so does anyone else have a 3yr old going on 16?

Tracy - posted on 08/05/2010 ( 42 moms have responded )

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I swear it amazes me what this child comes up, the stories she can tell and now fibbing and back talk has started - she can be sarcastic (unfortunately, she gets that from me) my 1st thing is I have really started to watch what I say about her - but you always hear of the terrible 2's, sorry but I think the 3's are much worse - just curious what everyone else thought.

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Heather - posted on 08/13/2010

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Hang in there! My son is 4 about to be 5 and trust me, 3s are much better!!! I honestly don't think it gets any easier as they get older, the older they get the more they will challenge you and push your buttons. The key is to not let them push you around or you WILL be sorry, you need to show them who is in control! I send my son to the naughty step every time he does not listen and some days he gets sent there at least 6 or 7 times. Parenthood is tough and only the strong can survive :o)

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EMMA - posted on 08/25/2010

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yep my 3 and half yr old is going on 16 she back chats, throws things, screams and shout and the tntrums she throws jesus you would'nt believe but she gets her temper from me she also tells fibs i've learned to ignore her when they're like that just ignore her it hurts them alot more than smacking or take thier fave toy off them for a wk in my daughters case that's her tv we've taken that off her for over a wk at 1 point and she was an angel after for about a month then she lost it again for longer and when she calls just ignore her it is hard but trust me it do work my daughter is slowly learning to behave we also send her to her bedrm which she hates well i hope this helps and good luck hun!x

Heidi - posted on 08/20/2010

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Absolutely! She challenges everything and negotiates out of anything possible. She has also started to trick her younger sister into things in order to get her way. "Don't you really want this dried out marker because it colors just like crayons...not like your new one." OMG!

Porchia - posted on 08/20/2010

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Hi, My 3yr old Daughter is the same. She back chats, tells me to wait when i ask her to do something, think she knows everything and when you try to help her she gets cross. When i dont do something that she wants i have to hear i dont love her. Im think of putting her in the Creches maybe it will make some sort of difference in her attitude.

Frances - posted on 08/19/2010

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hehehe you're not alone. Mine is the same way :) She has an imaginatino like you wouldn't believe! I believe that you have to pick and choose your battles. I do my best to discourage lying, but I don't want to suppress her imagination. Just rolling with it here :)

Megan - posted on 08/19/2010

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oh yeah, tell me about it - I agree the wineee three's are worse then the so called terrible two's - ha,ha,ha...

Stephanie - posted on 08/19/2010

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yep - same here --- I hear "I don't WANT to do that, it's BORING" at least a couple of times per day. My husband gets the constant crying as he's the one who breaks down most easily/often.

Katie - posted on 08/19/2010

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OMG completely! And how she tries to reason with me to get things her way. Like I asked her what she wanted for a snack and she said how about a cookie. Thats like a snack. Or when she wanted teddy to come to the store with us. We need to bring teddy, he is a good finder or its We need to bring teddy, he has eyes for looking

Michelle - posted on 08/18/2010

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I was just talking yesterday with friends about my lil miss who is 3 and boy has the attitude begun....i'm glad to read on and see that this is common although not appreciated at times.....hope you have a great day.

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My daughte3r is the same way! In fact when she was only 2 years old, people thought she was going into Kindergarten... She is well-spoken, but sassy! Very imaginative too. I think 3's are much worse!

Kelly - posted on 08/18/2010

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I have a six year old girl and a 4 year old girl. Yes they were the same way, it does get better but the moment they start school it will start again. You just have to nib it in the bud and do what you got to do to show them that you are the boss. I also have a 2 year old boy that thinks that he runs the house, that is coming to a stop soon. I've been told that it will get better about the time they turn 8 and then is starts again between 10 and 12 for the trouble teen years. good luck to all the moms out there.

Crystal - posted on 08/18/2010

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Yes I have a 3 year old teenager too. Your right she can really tell some stories. The fibbing and back talk is about to drive me nuts.

Margie - posted on 08/18/2010

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my 3 year has told me that she hates me too... I just tell her that I lover her anyway... and eventually she says she likes me again. It is just a passing mood, it's nothing to get worried about. This morning she was planning her brother's birthday party for him on the way to daycare... then she said mommy," who is your best friend?" When I didn't answer right away she decided who it was for me and said that she could come to the party too. I don't know where she comes up with some of this stuff. She's a little chatterbox and definately tries to run the show at times. I do know that when I do overreact to something it doesn't help the situation. Talking to her calmly like a person and having her take a time out seems to work best.

