What is the first step to potty training a boy? I'm lost and confused.

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Sharon - posted on 11/08/2009

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Well I would say let him go to the bathroom with his dad each time and have his dad tell him everything he is doing.

Kathryn - posted on 11/07/2009

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My son turned two Aug 1, every child is different when it comes to potty training but what has worked so far with me (getting him to pee in the potty 9 times out of 10) was i started but putting him on the ptty (with a trainer seat so he didnt fall in) when we were getting ready to take a bath. So he was only sitting there for as long as it took me to get his bath ready. after he was comfortable with that i starting doing randomly thru the day. i was ask, 'do you want ot try to go potty?' unless he said no i would walk him to the bathroom and sit him on the potty for a few minutes (maybe 2 minutes) if he went i would make this HUGE deal about it and he got a reward for going, most parents do stickers, i personally was doing hot wheel cars due to the fact that i grew up in a LARGE family (5 kids) . my parents had TONS of hot wheel cars from my brothers. Now my little man will tell me he has to go or i will ask him every few hours. and he can go on his own. he can pull down his pants take the diaper off, go potty, flush and close the lid of the toilet, i just have to help him wash his hands and get dressed again. We still have not tackled the poppy in the potty yet. he will first thing in the morning if i know he is up within 5 minutes and get him on the potty.(he comes out of his room when he is ready for people which normally takes 10-15 minutes. he isn't a morning kid). We no longer give a H.W. car for potty but he still gets praises. and the cars have moved to the poppy part.

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i used a timer (cheap timer, from $ store) for my son. I initially set it at around 20 minutes and gradually increase the time. when the timer went off, i made a BIG deal about going to the potty. When he went I gave hime a sticker, which he loved. He learned when the timer went off, it meant time to go to the "potty" it took maybe 2-4 weeks total to get him to go.

Eva - posted on 11/07/2009

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we put him in underwear and took him potty every 30 minutes & he was trained completly in about 2 weeks.. i even would wake him 2 times a night.. i bought a potty but i would also hold him over the big potty so if we were i public he wouldnt be scared to used the big one...expect accidents but mostly he'll do good... good luck!

Sheena - posted on 11/06/2009

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I have heard that a good thing to do is put Cheerios in the potty and have the little one aim at them and shoot them when he goes to the bathroom. I don't know how well it works but I'm going to try it.

Jennifer - posted on 11/06/2009

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My son never liked sitting down! He loved the fact that he could stand up! I got him a stepping stool and he started getting used to it very quickly. Still wore pull ups for a little while but every once in a while he would be able to put on his underwear to see how much better they felt then diapers or pull ups... that worked WONDERS!

Heather - posted on 11/06/2009

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I started potty training (again) and this time it is going well. My son was very stubborn and REFUSED!!! I got him a Lightning McQueen potty seat for the toilet (I found it worked better than the typical potty because he feels like he is doing it like mom and dad) He sits to go pee instead of standing (we'll try that once things are better established). I put him into very absorbant underwear, and have him sit every hour on it. I give him his favourite drinks (healthy though) He doesn't like getting his underwear wet, so this is a good thing, He is finally getting it, and is very proud of himself. I also made a sticker chart (you can find them online) and he loves getting stickers whenever he goes. Hope this helps!

Ann - posted on 11/06/2009

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I had a hard time with my son, but I tried something different and success! Every morning I put him on his potty and turned on cartoons..before breakfast or anything else cause they usually have to go right after they wake up. Sit him there til he pees. After 4 days it got more and more throughout the day and would pour warm water on his pee pee to help him out.

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First, take a deep breath. It's going to be a learning experience for you both, but it shouldn't be stressful. My son was trained in 3 days at 2 yrs old and accident free in 2 weeks. We had a hiccup because we'd gone out of town and that threw him.

There is a fantastic product out there called a "Weeman". It's a toilet training device for boys. It hooks onto the edge of the toilet and they pee into it, and then lift the cup to put the pee in the toilet. Another great thing to have is a child's toilet seat. I was advised not to use a potty, because then you have to re-train to the toilet, so why not just do it once? Made sense to me.

Day 1: No more nappies! My son ran around bottomless for the day. He was outside most of the day with daddy, who showed him how to hold his willy when he peed. When he was inside, I would try to catch him before he peed (it helps if you know his cues otherwise you can take him every 15 minutes to half hour) and take him to the toilet. Daddy showed him how to pee into the Weeman (yep, he was on his knees peeing into the thing) the first time, and then I would guide him every time I took him to the toilet. We had several accidents as he learned. The only time we used nappies was for sleeps.

Day 2: The reward chart. I actually showed my son the chart the day before and explained that every time he went to the toilet he would get a sticker. After every 5 stickers, he got a prize (from a box he decorated on day 1). I used Hot Wheels cars and other small toys that I individually wrapped, so it was like a lucky dip. By using the toilet, I mean pull down pants, use toilet, close lid, flush and wash hands. He had to do all those things to get a sticker. Of course since it was the first chart day, I was reminding him what he needed to do. I also broke out the new undies. He was told that he needed to keep Spiderman (his fave character) clean and use the toilet instead of going in his undies. I made a BIG deal every time he used the toilet, even made up a silly song and dance that I'd do when he was on the toilet. We had fewer accidents toward the end of the day because he wanted stickers (and prizes).

