Jenni - posted on 08/09/2010 ( 1 mom has responded )
In my home we do TO's. My SD is 3 years old and is pretty well behaved expect for one thing. My SO hates giving TOs and gives plenty of warnings hehe. He also is in the habit of caving into tantrums a bit more than me in order to stop the screaming. Which my SD has become very good at! She'll scream in her high pitched voice when she's told "no". And she can go on for half an hour straight! I talked to my SO about it and he's been a lot better lately on not giving in just to stop the screaming and giving her a TO after a warning to stop screaming. The problem is she'll continue screaming the entire length of TO. We're not sure if we should just ignore the screaming during TO or not start the timer until she calms down? It just doesn't feel like she's learning her lesson if she just continues screaming in TO. She only stops when we go and talk to her about why she's in TO. Are we doing the right thing and should we just keep on? Or is there a better way?