My rant about the cartoon " Max and Ruby"

Cara - posted on 08/07/2011 ( 171 moms have responded )

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So my son is 3 years old, and has recently taken up some bad habits he learned from the cartoon "Max and Ruby" I really had no idea that the cartoon was teaching him bad habits until recently. So now whenever he wants something, he just walks up and blurts it out. Ex. "STRAWBERRIES!!!" Just like Max does. Now on the cartoon Max is supposed to be playing a much younger child i guess, that has no idea how to politely ask for things. So he just approaches his sister Ruby and demands whatever he wants... and ALWAYS gets it! No please no thank you, just demands, APPLE, FIRETRUCK, etc. I have tried to explain to my son that this is not the way to ask for things, that max is a baby and doesnt know how to say please or ask properly, but he still persists! Its not like i let my son watch this cartoon all day or even everyday, it just seems to come on at that time when we are having quiet time or before bed. I now check the listings ahead of time to be sure to avoid this cartoon but i find it incredibly frustrating that childrens networks play a cartoon that teaches children these things anyways. Not to mention it is just a weird cartoon. 2 rabbits that live alone, visit their grandma once in a while but have no parents? His sister doesnt really supervise him at all, Max is always getting into mischeif, and hes just plain rude! (in fact, my partners name is Max, and since seeing this cartoon i rarely call him by his name and rather use "Baby" or "hunn" because Ruby is constantly whining "Maxxxxx" in her needy naggy voice i just cant stand it! BAAAAHH! anyone have the same problem? or at least understand what im talking about? LOL

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Leslie - posted on 08/08/2011

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WOW!!! My 3 year old twins love nick jr and I havn't seen any negative effects from it, but if this thing he does bugs you so, just don't let him watch it anymore? from what i have seen there is usually a good lesson on nick jr shows(compared to other channels) I do think you might be over reacting a tad on this subject?

Amanda - posted on 05/04/2013

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maybe you should spend more time teaching your child manners instead of counting on the TV to do it for you. Max and Ruby is cute and harmless. It is meant to help toddlers understand and handle their emotions and frustrations, i.e. Ruby handles Max's annoyance with patience and understanding. You obviously have only one child if you cant appreciate the way these siblings interact. Its TV...ITS NOT REAL. if your child isnt separating fact from fiction your then maybe you should take responsibility instead of blaming television for your parental inadequacies.

Kathie - posted on 08/26/2011

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What I have noticed about Max & Ruby (aside from the lack of parents) is that Max is trying to tell Ruby something, not necessarily asking for something. Whatever her problem is, it is usually solved in the end by whatever it is he seems to be demanding. Like he knows the solution but doesn't know how to explain it.

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I have the same problem, but with a kids show called "Caillou"!! The child on the show has a horrible whine and doesn't use his manners, and is always saying "i want i want i want". Now i just turn off the tv when it comes on - my sons didnt lik it but at least they have stopped whining like Caillou!

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Liezl - posted on 05/26/2013

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I'd like to add to the ranting list. "Angelina Ballerina" is something I'd like to rant about for many of the same reasons. Luckily my LO doesn't like it much, but Angelina throws at least one temper tantrum in each show, head in her arms and screaming when she doesn't get her way, and then she gets her way in the end.
I agree that TV gives us a much needed break at times (and should be used sparingly) but we as parents really need to filter what our children are watching, because many creators of similar shows think about ratings instead of impact. Our children learn from many different places, and TV is definitely one of them.
It is important that we check the TV guide to see when our 'approved' programs for our kids are showing and turn the TV on only during those times. Most of us work so hard to try and make sure our kids get positive stimuli and are rewarded for their good behaviour; it would be a shame if this effort is countered by programs that encourage poor, negative or aggressive behaviour.
Good luck to us all; TV and general social media will be one of our big challenges while raising our kids, whether we expose them to it or not. Choose wisely!

Hamilton - posted on 05/22/2013

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Amanda you a hoe and max and ruby is based off two rabbits that had there parents eaten and with the reproduction age of a rabbit ruby could be max's mom...