Day 3: Reinforcing toileting and reward chart. I noticed I wasn't having to tell my son to use the toilet nearly as often. He was taking himself and just asking for help to wash hands, because he was determined to get prizes and stickers. Actually, he liked getting stickers more than anything. The excitement of choosing which sticker and where to put it on his chart was more fun for him.

Days 4-14: Rewards and praise. My son was taking himself to the toilet and getting stickers without any reminding. The first weekend (day 6-7) we had gone out of town and stayed in a hotel. The unfamiliar surroundings put my son off, despite the fact that I had a travel toilet seat for him, and we had a few accidents over that weekend and it was easier to resort to pullups. I was afraid that when we got home I'd have to start from scratch, but once we were home he was back to the usual accident free toileting.

The chart (and tips) I got were from www.pottytraining.com.au. The one thing I wasn't told is to give the child a word for toilet, otherwise it's difficult for them to tell you that they need to go when outside the house. My son would pat his willy when he needed to go to the toilet, but once he learned the sign for toilet things were easier. I also had "Wee Targets", which are black disks that hang in the toilet. When the warm pee hits it, it changes to show a picture underneath the black and when you flush the cool water changes it back to black. That helped with aim after he started using the toilet with a stool (which was a few months after he was trained). The Weeman was brilliant, because it's no mess.

Good luck with toilet training, Ashley!

Nikki - posted on 11/06/2009

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Quoting ashley:

i let mine pee outside. and then in a bucket so he could hear the sound it made. Then i told him that peeing in toilet made cool splashes and noises like he does in the bathtub with his hands. When he would pee pee in the potty he would get one Spongebob gummie for incentive. We never did the sitting on the potty to pee thing. And i never got a potty chair just to seat to go over the toilet. I painted a poopy chart with cool stickers and rewarded him with that plus one to put on himself. That worked great and he only missed two days in the past two months. I agree with everyone else don't really push until he is 2 1/2. Go ahead and start working the idea on him but just be patient.


This is what worked for us also, we started with a potty chair and he hated it because Daddy doesn't pee sitting down so he would not either. And now six months later my 18 month old is paritaly trained from watch us teach his brother( he goes peepee in th potty when his brother does) and neither of them used a potty seat, they both hated it.





 

Ashley - posted on 11/05/2009

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i let mine pee outside. and then in a bucket so he could hear the sound it made. Then i told him that peeing in toilet made cool splashes and noises like he does in the bathtub with his hands. When he would pee pee in the potty he would get one Spongebob gummie for incentive. We never did the sitting on the potty to pee thing. And i never got a potty chair just to seat to go over the toilet. I painted a poopy chart with cool stickers and rewarded him with that plus one to put on himself. That worked great and he only missed two days in the past two months. I agree with everyone else don't really push until he is 2 1/2. Go ahead and start working the idea on him but just be patient.

Jennifer - posted on 11/05/2009

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Hi Ashley, I am not embarrassed to admit.. i was at a loss as well.. so i hired a potty consultant to help me and her intensive potty training worked great.. How old is your son.. it works best if he is over 2 1/2. If you want me to share with you what i learned.. email me at Jenn335@comcast.net.. too long to explain on here..

Adrienne - posted on 11/04/2009

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First and foremost be PATIENT, when you rush them it will only backfire. If you don't already have a potty chair get one so that he can sit on it from time to time. He will get the idea if you have an open door policy for yourself. Ironically, I came home tonight to my husband telling me that my 19 mo old wanted to sit on the potty chair to poop. I hadn't even thought about starting potty training because he hadn't shown any interest in it. But now he has so here we go. Good Luck!!

Skye - posted on 11/04/2009

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Lynda thats what i was goin to do get him a seat that goes onto the toilet and a lil step I just don`t no where to start

Jennifer - posted on 11/04/2009

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We didn't use pull ups....we trained in three days with big boy underwear. He peed everywhere the first day, but by the second he knew what to expect and when to run for the bathroom!!

Lynda - posted on 11/04/2009

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It's a lot like training a girl. I always used a seat that goes on the toilet so he is a big boy. Just have them sit on it and help them hold down their pee pee so it doesn't go everywhere. Then just keep doing it. Don't push to hard for them to do it. It's a lot of playing around at first but they will get the hang of it. Then when they know they need to go then you can start with the whole standing up part. Camping trips help with that but you'll have to wait a couple more months for that. Both my son and daughter didn't get potty trained until they were two and a half, so don't get discouraged just keep trying!!!

Skye - posted on 11/04/2009

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Dw Ashley I have no idea either my boy is 2 at the end of this month and i have no idea how to start

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