my two years old son does not talk not even a single word.

Donna - posted on 04/17/2013

My son turned 2 in January. (It's April now). I don't like to calculate his age in months because it forces me to compare him to other children, developmentally. My son is very sensitive, just as I was growing up. I thrived on routine because it meant stability and security. Our little ones don't have ANY control over ANYTHING. (See studies on anal retention). I am O.C.D. My son has autistic traits/tendencies but he has enough control to stop if I request it verbally and loud. I don't yell, but we are around each other all of the time so he has learned how to zone me out at normal volumes. At any rate, I see that he is ready to communicate, but he looks at me like he has a really big secret to tell me, but he just doesn't know how. He used to say Mamamamama... and Dadadadada... Then once, and ONLY once he said: "Byyyyye" - when his father was leaving for work. His father is his favorite person in the whole world. I can tell it hurts him a lot every moment they are apart. I give him cookies and a pep-talk every day when his daddy leaves, or else he will literally lay down on the floor next to the door and sulk. It breaks my heart. I think that by having his little brother when he was only 1 year old did a lot of irreversible damage to our relationship and his trust in me. I was so scared of Autism and what that would mean for him. We haven't ruled it out yet, but would you believe just a few days ago, we were going through a game of online flashcards and when he saw a monkey on the screen, I looked at his mouth and not a single peep escaped him, not even the slightest sound but his mouth formed the word: "Monkey" perfectly. He grunts a lot, doesn't point - but I am always there to give him anything I think he would want or need. We make a game, I will mimic his grunts and he will giggle and make a new grunt. He doesn't make eye contact, but I will sometimes hold his spoon up between my eyes so he accidentally looks at me. He spins until he falls down dizzy but I ask him to stop "or else we won't go outside and play on the swing!" (Something he enjoys if he's bored with playing). He used to hand flap, but he 'grew out' of that. He shows signs of oral fixation with every toy, but I tell him not to put things in his mouth, then he realizes he's doing it and stops. I used to secretly suck my thumb until I was a pre-teen because I had security issues, so I make sure I am there for my son. He used to walk on his toes, but I did as a child and I remember doing it - so I would on occasion walk by my son and push the top of his head down and tell him: "Don't walk on your toes, honey.. No one likes a toe-walker". I know that last one seems cruel, but I had to nip that in the bud, I did it until I was 12 and everyone just pretended not to notice. Later I realized how strange it looked and that's why I had few friends. Be sure your child KNOWS that you have nothing but love and respect, unconditional love and support at all times. The toe walking was my regret, I never should have said that to him and I will never say anything negative to my son again and I told him how sorry I am.

Donna - posted on 04/17/2013

My son turned 2 in January. (It's April now). I don't like to calculate his age in months because it forces me to compare him to other children, developmentally. My son is very sensitive, just as I was growing up. I thrived on routine because it meant stability and security. Our little ones don't have ANY control over ANYTHING. (See studies on anal retention). I am O.C.D. My son has autistic traits/tendencies but he has enough control to stop if I request it verbally and loud. I don't yell, but we are around each other all of the time so he has learned how to zone me out at normal volumes. At any rate, I see that he is ready to communicate, but he looks at me like he has a really big secret to tell me, but he just doesn't know how. He used to say Mamamamama... and Dadadadada... Then once, and ONLY once he said: "Byyyyye" - when his father was leaving for work. His father is his favorite person in the whole world. I can tell it hurts him a lot every moment they are apart. I give him cookies and a pep-talk every day when his daddy leaves, or else he will literally lay down on the floor next to the door and sulk. It breaks my heart. I think that by having his little brother when he was only 1 year old did a lot of irreversible damage to our relationship and his trust in me. I was so scared of Autism and what that would mean for him. We haven't ruled it out yet, but would you believe just a few days ago, we were going through a game of online flashcards and when he saw a monkey on the screen, I looked at his mouth and not a single peep escaped him, not even the slightest sound but his mouth formed the word: "Monkey" perfectly. He grunts a lot, doesn't point - but I am always there to give him anything I think he would want or need. We make a game, I will mimic his grunts and he will giggle and make a new grunt. He doesn't make eye contact, but I will sometimes hold his spoon up between my eyes so he accidentally looks at me. He spins until he falls down dizzy but I ask him to stop "or else we won't go outside and play on the swing!" (Something he enjoys if he's bored with playing). He used to hand flap, but he 'grew out' of that. He shows signs of oral fixation with every toy, but I tell him not to put things in his mouth, then he realizes he's doing it and stops. I used to secretly suck my thumb until I was a pre-teen because I had security issues, so I make sure I am there for my son. He used to walk on his toes, but I did as a child and I remember doing it - so I would on occasion walk by my son and push the top of his head down and tell him: "Don't walk on your toes, honey.. No one likes a toe-walker". I know that last one seems cruel, but I had to nip that in the bud, I did it until I was 12 and everyone just pretended not to notice. Later I realized how strange it looked and that's why I had few friends. Be sure your child KNOWS that you have nothing but love and respect, unconditional love and support at all times. The toe walking was my regret, I never should have said that to him and I will never say anything negative to my son again and I told him how sorry I am.