Beth - posted on 04/10/2013

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I think the show couldve been better. I mean:

1. Where are the parents? In most episodes the only immediate family member present is the grandmother.

2. Ruby is controlling, exclusive, and very selfish.

3. What is wrong with Max? He only says one word when hye wants something (ex. "Candy!") No please or thank you

4. Max seems very spoiled. He always gets his way.

Andrea - posted on 01/17/2013

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my son watches this but there is no point of watching it because it DOESENT teach anything. so i dont like him watching it because it is a bad influence. now my son is in love with the show !

Ashleigh - posted on 01/07/2013

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My 4 yo tried this, so simple no more max and ruby lol.. And I always thought where the heck are their parents lol

Sara - posted on 09/26/2012

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I recently had trouble with my 3 year old saying "QUIT IT" to her friends at daycare. It was making the other kids cry, and almost making me cry when I heard what a "meanie" it seemed she was being. One evening recently while making supper, I had the tiny tv on in the kitchen while she painted at her little table. With my back turned to the tv I hear "Quit it Max".... and turn to see that it was Max & Ruby and Ruby was telling Max to quit doing something that he was doing.

Alexia - posted on 04/22/2012

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Just read some other posts on here, some made me laugh. I think it's great if you have the time to sit there and watch cartoons all day with your child, but I know that I'm too busy with housework, working part time, preschool etc. Sometimes you just can't sit down and watch tv with them, so it's best to sort out what they can and can't watch that you are happy for them to watch without you there explaining it every step of the way. Also, it's nice to have 5 mins peace to myself, tv gives me my morning tea break (like I would have if I were at work).
Also, about not letting tv be your child's teacher. As i mentioned in my first post, I let my kids watch approx 1 hour of tv a day in the mornings, and they learn other things from me and preschool throughout the day, but some of the shows on tv are very educational, and if they are learning while having fun and not realising it, what is wrong with that?
My son is 3 years old and has the vocabulary of a much older child. He also uses words like 'impressed', 'proud', 'excited', 'rediculous' in perfect context - he has picked up some of these from tv, shows that teach morals etc, so tv can't be all that bad, can it?

Alexia - posted on 04/22/2012

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lol, i know exactly what you mean. i also agree that Max and Ruby is silly, and Ruby often plays with her friend and leaves Max out, which isn't encouraging kids to learn to all play nicely together.
My kids started watching Ben 10 and Ninjago and other shows like that, but I noticed that my son in particular got more aggressive, so I have banned those shows now.
Also, "Regular Show" says things like "Don't do that, Loser!" and my kids started calling each other loser, what is tv teaching kids these days.
My kids only watch an hour of tv a day while I am doing my exercise and then having a shower in the morning, but i want to make sure that what they are watching is not going to undo the good manners etc that I have taught my kids.

Samantha - posted on 04/21/2012

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yeah my son and daughter do the same thing we have eliminated this cartoon too. My husband was always saying he didnt like the show because the rabbits didnt have any parents and they only saw there grandma every other show so he is not letting my kids watch this any more. which i agree it is not a very educational show for little kids to watch.

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There are so many cartoons that teach bad things to our young children. I never had to deal with that much arguing until my sons started watching Busytown Mysteries (thanks to the two twin pig brothers). I have definitely become more strict with what my kids can and can't watch. I don't think any tv is really appropriate for kids under 5 anymore after paying closer attention. Hard to avoid though so we as parents need to guide them thru what they do watch sometimes. Way to go on talking to your son and seeing the connection between the show and his behaviors! :)

Crystal - posted on 04/12/2012

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My son never did that but I always wondered why there isn't a mom or a dad. Ruby doesn't seems old enough to take care a Max. She has to be pretty young herself. I get why you don't want your child to watch this show. It really makes no since at all.

Tonya - posted on 04/11/2012

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well i don't know my son watches this same cartoon and loves it i do to i actually sit down and watch it with him i dont' think cartoons are suppose to make sense there cartoons as for what your son is doing tell him that's not right i think it's a great cartoon and max is 3 years old and ruby is about 7 or 8 years not sure what happened to parents and why grandma lives in other house i would expain to him that you don't think yelling out words is ok

Kristin - posted on 04/11/2012

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"I've never seen it, but a lot of cartoons have one character that is the "bad" one and they usually have a lesson somewhere in the program. I wouldn't necessarily not let your son watch the show, just don't give your son what he wants if he demands. Tell him to say please and thank you. It isn't a cartoons job to teach your child, it is your job."

