Temper tantrums in todddlers..

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Sarah - posted on 03/25/2011

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Walk away!! When my boys are in tantrum mode they throw themselves on the floor and cry and scream bloody murder, but I just say something like "wow that is a nice temper tantrum" and walk away from it. Into a different room or out into the front yard for about 5 minutes. When the crying stops and they come looking for me we talk about what they were crying about. I hardly ever give them what they want (what they were throwing a fit about) even after the tantrum is over, since I feel this rewards the tantrum. Instead I suggest another activity if that is rejected we usually just sit for a while in "quiet time" until they are ready to do another activity or they forget what they were throwing a tantrum over. Don't give in no matter what this teaches them that you are a push-over and they will walk all over you!
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Deepti - posted on 09/06/2012

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turn this situation into a hilarious affair, do something funny or naughty or make faces so that his mind is diverted and he starts laughing. then once he is under control u may sit with him and speak calmly about the situation, tell him u understand him well when he speaks politely!

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Brenda - posted on 09/04/2012

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I think that letting them work there tantrum out by themselves is alot better then pinching or punching them. I really try not to spank them to but sometimes i will give my son a little smack on the bottom. Sometimes all they are looking for is attention or theres something bothering them. I will ask my son whats wrong with him but sometimes he is so upset that all he wants to do is scream. After a few minutes by himself he settles down and he lets me know what is wrong. Alot of the time he gets upset because he is trying to do something with one of his toys like his blocks and he gets all upset because they wont stay together like he wants. Im trying to teach him to ask for help instead of screaming. Hes starting to get it. It takes time.

Amanda - posted on 09/04/2012

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Don't let him throw the tantrum. That's just teaching him that's ok. We have a few tricks that we use for our boys. Hold him by his shoulder(close to the neck), just kinda pinch him there(not too hard). Hold him by his elbow, just a little farther up, and punch a bit. Spanking is a last resort, but yes, we do. If he's throwing a tantrum, go to him and do one of those. Say to him, stop(or whatever), make sure you are calm, but assertive. If he doesn't listen, go a little harder until he listens. We only tell our kids once, just once. If they don't listen, that's what happens with a little chat. Now, here's the thing. For every 1 time you do this to them, praise them 10 times! By disciplining them, they learn to respect you and authority. By praising them, they will learn that when they do something good, mommy and daddy are happy and like it and they will listen and be more helpful. We learned all this from one our mentors. Started today, wow, never thought I could see such results! It's not perfect yet, but with consistency and lots of love it will work! Play with your kids! That's another reward for them, and they also deserve it, show them you love them, constantly. Snuggle and tell them how much you live them, it's what they crave! There was something else I was going to say, but can't remember :p if I remember, I'll come back. Good luck! It's very tough. I have a 2 and 4 year old, it takes work!

Brenda - posted on 09/04/2012

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For the most part i just let my son yell it out. If it gets really bad then i send him to his room until he is finished.

Ashley - posted on 09/01/2012

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Please Help me!!! My 3 yr old toddler son is out of control, he has fits and temper tantrums and fits at home and in public I have tried yelling spanking everything nothing helps with him! I am a single mon Doug my very best but I feel like he is taking advantage of me and I don't know what else I can do

Grandma Linda - posted on 08/29/2012

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We do timeouts in the bedroom or you can do it in any other room and our therpist recommends it be a room with no toys! How old is your toddler? sometimes spanking encourages more tantrums and sometimes violence....

Elizabeth - posted on 04/06/2011

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temper tantrums are a childs way of getting something they want..whether it's attention or an object

you need to teach teh child how to get what he wants in an acceptable manor...to do this

ignore the tantrum..then tell the child to ask ..and what words to use ..I assume this is for your 3 yr old

do not accept whinning..tell the child "i cannot understand you when you talk like this"...mimic the behaviour so he/she can see what you are talking about

Heather - posted on 03/24/2011

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My daughter is almost 14 months old and I ignore the tantrums and they are becoming less and less. Spanking is controversial and I feel a parents choice but at a young age, spanking isn't going to teach anything other than them hitting also.

Courtney - posted on 03/23/2011

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I kinda agree with Brittany. Mostly, I just let her throw herself on the floor or whatever and tell her that when she is done, we can talk. If it gets too out of hand, like she is throwing things, etc., then she sits in the dining room on the "special" carpet. My sister employs a "whining bench". The kids can whine as much as they want, on the bench, but no tantrums in the family areas. It seems to work.

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I ignore it. Most of the time I know what caused it, and my daughter will just have to tough it out. Other times I have no idea, I found it easier to wait until she was done to find out what she was so upset about.

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