November - posted on 03/24/2013

My son does the same thing as well.He gets impatient too...I too understand what he wants but I feel like I have to run in and get whatever he wants before he screams or cries...and yes it can be tiring especially when u truly are focusing on helping him or trying to show him....I know we do see progress but then we just want him to talk.Never give up!It will work out...God will do it!I won't give up.

Corrina - posted on 11/15/2012

Hello, im in the same boat, how did your little one get on?

Patricia - posted on 11/04/2012

do you have this little toy called called the see and say ?its a pretty cool little toy that helps the little ones say letters or sounds or words,they have different ones,but yes I would check with your childs ped. and let him know your concerns good luck mom

Morgan - posted on 11/03/2012

To Rachel...I understand your concern regarding phychological effect on children that are abused and neglected but i dont feel that this mom needed to be told that!! If she were abusing her child i dont think she would have the care to reach out to other moms regarding her childs issue. On the other hand..my child has autism. On the outside world people may look at my child and say..woe that child is bad or is he ever spoiled..but its not like that nor did i ignore, keep my child in a playpen or not kiss hug, show affection! Some childrenare developmentally delayed and are not able to express there feelings verbally resulting in negative behaviour. Please feel free to google speech delay and behaviour or even autism for that matter so that the next time you see or read something regarding childrens behavior you wont jump to conclusion that its the parenting to blame..thanks

Rachael - posted on 11/01/2012

For parents that are having delayed vocal response in their children, it is necessary to over-indulge into physical attention like hugging, kissing, and showing emotional value. There is a time where children refuse to speak based off of lack of attention- particularly if this is the main issue. I am not speaking for biological problems, but psychological ones. If parents have been putting their child in a play-pen and ignoring their cries and needs of communication, the child will learn to depend on themselves and will have no need to communicate with their parents. This disconnection can lead to verbal communication issues. Trust and self worth are very important parts of the child-parent relation. Self worth is identified to the child when the parent listens, communicates back to the child (even if the parents cannot fully understand what the child might be saying). This promotes self-worth in the child and also indicates the need for physical attention and the constant touch from parent to child. They are all necessities to developing balance in the subconscious.

Physical abuse might also have a part to play in the disconnection between you and your child. Even considering a simple slap on the bum or hand. Its a breach of trust regardless if the incident may have occurred only once. They are large step-backs in trust to which you will have to rebuild on.

You have to figure out where your parenting might be causing this issue on a psychological point before considering any biological factors in the matter.



Hope this helps.

Morgan - posted on 11/01/2012

Sounds to me like autism! have him assessed by a pediatric developmental specialist..the earliestintervention the better.

Angie - posted on 10/30/2012

After seeing our neurologist in Dec of 2011 she diagnosed my son with Landau Kleffner Syndrome. Basically a seizure based disorder that affects speech and comprehension. We now see a neuro in Chicago, ill and have seizures under control but a year later still no speech. He is in several meds and is making more sounds than a year ago like mama etc. Were learning sign language. Lks normally affects kids between 3-8 I think.? But it varies

Bianca - posted on 10/29/2012

My son did that, it's speech regression. Not trying to scare you, but it's a classic early warning sign of autism. Please google classic early warning signs of autism and take to your doctor about having him evaluated. Or you can talk to me and I can help.

Rachael - posted on 10/27/2012

You might want to pick up a couple of books on infant behaviour. It might be able to help you understand what he is going through. It seems like his aggressiveness is pent up frustration. Try to think about what could be frustrating him? Is he not getting enough emotional/social attention at home? There are different types of attention. Which one are you giving him? He might be feeling that you are not paying attention to him- truly paying attention by understanding his needs and desires. Try listening to him, talk to him like a person- not baby talk. Make him feel like he matters and that you do see and notice him. Point to things and tell them what they are. Teach him about your world.