I agree with the above post however...there is never a teaching point in this show. Ruby exhausts herself trying to distract, entertain and parent her brother while trying to have a life of her own at the same time. Maybe if Max learned how to say a sentence instead of shouting out one word command, Ruby might be able to help him. After Max is naughty the entire episode and Ruby drives herself nearly bat shit crazy, Max gets what he wants. There is never a pivotal learning point or any consequences for bad behavior. Also, the show is not responsible for teaching but Nick Jr. before every show says what learning topic will be depicted, so they advertise it as something that should be educational. The shows we watched as kids never claimed to teach us anything. Do I think the show will be the demise of my daughter? No, of course not but it still annoys me. Thankfully my daughter is not all that interested in it.

Megan - posted on 04/09/2012

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ROFL, my boys all love Max and Ruby. I think Ruby is a pain because she's a snob. I think it's annoying too but they love it. My boys are 5, 2, and 5 months. It's just a harmless little show that gives me a half hour break.

Jill - posted on 04/04/2012

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Yes i have the same problem with Max and Ruby, Calliou and sometimes Franklin....Which is why i make sure she never watches them when they are on. She acts up only after the shows. other then that she is very good. well mannered. I too thought i was the only one annoyed with these programs. I cant stand the whining and crying.

Amanda - posted on 04/02/2012

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Lol I hate that show!! I've always thought it was weird! Why do max and ruby live alone if they're supposed to be children? Umm where the hell are their parents? Lol. My daughter has never even seen that show..pretty much the only shows she watches are sesame street, word world and dora.. I don't mind those because they're all educational and she is learning from them! But she hardly watches TV anyways!

Erin - posted on 03/31/2012

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Ugghhh... that show is hideous... the only time it's on is I'm doing something else. lol. I try to avoid it as much as possible!!!

Melinda - posted on 03/31/2012

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In the real world, older siblings treat younger siblings in this manner - just not as nice as Ruby does to Max. She is not yelling or calling him bad names. Siblings are going to have these types of interaction with each other ALL the time. I do not see any harm with the cartoon -but then again if my daughter (3 years old) is watching any kind of TV, which is not very often, I am sitting with her watching it. If I see something bad, good, ect - I explain it out to her about what is positive or negative about the situation. It's all about teaching your kids right from wrong, while not sheltering them to much from the real world.

Momof1 - posted on 03/28/2012

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I've never seen it, but a lot of cartoons have one character that is the "bad" one and they usually have a lesson somewhere in the program. I wouldn't necessarily not let your son watch the show, just don't give your son what he wants if he demands. Tell him to say please and thank you. It isn't a cartoons job to teach your child, it is your job. And no, I'm not saying that you are letting cartoons teach your child, but it is up to you to teach right and wrong. My son will only watch Elmo or Baby Einstein. He is just getting into Blue Clues now, but I only let him watch one show a day (maybe two if he is acting up at night.)



But on another note, think about the cartoons we watched as kids. They were "worse" and for the most part most of us turned out fine. Just don't give in if he demands or pretend you can't hear him.

Brandi - posted on 03/25/2012

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I like max and ruby it is a great cartoon for my kids to watch max is not rude he is as you said a younger bunny it is a wonderful cartoon for kids you want to talk about a bad cartoon how bout regular show they cuss and talk about womens breast on there

Nicole - posted on 12/13/2011

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Max and Ruby is one of the cartoons we have never watched. It has never been an interest to my son and now I know not to stop on it. Thanks for the post!! CAILLOU is the show I absolutely will NOT let my son watch ever again. At first it wasnt a problem, my son has always been very polite. He is shy but still will tell a stranger thank you if they hold the door for us, or tells the waitress/waiter please when they ask him if he needs more drink. He is 2.5 and recently Caillou got him whining! I put the 2 and 2 together and ended it right away! Sadly I have to tell him no when he asks to watch it, but thankfully the whining has stopped (well as much as it should for a 2.5 yr old)!!

As a side note to some of these posts... DONT let cartoons be your childs early education!! My friend is kinda a lazy SAHM who just turns on the tv and lets her kids run her life and I have to say I have truly enjoyed being my sons teacher! I dont take for granted that at the moment I am able to stay home with my son!

