My Daughter doesn't recognise her name.

Lily - posted on 05/07/2013

hi......My boy is almost 19 months he never respond when I call him , I know he doesn’t have ear problem because he loves when I sing for him and he even like one song than the other , he don’t want to learn any thing he doesn’t have any attention , he like to play with his cousin she is 2 he laugh every thing of her , he never seek any single word , but he wave his hand to say bye bye he walks when he was 15 month old am afraid what if it is autism every one please help me

Melissa - posted on 08/25/2012

Hang in there with the day care. I know at first it's really difficult for both the mother and the child, yet I can assure you that you will find over time that the day care workers have helped her development in too many ways to count!!

Pamela - posted on 08/22/2012

Jabeen, i have an Asperger boy (inside of the autism spectrum), and they are some aspects that must be in a behavior of a child to determine if they have autism. I read that your daughter wave bye bye, and that she laughs with a cartoon, and that she tries to imitate you. An autistic baby do not try to imitate anything, that is why they usually do not learn to wave bye until they are really trained to do that, and some of them in severe cases never do. They do not approach to someone to play, if someone is next to them some of them just stay there but they do not interact, other do not like to be sorrounded by other people. They do not point things at their first years, that is another clue. I am not an expert, but i just think that your daughter is just delayed in some things, but she will get to the right point for her age. Of course the best you can do is to go with a neuropediatrician.

Addys - posted on 08/22/2012

Jabeen, My daughter does the same, when she is watching tv or entertained doing something she won't react to her name or me calling her "baby", I have to step in front of her and then she will pay attention to me. We have noticed that at this age they only do what they like, but you have to make the effort and make it a habit to teach her words every day and practice the same thing at least 2-3 days in a row. She now says her name and a lot of words but still need help because about 50% of the words you can't understand and is frustrating for me and Im sure is frustrating for her too. But keep it a habit to make every play time a learning one, either by teaching colors, numbers or shapes. It will work out, she may just be a late talker. Good luck and make the best of the speech therapist, is all worth it. Good Luck!

Jabeen - posted on 08/22/2012

thanks every one for the advises, her hearing test was normal, the doctor recommended to go for autism assessment, but now i see lots of changes in her she turns when i call her name, but when she is busy playing she doesnt react a lot, she is trying to speak, i am going to take her for speech therapy, I really appreciate every ones help on this issue. Thank you.

Addys - posted on 08/20/2012

Hi there! don't worry too much until you see a speech therapist and the hearing doctor. I was having the same problem with my daughter (she is not 29 months, but was born premature). She was staying home with my mother and it was not working out, so I took her to a speech therapist and that help her a bit, to start recognizing the animals, and started babbling more. Soon did we realize that for her is easier to speak in English (we speak spanish and english at home, but wanted to talk to her in spanish at all times so she could learn it). After 6 month of therapy she started asking for milk and other things saying a 3 word phrase (I want ...). Her name was a big problem because she was calling herself nene. We left 2 months now in the summer and avoided the grandparents completely, now she knows her name, colors, counts 1 tru 5, asks when she wants something and knows a bunch of words. We also got her a pack of animal magnets and put them on the fridge, since she hates seating down for long periods of time, every time we go to the kitchen we go through the whole set of animals that are in the fridge, she knows them all and their noises. She loves TV so we try to put her only cartoons that teaches something. You have to see what she likes and what caught her attention more, every child is different, my therapist said she had a late speaker, and Im planning on taking her back again so she can continue learning. You have to make the time and sit with her, or make learning entertaining and playful, at this stage they hate sitting down and learning. The therapist will tell you her thoughts and what to do at home. Good Luck and I hope she starts talking soon!

Denise - posted on 08/18/2012

Jabeen. Take a breath. I hear you. You are in Canada? Right? Has she had any psychological testing? What were the results? Are there any "early intervention" programs in Canada that get Babies Can't Wait money from the government. This would make your services for her free. Does she have repetitive behaviors, or spin around and around, walk on her tip toes, or flap her arms and get excited? These are all signs of autism. Focus on one kind of toy and rejecting all others is another. Music is a self stim for them and they get very excited with flashing colors when they are stimulated. Can be hard to calm down. Also, sensory things like only eating one or two kinds of food, throwing fits in the grocery store or shopping, not responding to her name, or a request. Get the psychological testing done by a pediatric psychologist, and try to find an early intervention training program, that will help her and you. Yes, teach the sign language, and make or cut out pictures for her to point to in order to make choices. Always say the word when you sign. After awhile she will begin to sign, then she will say the word and sign, and finally, she will drop the sign and just say the word. It is a process. Email me at mrs.geo@comcast.net for questions. I am a reading specialist, and have been an Autism Supervisor, and have one child with Asperger's Syndrome. A high functioning kind of Autism. She is brilliant. We just need to get her responding and expressing herself. Google ABA Applied Behavioral Analysis). That is the kind of training you need and she needs. Email and we will talk more.