David - posted on 10/27/2012

Hello, this child of 10 years understands but doesn't speak. He can find things when asked to, but uses only gestures to demand aid. I'm thinking of investigating ' Skinners Behavioural Therapy', Applied Behaviour Analysis,... Any ideas anyone about how to start the construction of verbal response ?

Maria - posted on 09/29/2012

Hi how is your son now? My 2 year old has the same symptoms and I am so worried. He likes to run around, walks sometimes on his toes......

Marie - posted on 08/22/2012

My son said same words but. Not much he 2 year old

Trisha - posted on 09/28/2011

i would definitely talk to ur dr. they referred my son to early intervention. my son sees a special instructor for his speech issues and will start seeing a speech therapist when he turns 2. he also sees an occupational therapist for his sensory issues. these are common among autistic kids, altho he isnt autistic. there is a website u should check out. www.sensorysmartpartent.com
hope this helps!!!

Elizabeth - posted on 09/26/2011

my son has issues like this, we notice his speech delay and then loss of the few words he did have and ultimately he has been diagnosed as being autistic. i would suggest seeing a developmental pediatrician...

Andrea - posted on 09/25/2011

My son didn't really speak at 2. Looking back, he didn't even babble as a baby. He would just make a coo noise. He did point at what he wanted, and shake his cup at me when he wanted a drink. But, he didn't talk. I would tell his doctor. My son's doctor referred him to a speech therapist. He has an expressive speech delay. Which means, there is nothing 'wrong' except that he is behind on his speech. He is almost five now, and has gone to speech therapy for the last three years. A stranger can understand 75% of what he says, which is an amazing improvement. I would tackle this as soon as possible. The earlier you start, the quicker you see results. Good Luck!

Amber - posted on 09/25/2011

Please do not take offense, but it almost sounds like autism! Has your pediatrician mentioned having any concerns? It could just be that he doesn't have to say or point to anything because you know what he needs/wants?!?! I would definitely make it a point to speak to your childs doctor, and might even ask the opinion of another as well! Maybe he just needs some speech therapy?!?! I have an almost 3 year old nephew that really doesn't talk much, but the problem with him is that he doesn't have to...he's the 4th boy! So all of the older kids always either talked for him or knew what he needed/wanted! Better to be safe than sorry, most things can be easily corrected if found out early, so talk to the doctor! Good luck!





I guess I should have looked further when I posted and read more comments...lol. I just saw your update! I hope they figure out the seizures and can get him back to 100%! Good luck and God bless!

Angie - posted on 09/24/2011

update on my post from 7/14/11: in addition to having my son's hearing checked we now have seen a psychologist who thought it could be a form of autism. We had a full blood panel done including a lead test and that all came back ok. I pushed to have an eeg done and they actually found that he is having seizures. not sure what the extent of them are, so we have to see a neurologist at riley outpatient center in oct. in the meantime he has started pre-k a couple days a week and has been put on "phenobarbitol" to help control seizures. we've also had a speech eval. done so that he can hopefully get therapy in that area soon. he has been "trying" to verbalize more but really isn't saying anything at all now. my advice to any mother(or father) is that you know your kids better than anyone, if you feel like something isn't right take them to the doctor. and don't be afraid to insist on or ask about certain tests. just because they have a degree doesn't make them experts on every kid!

Angie - posted on 09/24/2011

I am having some of the same problems with my 4 year old. you may consider taking him to the doctor and having his hearing checked. we've done that, had blood tests drawn, saw a pyschologist who thought it may be autism and finally an eeg that showed he is having seizures. can't hurt to see what his doctor says. good luck

CHRISTINA - posted on 09/24/2011

take it easy... my nephew did nt talk till he was 2 half even we got really worreid ..while my daughter is talkin non stop she is almost 2.

Adrienne - posted on 09/21/2011

My son just turned 2 in June, he says a few words maybe 5 definitely NOT 10 and he does not say them clearly. He yells and bangs his head on the wall or slaps himself, runs around in circles and walks on his toes. I have taken him to the doctor continuously and they say that he is well socialized, (I have 12 brothers and sisters, 2 other sons and tons of neices and nephews) and he says a few words so they dont believe he is Autistic because of those two reasons. he rolls his eyes and stares up into the air when people are talking to him but, on the occasions that he "wants" to do what he is told, you know that he understands what you are saying to him he just chooses to ignore it. My husband tells me not to worry because he didnt speak until he was almost 3 so, we have decided that we will take him to a specialist if he doesnt say more than a few words by 30 months it is very frustrating though dealing with his tantrums and fear of him hurting himself. It is also uppsetting feeling like there is something wrong and having so many people saying there is nothing to worry about. I wish you the best of luck and I hope that soon he will be talking your ear off so much that you wonder why you were ever concerned with him not saying anything. Peace and blessings to you.

