Screaming!!!!

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My 3 year old son screams at the top of his lungs and it's about to drive me over the edge. He has never been a "quiet" child but the screaming is anytime he is upset, happy, bored, etc... Does anyone have any suggestions on things I could do to get him to quit? I just want to be able to be sane again....

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Betsy - posted on 11/09/2010

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I think Supernanny would tell you to do the time out thing on the step. DON"T put him in the corner..there is a difference. Time out is more like a chance to re-group and have the chance to get control of your feelings, going into a "corner" is a humiliation of sorts.
You have to be consistant with the time out, keep putting him there until he gets it, then go through the proceess: ask him if he knows why you put him there, have him explain it back to you (or do it for him in the beginning), then he has to say he is sorry. Give him a hug, always, after, and tell him you love him. The main thing to remember is that our children need to know how to do something right, rather than just punishing them and telling them they were wrong. Whispering is a great solution..also, after he is calm, to voice his frustration in a whispering or regular tone.

Lisa - posted on 10/28/2012

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It really actually sounds like he's just trying to get a reaction from you and maybe just enjoying the power he feels when he shrieks and gets a response.



I think the best course is to try a few things...



Inside voice - outside voice (take him to the park or out in the yard to yell or scream)

other ways to make noise that are acceptable and maybe easier on your sanity like making a drum out of a big coffee can - wrap it in duct tape to prevent the horrible clang noise of the metal and to keep him from hurting himself on the edges.



I wrote a story about my daughter when she was 3 and her screaming on my blog at http://myrollercoasterkid.com/screaming-... so I can empathise but I can assure you now that at 10 - she doesn't scream for no reason, but she still does scream at her brother. :)

Leigh - posted on 11/08/2010

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I started to whisper every my daughter screamed and she would get quit to heard what i had to say and calm down...so then i told her it was no ok to yell and a while it started to work

Nikkole - posted on 11/08/2010

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Yea i would probably think that to when my son gets really frustrated he will scream and just cry and i will sit him down and make him tell me how he feels and whats wrong! And my son also likes to scream when hes excited but not every time i just usually ignore it but i know its hard! I wish you luck tho :)

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He has actually been doing this for probably at least a year. I have tried talking to him in a calming voice, discipline when he screams instead of using his words, just ignoring the behavior... I am just totally at a loss... My other son is 12 so this is like starting all over again...

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Claire - posted on 11/11/2010

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my 2 yr old has just started this habit! he went from bein a lovely quiet boy that people smiled at and cooed ova in the supermarket to the screaming tantrum throwing brat they look sideways at and make u feel uv done a bad job! i used to get upset and frustrated but now i just ignore the screams and only hug, kiss and play with him when hes calm, its takin a time but hes gettin the and his out bursts are becoming alot less. its very hard to ignore most times, especially if ur out and about but just keep ur resolve and they soon grow out of it..... good luck

Elizabeth - posted on 11/08/2010

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Since he's 3 now, I'd try to play the "whisper game". Get out a reward for who can whisper the longest. Whatever you like. Stickers, trinkets, an M&M, whatever. Both of you keep talking, and if one of you forgets and talks out loud, the other person gets a treat. Repeat as many times in a row as you like, until its time to do something else.

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I have tried time out, taking toys and tv away, he has had to stand in the corner, everything I can possibly think of doing I have done. I am starting to wonder if he has trouble communicating his frustrations...

Jade - posted on 11/08/2010

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snap me 2 hes a screamer and shouter lol try leaving the room putting him on a step chair etc try not to answer him i refuse to cummunicate with screams i will answer when he speaks to me best way to do it , does work he still screams just not as often or for as long x

Catrina - posted on 11/07/2010

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My son did this and I know it may be hard, but I would just become deaf to it and it did take a week or so of just ignoring and pretending it was'nt happening before he got bored with no reaction. If we were out and he did it I would just stand still till he stopped. I ignored any of the ignorant people who stared, but most mothers understand what you're doing and why. I know its hard but this is what worked for me. Hope it helps. Good luck

Katherine - posted on 11/07/2010

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It can be done. Get a piece of poster board. Mark it with the days of the week. Everytime he doesn't scream give him a star and let him put it on. Ignore that bad behavior, reinforce the good. Hug him and give him lots of praise when he doesn't scream. Explain the whole thing to him (simple) it will be fun for him. Let me know how it works :)

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