Vikki - posted on 12/12/2011

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i totally understand, and ruby is soooo mean to max too, wtf? stupid show, hope your son can get outta that stage and i agree with the post about caillou too.

Jenn - posted on 12/08/2011

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Treehouse also says that Max is three years old...Um if he is three then he has some SERIOUS developmental and speech delays going on! o_O

Jenn - posted on 12/08/2011

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READ THIS: It explains that although you cannot see the parents they are always nearby?!?! Still makes no sense to me as Ruby is basically raising Max. And she is really mean to him, always ignoring him or shoving him off to do something else. Usually he ends up solving the problem but she treats him like an idiot. Anyways this is what Treehouse Channel (The channel Max and Ruby is on in Canada) has to say about it:

http://treehousetv.com/watch/shows/Maxan...

Raquel - posted on 12/08/2011

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Im always asking myself that same question! Where are the parents????
My daughter enjoys the show, and when we do watch it, we watch it together. I'm always complaining how max is bad mannered and how Ruby isnt very good at listening to Max and how she's kind of selfish because she almost always wants to do what she wants.
Anyway as long as my daughter is still into the show I don't mind her watching it... she hasnt learn anything bad from it.

Amanda - posted on 12/08/2011

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I couldn't agree more! I also have thought it strange that they didn't live with their parents. And why does he always get what he wants? That's not a very responsible way to entertain children. While it may be a little cute to see a bunny saying "train" every 5 min., it can get a little annoying in real life I can imagine. You just sick to your guns and make sure he is very clear about the fact that you do NOT think it's cute. He'll get it eventually when he doesn't always get what he wants, lol Good luck!

Bobmusicgirl4 - posted on 12/08/2011

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My question, how are these bad habits unable to be phased out? I also hate to be the bearer of bad news, but kids copy what's on TV All The Time. I did when I was growing up- it was fun for me. Imitation is the best form of flattery too, so don't necessarily think it's a bad thing that he's copying something. At least he's human~that's the good thing lol

Letece - posted on 12/07/2011

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my daughter doesnt like the cartoon and it always comes on after spongebob or dora the explorer in the morning at 8. she always begs me to change the channel when it comes on and we are still getting ready for school.

Danielle - posted on 12/06/2011

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My daughter is 2 she will not be 3 til jan 21. and she watches max and ruby spongebob dora. she is very smart. she has excellent manners. try umi zoomie she has learned alot from that show. she knows the shape star and square because of spongebob and can count to 12 from unizoomie. max and ruby she watches but has not picked up on any of that she has ezxcellent manners

Christina - posted on 12/05/2011

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I have a 3 year old and she began doing the same thing. So I do not let her watch it anymore. I told her when she would request things with one word, I wasnt speaking to her until she used sentences, as she knew how. I do not understand that show...as you said, where are the parents???

Tiffani - posted on 12/02/2011

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Ok wow so I thought it was just me, my girlfriends all say I'm nut's because I WON'T let my daughter watch Caillou or max and ruby and acouple others because of the same problem. They teach nothing good, and if they do it's at the end of the show like Caillou is being a brat and kept saying "no I don't want to" he didn't wanna share a toy or what ever! so at the end the mom is like " Caillou sharing is nice" well My soon to be 3year old doesnt get that or by the end has lost intrest and isnt even watching it anymore by that time!..ughhh Im kinda fed up with these cartoons for kids, They say they are for toddlers but I really dont believe so, and if they are they need to get someone that has kids to write new ones that actually teach our kids good things and NOT how to be a brat and not share and scream out things why want or need! My daughter can do that ALL on her own! ;)

Amanda - posted on 12/01/2011

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I CAN TOTALLY AGREE WITH YOU. I TOTALLY UNDERTSAND WHAT YOU ARE SAYING AND MY 2 YEAR OLD DOES THE SAME THING WELL I ACTUALLY SAT DOWN WITH HER ONE DAY AND WE WERE WATCHING MAX & RUBY, I WAS LOST FOR WORDS! SHE WAS ACTING EXACTLY LIKE MAX I TOTALLY UNDERTSTAND WHAT YOU ARE SAYING