Julie - posted on 07/17/2011

he is just showing that he is getting frustrated cause we dont understand just show him that its okaybto be like this and maybe get him to watch something special its a kids programme that teaches kids makaton using the hands to communicate but also it maybe helpful to watch with him/her to have an understanding of the makaton i know this cause my toddler would nt show signs of talking and then we watched the programme and he picked it up and also repeat the words to him as he shows these signs

Alisa - posted on 07/16/2011

I just posted on another post just like this. The difference between you and the mother of the 3 and 4 year olds, is that if you live in a state that has a First 5 program, chances are you will have services paid for up until age 3 in your home. This is fantastic. Our speech therapist comes into our home two times a week, and they do an evaluation every 6 months by the County Office of Education. Please email me if you would like further information. It is all self referral, so it is very important that as a parent, you seek the services, and contact your pediatrician and your Early Intervention Services. Hope this helps!

Julie - posted on 07/16/2011

this is normal as i have a three yr old as he has only just started to pick up words properly try to enroll him/her on a speech and language through a sure start in your area it really helps ive gone through it all so i know how you feel ie try putting on something special it help them pick up words and makaton which they can communicate with their hand but also look up makaton on your comp or in books as you will need refernce for the hand comminication if you need more info email me on juliepacker@hotmail.co.uk

Angie - posted on 07/14/2011

my son is almost 4. A yr ago he was dutchy but could say quite a few words. As of 6 mos. ago he is barely saying 10 words, he points and babbles a lot! He stomps and hits some mostly because I think he's frustrated that we don't understand him. At first I thought he was just being stubborn or lazy but it went on too long. I stopped his older brother from speaking for him. We took him to his doctor and have had his hearing tested and it's fine. The doc doesn't think it's autism because he is good in every other aspect. We have been referred to a psychologist and we are having blood tests done. We may have to have an eeg. But as of right now we have no idea what caused his loss of milestones. I would definetly take your son to the doc and see what they say! It can't hurt!

Leanna - posted on 07/14/2011

I agree with everyone that you should go get him checked out... But sometimes you are just over worrying yourself. My son is only 16 months old and has a vocabulary of about 14 words by now. Does he use them all the time, no. He also used to point at things and say that. He doesn't do that with me anymore but he does it with his grandparents. It is very common for toddlers to not say anything unless they REALLY want to say something. They are very self-centered at this age.
STILL! I would go get him checked out just in case. I hope everything is alright and he's just being a toddler.

Becky - posted on 07/14/2011

My daughter was sorta the same way, she had a lot of delays after her seizures started. I had tharipist tell me to point to my mouth when when I am talking make sure that they are watching and even though i didn't like they taught my daughter a few signs in sign langauge, which really helped to find out what she was wanting or needing.. But yeah I agree with the other mothers get him looked at by his ped doctor..

I went through a lot with my daughter with this like I said, she started crawling late and she started eating on her own then she quit, she wasn't talking other then mama and dada. Her birth-to-3 team got me in touch with alot of helpful people, a child phicoligist and now at 3 1/2 shes now starting to feed herself again. And her speech has picked up with the thanks of her speech tharipist.

Samantha - posted on 07/13/2011

I have heard before that when they are starting a new milestone sometimes they will fall back. My son was two in May and hardly says anything. A few words but he is far from quiet. I took him to a speech therapist which didn't go all too well so they reccomended early intervention. Did he have his two year well visit yet? If not I would definitely schedule that and see what your pediatrican has to say.

Shawn - posted on 06/14/2011

My daughter is 18 months old. The only thing she says is Dada and occasionally Mama. Now if she wants something, she will point to it and say "Ahhhhh". I tell her to go get it, (let's say it's a ball) and she will bring it to me. I then repeat the word ball over and over. She won't actually SAY it, but it comes out like "all". All of my children were like this, and I have 4 of them. They are 24 years, 17, 10 and my 18 month old. Everyone says to go to the doctor-I wouldn't rule that out, but I WILL tell you that my doctor said that reading to him/her will help them learn to speak better. Just one gals opinion. Hope everyones advice helps.

