now is the easiest time to get rid of it.... THe older a child gets the harder it is to get rid of.
Jana - posted on 11/10/2008
It seems like everyone is saying the same thing, and I agree. Whenever I am faced with a situation like this I always tell myself "Do I want to take care of this now, or do I want to deal with it when she's older" Knowing that most things harder to give up as time goes on, I always tend to take care of the situation whenever I start questioning things. Brace yourself for a rough couple days and have a fun good bye to the bottles. Just make sure you get them all so there is no way you can cave in during his wrath.
Monica - posted on 11/10/2008
Hi Carrie! I'm a Mom to a 26-month old, and I'm also a pediatric clinical dietitian... great combination for things like this. My advice... Ok. If your toddler is anything like mine, he understands "goodbye." Get his bottles out and in a fun way, together, do the "let's say goodbye to the the bottles!!!" Yay.. bye bottles! " and toss them in the garbage. You may or may not get a negative response. But stand your ground. Explain to your little one that it's time to be a "big-boy" and it's time he uses his cup. You have to go cold-turkey so to speak, but by engaging him in the process, he might endorse it and feel proud that he was part of it. Then, take out the garbage and stand your ground. It won't take too long for him to accomodate, I promise. And think about the more important thing... taking a bottle too long can cause poor dentition and speech development... an even more important reason to go cold turkey! Good luck!
Katie - posted on 11/10/2008
If you ask me, I think toss em all together and deal with the wrath. It'll probably last for a couple of weeks, but just keep reminding him that he is a big boy now. You ask if you should wait for him to be ready. If you keep allowing it you will never be ready. I am the director at a daycare center, and you would be surprised by what I hear some of my parents say. The children have to be off of the bottle by 15 months to move out of the baby room. I get push back from some parents (not a lot though) who think that is too early. But you can't believe that in the four years that I have been there, we have only had one child who could not move over because she was on the bottle until 18 months. My infant teacher had her daughter on the bottle until a month before she started kindergarten. It is just like a pacifier. They will never be ready until you tell them to be ready. Be a parent and put your foot down. Obviously you want him off of the bottle or you wouldn't be asking this question. So do it.
Stephanie - posted on 11/10/2008
My daughter was the same way in regards to drinking milk from a bottle only. I had to "lose" them to get her off it. And, she didn't enjoy being forced to drink from the cup so she didn't get much in her for a week or so. But she got used to it and milk is a regular part of her diet again.
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