Lisa - posted on 08/18/2010

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We have the sassiness but nothing that is usually disrespectful. Just the other day I said something to her and it came out wrong and she looked at me and said, "Oh mummy you have no brain"

Tina - posted on 08/18/2010

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Tracy - I can totally relate to you!! My 3 year old can be far too big for his boots sometimes. Some of his expressions are way above his means. Trying 3's are far worse than terrible 2's by far!! He also repeats things and remembers them weeks later! He even bosses and bullies his 8 year old brother around! My grey hair has begun !!!

Kelly - posted on 08/17/2010

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I never understood what "they" meant by terrible two's....In my experience (mom of 2 and I have a daycare) three's are much worse.

Both my boys were like that at 3yrs. Even at 9 and 5 I still get floored on a regular basis lol I'm waiting for the day they become teenagers, and all they want to do is eat and sleep.lol



I swear though, three year old's need another face to house all that cheek!! lool

Ahhhh fun times!!

Kym - posted on 08/17/2010

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Believe me... you're not alone Tracy...
MY 3 Year Old - Monster Chelsea & her moody MOODS!
I'm loving the fact that I am "Mummy" to my gorgeous & beautiful little girl, Chelsea - although she quite evenly matches the "Beautiful Little Girl moments" now, with the "Monster Chelsea moments"! OMG, no-one told me about how much of a Monster a little girl could turn into (and at the drop of a hat, most of the time too)... So for all the other Mum's out there... that have "cute little 3 year old daughter's.." WATCH OUT!! LOL.. I hope you find a tiny bit of relief in the knowing that "you're not going through these "TYRANNICAL & TESTING 3's" alone!" I have heard that they become better behaved and stop trying to throw their moods, their toys and punches left, right & centre AT SOME STAGE!! The sooner, the better I think!

Amanda - posted on 08/17/2010

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my son does the same thing...the back talk and fibs...making things up that never happened and being sarcastic...giving us commands or being rude...all in all he is a good kid but sometimes it really does amze me at what he says...how he even knew to get it out of his mouth....but we deal with it one step at a time...

Chassidy - posted on 08/17/2010

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my 3 year old is amazing! sometimes iforget she is 3! it is awful. she has gotten such an attitude. when she acts out like telling me no or when i ask her to do something and she goes to her room i take her to her time out spot. less than 5 mins later she is better. i keep doing that and it seems to help alot. i think 3 is way worse than 2. she wasnt that bad at 2.

Roberta - posted on 08/17/2010

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Yes it has been the same with both of my girls. Terrible 3's. My youngest (3 now) can shoot better than teenage dirty looks at everyone when she is in a mood.

Erin - posted on 08/17/2010

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My four-year-old daughter is like that, and has been for a long time. What gets me the most is when she rolls her eyes. But any serious sassyness gets her stuck in time-out.

Personally, I think 2-year-olds are the best. Their tantrums are generally not as frequent as the snottiness of 3, 4, and 5-year olds.

Claire - posted on 08/17/2010

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My son will be 3 in September. He tells everyone he is 2 teen as he wants to be a teenager. He can be very funny but sometimes oversteps and has to be told to calm it down!!

Khalilah - posted on 08/17/2010

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My son does say the strangest things. The other day I asked him to stop doing something and his response... "Why do you keep telling me the same thing over and over." Of course I had to respond ... "Because you keep doing the same thing over and over."

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I can relate and I've heard 4 is blissful. Mine is about a month away from 4 and I HAVE noticed improvement (with fallbacks, of course) so have faith, cross your fingers and remember, not only are you building the foundation for what you'll get in the teen years (hold strong!) but if you can make it though this, you can make it through the rest!

Jennifer - posted on 08/16/2010

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Most DEFINITELY! My problem is my 4 year old is even worse than she was at 3yrs old. People ask me how she is and I tell them she is a 4 year old going on 17! Her attitude, talking back, stubbornness, and the slamming doors!!!! Can having a teenager really be worse? I'm worried and have no idea what to do about it! I need help too!