Jennifer - posted on 06/13/2011

Yes definately take him to see his doctor. My daughter is language delayed, however was saying words before and then lost them. There is a free service called ECI (Early Childhood Intervention) that your doctor can recommend to you. It is free if your son qualifies and is for upto age 3. They have therapists that come to your home and work with your child with you there. We did this with our daughter and she is now getting speech therapy through the school district (since age 3). She is now 3 1/2 and really starting to try and talk. Mostly 2 to 3 word sentences. Also we used Meet the Letters by PreSchool Prep DVD and it taught her the Alphabet in 2 months.
Good luck and best wishes.

Tanya - posted on 06/13/2011

I agree with the others. You don't want to panic, but you should have your son seen by a doctor. Have you tried using sign language to communicate with your son? If he takes to signing, then it may alleviate his frustration (and aggressiveness) until he learns to speak again. One of my friends has a son who wasn't diagnosed with autism until he was 4, but the signs showed up much earlier. He had made sounds before he was 2 and then stopped suddenly. With the proper therapy, he first learned signs and then how to speak and now he's doing really well. The biggest relief early on for his parents came from the diagnosis and the ability to communicate through signs until he could speak.

Jennifer - posted on 06/12/2011

My friend's son who is now going to be 6 in Oct (2 weeks younger than my older daughter) was delayed in his speech when he was younger. It turned out he had been a preemie which his pedi at the time had managed to miss and had a bunch of problems as a result, one of them was hearing loss. He started speech therapy and had several operations done, I believe, and after that he started talking nonstop lol and thriving. BUT, I think he did point. That's just an example that I can think of similar to that. Like the ohters said, taking it up with his pedi and having him evaluated is his best bet. Also perhaps ask his dr. if they think speech therapy would be beneficial.

Katherine - posted on 06/12/2011

I would definitely get him screened for an autism spectrum disorder. And early intervention.

He' digressed and that; one of the signs.

Alache Mary - posted on 06/11/2011

I totally agree with others, you need to discuss this with his pediatrician to have him fully evaluated so that you can rule out all the possibilities that he has autism or hearing problems. while most pple think girls develope faster than boys, i really think its nothing to panic about. but the sooner you talk to the Doctor, the better for your peace of mind

Teresa - posted on 06/08/2011

I agree w/ the others. Take him to the doctor and have him evaluated as soon as possible. The sooner you know what's going on.... the sooner he can get any help he may need.

Hannah - posted on 06/08/2011

Please take your son to see a Dr. This could be Autism, this could be hearing issues, this could be nothing, or a whole host of things. Your son may be aggressive because he cant communicated (imagine how frustrating that would be?!) and there are a whole slew of reasons why he can't communicate. I don't want to worry you, because this is obviously NOT a life threatening issue. However it is something that needs to be evaluated by a medical profession tomake sure your son is continuing to devllope on track!

Kelly - posted on 06/08/2011

Hi! That's about the age i started asking a lot of questions to my doctor about my son. He too said dada and maybe one other word but then stopped and wasn't pointing or playing with toys. I took him to his doctor and asked that he be evaluated by a developmental pediatrician, You should do the same, don't wait anymore.. I wish I wouldn't have waited till my son was 2! In our case, my son was diagnosed with Autism and we got him started in an Early Intervention program. I would get the same suggestions from people about giving him time and girl develop faster but in my gut I know something wasnt right. So, if you feel the same way, don't wait another day, call your doctor and get him evaluated asap. God bless you and your son!!!

Brandy - posted on 06/08/2011

you should have him checked for sure it sounds like it could be something like autism but im deffinatly not a professional thats just a speculation

Desiree - posted on 06/07/2011

I would deffinatly get his doctor/ped involved in this. Especially since he was verbalizing and now seems to have stopped. It could be a phase, but if there is something else going on then the earlier you intervene the better it will be for him! Good luck!

April - posted on 06/06/2011

hi.
That must be really scary. have you taken him to the Dr? Was he a preemie? My cousin has two little boys who were preemies and had a hard time with speech development. They are 6 now and I can just now start to understand what they are saying. I wouldnt panic before speaking with a doctor. A speech therapist is also a good person to contact. The crying and aggressiveness is most likely from his lack of ability to communicate, not other reasons. So if you can talk to someone about his communication, i would imagine that it would start to fix the behavior issues. My little girl is 20 months old and when she is trying to tell us something that we dont understand she throws a fit because she is so frustrated.
i hope you can take him to a dr soon because you need to know what is going on and see if there is anything you can do to help him. Also know that boys develop slower than girls and sometimes speech is delayed. Having said that, i would get his hearing checked, get him screened for autism and see a speech therapist as soon as possible. Good luck. I hope everything is ok!