Need YOUR Help!!! Plays with penis!!

Torijackson21 - posted on 07/13/2011 ( 18 moms have responded )

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How do I stop my 2 year old from being able to access his diaper. He LOVES to play with his penis so much so that I constantly have to change him because he pees ALL over himself. Things we've tried BUT to no avail.

Putting a onesies on...he enters through the side. Putting a sleeper on ALL day....he unzips it. Putting his clothes on backwards....he just lifts it up. Putting him in several layers of clothes....he just goes through each layer to get into his diaper. We've tried endless tricks! We change his clothes min 7-10 times a day!!! What can we do?????

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Norma - posted on 02/14/2015

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Dear Mom,I am a mom of many kids,and I do not understand what the problem is...why in the world do you think it is "wrong 'for him to do sometimes play with his penis.~~~Did someone Tell you this,perhaps when YOU were a child?~~~All boys do this from infancy onward,in all the history of the world....they are just discovering a small amount of pleasure and comfort.very normal and natural.Parents many times thinl that infants or small children,when they do this are the same as adults`` this is ,as all child therapy experts will tel you is not the case at all.They know nothing of sex The same is true of infant and child erections,which are very normal and natural,and have nothing to do with sex.Part of the problem may be that he is allways covered,and may feel imprisioned.,too restricted.Try to give him a lot of "uncoverd time" so he feel more free and less likly to become obsessed. By yiou,mom,becoming kind of "obcessed "in restricting him so much ,this may be a major part of the dynamics of what is happening.

Taylor - posted on 07/21/2012

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No marcie people that concerned about it allow religion to dictate their thinking. No matter what YOU do your child will stay interested. Oh YOU might never see it but he/she will still do it.

Chelsea - posted on 07/23/2012

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I also respectfully disagree with the notion that masturbation should be lumped into the same category as hitting, spitting, ect. Masturbation is a totally natural part of growth.. Suppressing and shaming that creates more problems than good in my opinion. This doesn't mean I would ever encourage my kids (toddler or teenager) to so it but if they choose that on their own then that's their own business. It is their body!!

Chelsea - posted on 07/23/2012

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I know plenty of little boys as well as little girls who touch themselves. Yea it might feel nice to them but I don't necessarily think its sexual.. It's just them exploring what they've got.. I think that telling them that touching themselves is naughty is goin to eventually make them feel embarrassed or ashamed of their bodies. I totally agree with letting them know their boundaries and when and where they can do it but it is their body. They should be aloud to figure it out and feel proud of what they've got.. Just because a toddler touches him or herself does not mean they are going to be disrespectful, ruined individuals. The world
isn't going to end because a little boy played with his penis.. he will eventually grow out of it

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Chelsea - posted on 07/24/2012

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It's ok I didn't realize I was the one being attacked.. I was just trying to respectfully put in my 2 cents.. No harm done. Everyone is entitled to their opinions and lifestyle choices. What's the point in joining a community like this if you can't deal with the fact that people have varying opinions?? :)

Marcie - posted on 07/24/2012

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Chelsea and Taylor, I am sorry for attacking you. That was very stupid of me. I hope the best for all of us.

Taylor - posted on 07/23/2012

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Chelsea when people are ultra religious in their beliefs the logical part of their brain usually fails to function anymore.

Taylor - posted on 07/23/2012

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Marcie a childs personal beliefs are going to be the one that determine if they have sex or any of that. You can be the most religious in the world, teach them all the morals YOU believe and they will still have sex when THEY decide to. It's best to teach them the value of thinking logically before they make the choice to have sex, and to protect themselves if they do. The more of a forbidden fruit you make it the more likely it is to occur. And if your way is SO well and good, then why is it the states with the highest church going attendance,abstinence only policies have the highest rates of teen pregnancy? Seems to me that the methods YOU use don't really pop out the finest results now do that. Do what you want with your kids, but you foolish to believe that your child will actually stop. All the kid will do is do it when he/she believes they can get away with it. Then again you strike me as the type who will be amazed when your daughter comes home pregnant at 17.



