This may sound insignificant to other but is a problem for me

Traci - posted on 04/15/2009 ( 8 moms have responded )

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I am 25 and am the mother of a 2 year old boy. I am a very small frame and weight only 95 lbs. Due the recent epidemic of teenage mothers I am constantly getting stares and nasty comments when I am with my child because people assume I am 16 or 17. I've tried dressing a little more mature but I am more comfortable in jeans and kicks. Is there anyone else with this problem? If so, how do you deal with it?

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Lynn - posted on 05/10/2009

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haha, yes! im 25 now but look young. i was 21 when i had my son and 22 when i had my daughter and especially when i was pregnant with my daughter and had my son in a pram or something, so many old women would give me looks. i just thought it was funny coz me and hubby have been married since we were 19, so they were just obviously judging me totally wrong, and had no idea of our situation. some people are just rude like that. don't worry about it, you should not feel at all that you have to explain yourself to other people.

Krystal - posted on 05/08/2009

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Yeah, I get the dirty looks too. I definitely don't weigh under 100 lbs. Hats of to you for it though. I have 2 small children, am married and have been married for almost 4 years now. I get some really nasty looks myself. I stare back. And because I'm married tend to make a show of my left hand. Mostly just ignore them, and keep doing what you're doing. They are jealous, that you look so good, and that you look so young. I'm glad I look young, because that means I'm taking after my mom who will be 50 next year. (I didn't tell you that. She'd kill me if she knew I'd told anybody) But many people get my 2 sisters and I together with our mom, and really think she's our big sister. I'm just glad I'll not look anywhere near 50 when I am. Like I said, either glare back, or ignore 'em. They don't know what they're looking at.

Claudia - posted on 05/07/2009

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compleately agree they are just jealous. Shoot who wishes to have a skinny body after pregnancy. I too am almost 25 but look like a "high school" girl so i have been said. But I feel actually proud of looking younger. cuz iknow whem im like 50 imma look like im 30 so its a good thing :)

Sian - posted on 04/16/2009

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sorry i meant 31 nhot 13 that is a bit young to av kids lol but im glad that ive helped xxx

Kellee - posted on 04/15/2009

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Oh boy hear you on that one I am 27 and get the looks from everyone when I am out with my son by myself. I to just dress casual just jeans ans t-shirts most of the time. I to am small weigh only 115 pounds, they are just jealous for to be so small after having a kid, just ignore the looks and dress how you want

Melissa - posted on 04/15/2009

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Grrrr...that is so frustrating!! :) I am int the same boat Traci. I too am just under 100 pounds, small frame, and look way younger than 25! I just laugh it off and if someone stares or makes comments I just go on with my business because really all that matters is that I am providing for my two little ones and they are loved. At the end of the day I know I am blessed to have them. Just keep your head up! Hey, I would rather look younger than older any day!! It is a good thing though tough at times.

Traci - posted on 04/15/2009

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Thank you soooo much Sian... you dont know how much your words have encouraged me. i try my best to raise my son in the most appropriate manner but I forsee in the future whenhe is in high school people thinking I'm his girlfriend....i guess it could be a good thing. Thank you thank you thank you.

Sian - posted on 04/15/2009

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Quoting Traci:

This may sound insignificant to other but is a problem for me

I am 25 and am the mother of a 2 year old boy. I am a very small frame and weight only 95 lbs. Due the recent epidemic of teenage mothers I am constantly getting stares and nasty comments when I am with my child because people assume I am 16 or 17. I've tried dressing a little more mature but I am more comfortable in jeans and kicks. Is there anyone else with this problem? If so, how do you deal with it?


I was 17 wen i had my daughter so i kinda understand wat u mean about the weird looks and people lookin dwn there nose's but i wouldnt wory about it lovely just hold ur head up high because in this day and age it dnt matter if ur 17,25 or 13 wen u have ur child all that matters is that u love ur child and give him everything he needs, ignore all the stupid people and there nasty comments because they dnt know u and they never will all that matters is u and ur son and that u enjoy being a mum, u could also join a mums and tots group i found that helped me as most of my mates are older but look younger and get the same treatment i do for being a young mum its nice to have people around who understand how u feel and are there wen u need to let off steam hope that helps sweetie xx





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