Cherish - posted on 08/07/2012

Hi,
Try looking here:
http://www.mcf.gov.bc.ca/spec_needs/link...

If you can not find anything call your children's hospital and ask them if they know of any early intervention programs...I am sure Canada has something like we do

Jabeen - posted on 08/07/2012

i am from canada and i dont think we have these services here cherish.

Jabeen - posted on 08/07/2012

Thanks Cherish, i will check the site.

Cherish - posted on 08/07/2012

My son is 10,and he has classic autism.He too would not look at me when I said his name,but would hear other things...All kids w/autism are different,and I HATE that people think that people w/autism are not happy or affectionate...My son is VERY happy,he laughs at things,he likes to cuddle and he likes attention.He has always had good eye contact.Here the the link to the CDC Early intervention web site...you can call them and they will come to your house and do a eval for free,and they will also provide free therapy if there is a needs for it.
You should also make a appointment with a developmental pediatrician(for a diagnosis)

http://www.cdc.gov/ncbddd/actearly/conce...

Jabeen - posted on 08/07/2012

Hi cherish,
she looks at things when i point it out and she waves bye bye, she likes to do things only when she likes too, she listens to me when i sing rhymes and shows the actions, she looks at cartoons and react to it when it shows something funny, she is trying to socialise with kids in her day care but most of the time she want to be with me. She doesnt follow directions but some times she do only when she likes to do.

Hi shelly,

she is very affectionate she hold me and i play with her all the time she laughs and she behaves normal, the main reason i think is she used to stay with her granny and she never spoke to her and she used to watch tv whole day and i too didnt get time to spend with her, In my husband family they say the first borns are slow and they usually speak after 3 or 4 years but i dont agree with that, my major concern was that she was not responding to her name, but as i am giving her more time and talking to her, she respond to her name but not much.
My Mother in law used to feed her something every hour so she didnt felt a need to ask for anything and if she wanted anything she would go and get it by herself.

I dont know, have a hearing test scheduled next week, but i dont think its anything related to hearing coz she hears to music and dances with it. she knows abcd and 123. she points at the alphabets and reads it.
Does her signs shows anything like autism?

Thanks every one for the advises it really matters a lot for me. I am open for suggestions. You all have a nice day.

Shelly - posted on 08/05/2012

Does she let you hold or cuddle her does she like any affection. I have a Aspergers child and have had quite a bit to do with Autistic children and they don't like change. They won't socialise at first until they are drawn out of their world and taught how to socialise to a degree. they don't like physical contact except on their terms and with who they choose. It's a case of finding out what is going on though hon. Music is a different tone to voices and music will attract a child. whatever is the proble is it definitely not your fault. You didn't do anything to cause this it is just the way she was made and think of her as specially chosen for you. that was how I thought of it with my son I believed he was chosen for me as I could give him the love and support like no other.

Shelly - posted on 08/05/2012

I am sorry hon it sounds like y our daughter does have autism but I am not expert. definitely go ahead with the hearing test and go thru all the bassic checks first. then if these come back normal I think you need to see help for yourself and your daughter as it would be a 90% chance she is Autistic. This is not the end of the world hon and with therapy you can reach her and she can achieve a lot. Don't give up hope hon these children are wonderful and full of love really you just have to know how to reach them and that is why you get therapy to learn how to reach into her world and slowly draw her out.

Cherish - posted on 08/05/2012

Hi,
Does she point to things she wants?Does she "pretend" to do things like feeding a doll,talk on the phone..etc?If you point to something and say "look" will she look at what you are pointing at?Can she follow one step directions like "get your shoes"?
Does she wave bye-bye?