My mother was just like you and it pretty much failed on all levels. Unless you live in a bubble raising kids like that is near impossible in todays society.

Taylor - posted on 07/21/2012

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And to the OP stop fighting it and just let the boy enjoy himself. Simply allow him certain areas *room,bathroom,tub* in which he can play with his penis to his hearts content. After awhile he will get bored with it and move onto other things anyway. You fighting it will just make him more determined to do it.

Marcie - posted on 07/21/2012

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I think that people who are concerned about the penis touching are people who have a concern for morals. So saying that this act of touching his penis is normal is like saying that spitting and hitting is normal, or that never learning to speak is normal. When would it be appropriate to spit at other children? When is it appropriate to hit? Is it appropriate for the boy to sit in his room and hit himself in the face, spit at his walls? No. These things are not appropriate, therefore you teach them in as many ways as you can, that it is not how we act as people. I don't want my son being interested in sexuality right now. As a parent, it is my responsibility to teach my child how to be a healthy, good, and moral part of society.

One last thing, as parents we are to teach our children things that they don't know so that they can develop healthy relationships, contribute to society, give and take instruction, in short order, survive. So it is a good thing to teach our kids to read, to sit still, to help with chores, to brush their teeth, music and art, science and math, to teach them manners and morals. To allow your children to do what they want, experimenting with their genitals, as long as it is in private, will only bridge the gap to playing with the genitals of others in private. What is the penis used for? Well right now, it is for peeing. Later it will be for sexual reproduction and to build a bond with his wife. Don't make the mistake of letting boys be boys. That is not how you build a healthy society.

I would like to add, that I don't think that you should spank or punish your boy severely when he is caught playing with himself, but there are moral points to be won in helping your child past this obstacle. We are human beings with potential. We can read, write, and invent. But to do these things, we must first be equipped with these skills. Manners and methods are all skills that need to be developed.

User - posted on 06/26/2012

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Plz plz help my 2 yr old son is potty trained and takes his pants off and will ait and play with i ha e told him to stop coz its naughty but he still plays with it

Jacquie - posted on 08/22/2011

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If he plays with his penis when he has to pee maybe try to potty train him then you dont have to change him all the time, if you see him play with it put him straight on his potty and wait for him to pee

Sandie - posted on 07/14/2011

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ooh, i forgot to say, make sure he has clean hands when he's playing with it, and make sure he's cleaned thouroughly at nappy changes. my son has had balonitis (infection under the foreskin) a couple of times, and its very common because they like to play so much. as long as his little hands are clean should be ok. x

Sandie - posted on 07/14/2011

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my son is 2 and he loves to pull his penis out over the top of his nappy and then just walk about with it sticking out, lol.

if he has a baby vest on then he doesnt do it because he hasnt figured he can get in the side yet, but its so hot he's not wearing them at the moment. i just check him every now and then and if its sticking out then i just poke it back in. he's never weed on himself after doing this yet. he just likes to pull it out so he can see it, then he runs to me and points at it shouting "mummy look, willy willy!"

just check your little one every so often and poke it back in, i let him have a good play at bathtime, also teaches him to wash himself at the same time. good luck!

Leanna - posted on 07/14/2011

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It is fully normal as Kelly said. I'm having the same issue with my son. It feels good to him so he's not going to want to stop. I tried this little trick that helped out a lot, but it's risky for you.
Let him run around the house naked for a few hours a day. Let him have that free reign to touch himself and try to tell him to do it in private in his bedroom. When he does it, just lead him to his bedroom, tell him he can do it there, then leave him alone. When you put the diaper back on, he won't have such a hankering to touch himself anymore.
If you try it, let me know how it works!

Kelly - posted on 07/13/2011

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Unfortunately this is normal for little boys. Not sure how long it will go on, but I'm sure he'll grow out of it... until he becomes a pre-teen... Have you tried the onesies with legs? Just keep making it clear to him when and where its appropriate to touch himself, such as in his room and by himself. He'll understand eventually. Good luck.

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