Who else has an unhappy 28 month old?

Kyla - posted on 06/06/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )




My daughter is 28 months old. She was born at 28 weeks gestation and spent the first two months of her life in the NICU. This is just a little background on her. I breastfed her; ended up leaving her father who hasn't seen her since. Some on me: I didn't plan on having a kid. I sometimes feel like I don't know what to do with her. I was raised an only child and I have a hard time maintaining relationships. I have a history of depression; I have no insurance. She seems so unhappy. It makes me so sad. I am a stay at home mom. We are alone alot of the time. Her behavior is...horrible sometimes. Nothing makes her happy. She sometimes hangs and shakes her head when she doesn't get her way and is so discouraged. She just acts like she hates me sometimes; she spits at me like a cat. I try putting her in timeout for two minutes so she can recognize what behavior is unacceptable. I don't know what to do. I try playing with her, I read to her. She is pretty intelligent; she can count to ten and say her alphabet. She can follow instructions well. I just don't want her to end up like me.

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Heather - posted on 06/17/2012




Sounds like she is B O R E D. Time to make some mom friends and have some play dates. Maybe even sign her up a few days a week for a cheapy daycare. Go to church groups. Sign her up for a Mother's Day Out program. Anything to get her, and you, out of the house. ALL kids her age get into trouble from time to time. Children are not always going to be happy or act happy. It's normal. If your really worried, call and make an appt. at her pediatrician's office and talk to them about it.

Judith - posted on 06/11/2012




My daughter at about 2 1/2 was always looking sad. She would lay on the couch and listen to her music all day if I would let her. My husband and I always tried to include her when we played with our 1 yr old but she always declined and just watched from a distance. I too suffer from depression and was really scared that my daughter at such a young age was suffering from the same illness. I tried everything in my power to get her to do other things and play outside as often as possible even though I myself did not feel like doing anything. I too am a stay at home mom however am lucky to have insurance and was able to change my meds to increase my energy and mental state which in return has helped my daughter. With me being more positive and cheerful, has, I think rubbed off on my daughter and now at 3 1/2 is doing much better. It is unfortunate that you do not have insurance but you must help yourself first before you can help anyone else. I wish you all the patience and encourage you to find help because you and your daughter deserve it.

Kristin - posted on 06/06/2012




Well, children tend to act like their parents do and if mommy isnt happy than baby isnt happy. You need to make yourself happy first. Start going to playgroups or parks, even if it is just you and your daughter. Maybe look into taking a parenting class. Maybe your daughter needs to have more social interaction with other kids. All kids go through unhappy states. Mine get angry when they dont get their way but they know bad behavior does not get rewarded. I talk a lot to my kids and use the time out system and I stay calm. I do not let their bad moods put me into a bad mood, and all kids get discouraged from time to time we just need to praise the good job they are doing, My son had a hard time printing so we would practice and I kept telling him what a good job he was doing and to try a little harder until he got it. I would let him know that practice is what makes us good at somethuing and to keep trying. If you are depressed than your daughter will feel that and I would look into maybe going on an anti depressant pill for yourself. Also maybe look into getting a job or a career and building your confidence and happiness up to be the best mom and person you can be. All moms feel like we dont know what to do with our kids at times especially when it is the first one. Dont be so hard on yourself and take it one day at a time. You can do this cause you are a strong beautiful mother who deserves the best for you and your daughter.

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