Debra-Ann - posted on 08/05/2012

Do not think the worst right off the bat! Take your child for a hearing test or get a referral to anEar, Nose & Throat Specialist. It could be a central audio problem that your daughter may have. I suggest this only because I recently went through this with my daughter. She is a very focussed, artistic and bright young girl. She had a problem with her central hearing as well as her adnoids. She is a lot more attentive with me since her testing and surgery to resolve the issues.. It has helped our relationship and me some grey hairs LOL

Jabeen - posted on 08/01/2012

Thanks Alicia i will check the link and will start the sign language.

ALICIA - posted on 07/31/2012

I have another suggestion as far as getting her to at least signal when she's hungry or thirsty. Signing time is a show on public broadcasting (in the US) that teaches sign language, and is available on DVD. One entire show is devoted to eating and drinking, and it uses the words and signs together. A friend of mine has a child who didn't speak any actually words until he was 3 1/2, and this is what she used to get him speaking. He had no hearing issues, no autism, just no real desire to speak, I guess, and she had started using the signing fairly early into noticing that. It's kind of a bridge, plus there's music, and you said she really likes music. It might help.

here's a link to what I believe is the dvd she used. you can check around the page for more info as well

http://www.signingtime.com/volume-12-tim...

Kristin - posted on 07/31/2012

Think positive i am sure it is just a speech delay and with her being the first and only child it may take her longer to adjust to daycare. SOunds like your doing a wonderful job keep it up and stay positive .:)

Jabeen - posted on 07/31/2012

she started her day care this month.

Thanks Kristin, your words really helped me. I am grateful to you.
hope her test come normal..... :)

Kristin - posted on 07/31/2012

No sense in blaming yourself or feeling guilty. Parenthood is hard work and doesnt come with an instructional manual all you can do is the best you can do and love her. If it is her hearing or just a speech delay they will be able to help her i promise. How long has shee been in daycare? it took my middle son a month to get used to daycare and he cried and cried but he did get used to it. I understand your concern just try not to make it seem bigger or worse than what it really is until you get the reults from the doctor. My son had to do a hearing terst as well when he was speech delayed and his hearing was fine. He just liked to ignore me sometimes lol. I do wish you the best and hopefully you can find out results from doctor for your daughter soon. I am sure it will all be ok though.

Jabeen - posted on 07/31/2012

i hope she talks soon, but my major concern is that she doesn't respond when we call her name, literally you have to shout many times, but as the tv music plays or anything she comes running to see whats playing at the TV. I am also taking her for hearing test,this is my first child and i feel that i am the reason that she is not responding to these things i feel very bad about this.
As you mentioned in your previous post, she gets whats she wants without asking for it, this could also be the reason, she is the day care these days so that she socialise with other kids and learn from them but she is upset all the time she doesn't want to eat, she just like to be outside, when the teachers take her in she gets upset and starts crying again. I hope she get used to it soon.
I know every kid is different and have different learning time, but as the first child you are always worried as to is this normal or is there any problem.
I appreciate your help kristin, i will definitely make a note that i keep talking to her about a single things but some times it happens like i am just going on talking and she is not responding or listening to what i am talking to her. hmmm.... hope things get better soon... i am tensed these days.

Kristin - posted on 07/31/2012

It sounds silly but it really does help. My sons speech therapist taught me lots of little ways to help my sons speech improve and I talk to him about everythign, When we played toys I would say This is a nice big red firetruck with round black wheels and then I would ask him to explain a toy to me or to see if he could say the words with me. Also when driving I would ask him where the stop signs were or I would sing silly little songs about all. the cars on the road. It really does help and I always made sure to ask things in a way he wouyld have to respnd to. Dont worry your daughter will be fine and talking in no time

Jabeen - posted on 07/31/2012

Thanks Kristin... I will try to read and talk to her as much as i can.

Kristin - posted on 07/31/2012

First off take a deep breath and calm down. To me it sounds like your daughter has a speech delay, I went through the same thing with my middle son when he was 3. He was in speech for 2 years and now he is 6 and doesnt quit talking lol. Wait and see what the professionals have to say and then deal with it from there. Lots of children go into speech at young ages this is nothing to worry about. Also read to your daughter that will help her with her speech as well. Keep in mind also some kids dont talk because they dont have to or want to. If you do everything for your daughter without her having to ask or talk than thaty could be why she is not speaking as much. Try asking her is she is thirsty and wait for her to respond. Talking and reading to our kids even talking about nothing is the best way to gfet them to talk as well. This came straight from a speech therapist. If she grabs something ask her do you want the cookie and wait for her to respond. Before you know it she will be talking your ear off lol good luck and remember to breathe and be calm