Erin - posted on 11/28/2011

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I love Max & Ruby and Caillou. For us what is helpful w/ both shoes is they show how to be patient with a younger sibling who doesn't know, much less follow the same rules as their older peers. I find it teaches patience. On a seperate note, I thought maybe mom & dad were missing & Grandma was taking care of the bunnies & it was her house ;)
We hold our children accountable for ALL of their good & bad behavior choices... not TV nor friends at school. Recently our 8 yr old started being mean & sarcastic & would finish this up by saying "just kidding" all kidding aside there have been serious consequenses to this for him & I am happy to say he is making better choices at home... Now, he may do this & before he says just kidding says, "sorry, that was mean"... I am sure he has seen / learned this behavior from school; but unless I am willing to home school him, throw away the TV, internet, everything; I have to teach him to make good choices & learn to do what is right :)

Jodie - posted on 11/25/2011

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I have just looked it up and Max is three years old so yes, I agree with you about it being a bad influence because most three year olds are capable of asking politely.

Amanda - posted on 11/22/2011

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yep, same here.. also cut my child from Caillou.. that child is the most bratty piece of poop cartoon i have ever seen.. he's such a brat with his THAT'S MINE! my well mannered, innocent boy never even knew that word existed before that show.. same with the THIS! FIRETRUCK! WATER! thing from max and ruby... smh... where are these rabbits parents?

Joyi - posted on 11/22/2011

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I thought Yo Gabba Gabba was nuts until I realized that it was teaching beat and music and whatnot to young kids. Just think of it as today's version of "The Electric Company." Plus it is pretty funny to watch all the celebs come on and do the Dancy Dance. So far all I have ever seen are positive messages presented in goofy ways... pretty funny stuff if you grew up in the 80's!

Lori - posted on 11/22/2011

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Does anyone like yo gabba gabba? I think its crazy but it doesn't seem to send any bad messages so Idk

Bobmusicgirl4 - posted on 11/22/2011

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I'm sorry but all I can do is laugh! I guess all you can do is just enforce the "please" and "thank you's" and try to explain that is baby talk? Make him want to be a big boy! That'll distract him!

Lori - posted on 11/22/2011

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My 2.5 yr old daughter watched the max n ruby Halloween and she is now mentioning ghosts and she afraid of ghosts! We never mentioned ghosts to her so I kno its from the Halloween special on max n ruby ... All in all it is a decent cartoon

Brenda - posted on 11/22/2011

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I don't like that cartoon, if you watch it you'll see that Max always has a bas behaviour and his sister Rudy can't control him. Besides why does his sister is always taking caer of him??? I totally agree with you Cara.

Bekie - posted on 11/21/2011

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A for sure episoad was, some one was havimg a birthday party and mom was preping the party talking about friends and grandma comeing.But you never see moms face just the bottem of her scirt! it's not hard to miss her when you never see her face just her scirt!

Joyi - posted on 11/21/2011

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LOL, I have watched Max & Ruby a million and one times and have NEVER seen a mother or father... so, I have to admit that I have wondered about that myself. However the cartoon is based on whatever word Max uses... i.e. strawberry; he will use only that one word for the entire cartoon and it will end up being the answer to Ruby's problem. I am guessing that Max's role is to teach very young children what a "strawberry" is - since toddlers tend to learn by repetition. If Max ever said more than the one word, then the cartoon, Max & Ruby, would not be Max & Ruby. It would be like the teacher in Charlie Brown actually talking instead of doing that weird, "whooomp, waaa, wa, whoomp" thing.

Bekie - posted on 11/19/2011

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Wow!In our home we monitor age appropriate thing for our children to watch. Any thing teaching hate or tantrums, or hedronormitive thinking, violence, or inequality, things this show never promotes. I feel you should rethink why you have decided you don’t like this show. They do have a mommy and she appears every so often, but the show is about the kid not their mommy. Max is a toddler and his older sister give him what he wants because she is learning responsibility in the “caring” of her younger broth. This helps my oldest to handle his younger sibling. Instead of fighting over it He now just shares. There are worse thing they could teach but they don’t teach to not ask “politely” it didn’t come up to the child characters, but often Rudy and her friends use Please and Thank you encouraging politeness. Children learn much more from what they see the adults in there life’s do than the characters in their favorite shows!Now I know its tough I don’t say please every time I want some thing but I always say thank you, and our youngest is having trouble too. He wont so please but he says thank you! Do jump to blame the show!

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