Evette - posted on 08/16/2010

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LOL, now that i have read the comments i know my son is normal 3 going on 13, he does they same backchats has all the answers in the world, i must say i love it gives me great joy to see him grow and change. Secretly laugh at what he comes up with. we have to watch more now then ever what we say around him.

Tracey - posted on 08/15/2010

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My son is 4 years old and i must say he is the same but with some aggression. I have tried to ignore and well tried just about anything. Now is tried a cam approach and it seems to work a little bit. But he will try and try to get me angry at him. So i can't say that 4 is going to be better. Maybe some has some advise for me to.

Jennifer - posted on 08/13/2010

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I'd suggest that you nip it in the bud before it gets out of hand. I noticed that my 3 year old was getting an attitude and arguing back more and more often. I started with one warning then time out, and then after a few times I started sending her directly to time out the first time she did the undesirable behavior. It worked great. Thank goodness time out works for her! LOL Telling her that something is not respectful and rude is great and all, but it wasn't stopping her from doing it.

Mary Ann - posted on 08/13/2010

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My 2 1/2 year old does the same thing and I have been told that is normal. I often say that she is going on 16!

Jennifer - posted on 08/13/2010

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My son will be 3 in October. I joke with my family that he's a 13 yr old girl trapped in a 2 1/2 yr old body. Omg the mood swings!

Kimberly - posted on 08/13/2010

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The day of my daughter's 3rd birthday she turned to me and said "mommy I hate you" that's when I knew I was in trouble. She's been a 16 year old trapped in a lil girl's body ever since- She's going to be 7 Nov. 6th and her attitude has not changed, no matter what we do or how we work with her. We even took her to counseling because it got really bad with the backtalk and attitude... not one change. I hope your little one goes back to an age appropriate attitude because speaking from experience living with this on a daily basis from someone of such a young age is really really hard.

Meg - posted on 08/13/2010

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Sometimes I think my 3 yr old is going on 43! The words she says and the stories she tells . I wonder where she comes up with them. She is also very sassy and talks back to you. I tell my husband all the time I am not looking forward when she is a teenager!

Lisa - posted on 08/13/2010

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I totally agree, give me a boy any day. My 3 year old is driving me crazy. At 2 she was very independant but since she turned 3 she is whingey and clingy and has mood swings that would give any teenage girl a run for her money. I don't know how we are going to survive the teenage years.

Elsabé - posted on 08/12/2010

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I feel the same.Our daughter is 2½, very witty and can backchat like a 6 year old! Just said to my husband this morning,wonder if she will drop it by the time she reach 16. Good luck

Heather - posted on 08/11/2010

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I have a 2 1/2 year old like that...his favorite sayings are "Told you so!" and "Is this better?" He started actually talking at 9 months when he called me, his mom, Heather! I was amazed and he still amazes me with the new and "grown-up" things he says...I am glad that he isnt the only one.

EMMA - posted on 08/11/2010

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YES MY DAUGHTER IS EXACTLY THE SAME SHE'S 3 AND HALF GOING 13 SHE'S CHEECKY AND CHOPSY

Grandma Kay - posted on 08/08/2010

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I have an almost 3 year old granddaughter I spend a lot of time with. I've been shocked at her change in behavior lately, whining like she enjoys it, begging when I say no, copying everything she hears, so yes, it's very wise to be cautious when you talk around a 3 year old.This stage makes me wish she was turning six in October instead of 3. Patience will get us through it.

Candace - posted on 08/08/2010

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i have a two year old going on 16!!! my god the attitude and the dirty looks some days its just crazy!!! my mom then tells me its just pay back for all the times i was little!!!

Catina - posted on 08/06/2010

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OMG! When ppl ask my how my 3 year old daughters doing I usually answer by saying "She might be driving before I get off work!" She comes up with the craziest stuff I ever heard. You are right to watch what you say. I think as parents we realize some things they get from us but other things..... I just don't know. But your 3 yr old sounds like mine!

Andrea - posted on 08/06/2010

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My 3 year old is the same way. She is whiny and sassy!!! The things she comes up with make me think of a teenager! The 2s were easy compared to the 3s. Can't wait to see what age 4 has in store

Asper - posted on 08/05/2010

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When my l3 year old says something rude or won't listen I say You aren't treating me with respect that makes me feel sad, I treat you with respect. Usualy she just didn't relize she was being rude she always says sorry and trys to do better.

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