Why are toddlers so aggressive & mean???

Angelique - posted on 04/21/2010 ( 10 moms have responded )

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I am having such a hard time with going to the park/playground & not having an incident. My child can be playing by herself & a kid just runs up to her & pushes her or pulls her hair. Its one thing to be playing together & taking taking ones toy but this is a whole different story.

I can't believe that bullying starts at age 1. How can this be????

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Iesha - posted on 05/05/2010

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i understand what you mean. I have a four old who trys to play nice with other kids but if they are mean to him he will be mean right backand I amtrying to teach him right and it is not going very well at all.

Julie - posted on 05/05/2010

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If you cannot find the parent to have them correct the child, I think you have every right to step in and say "Hey, that is not very nice. Please do not play with her unless you can be nice." or something like that. Part of it is the age, but if they aren't corrected, how will they learn?

Tough one, good luck.

Kathy - posted on 05/05/2010

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they don't mean to be mean (most of them aren't like that) but some kids play rougher than others. others aren't disciplined very well at home so their behavior is considered "normal" to them. we are all products of our environment so if our parents don't enforce rules or reprimand bad behavior, children grow up thinking that their behavior is okay. it's sad but true.

Elizabeth - posted on 05/05/2010

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Its the age group. Most kids misbehave because they don't understand how to behave and that's the parents job to teach them. No feel alarmed when a kid hits your child instead think about the kid would did it and tell the kid that it wasn't nice to hit her and suggest something better to do instead. Correct the behavior!

Rosario - posted on 04/23/2010

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Kids r kids afterall..they always tend to forget their enemity in a whiff....so we just need to be watchful wen he/she plays with friends or strangers..to make sure they dont get hurt or hurt others. No use in secluding the child from his peer group.

Amanda - posted on 04/22/2010

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my son just turned a year on April 7th I ain't got problems with him being mean everytime he's mean to like our dog or something I will teach him to be nice I will say Be Nice and he knows what that means..I have a 1 year old niece also that's a month older than my son she turned 1 on March 7th now she's mean to my son we all be walking she will go up to my son and just yank his sippy from him he doesn't do anything I will give it back to him and i will give her hers she throws hers down and grabs my sons again..I can agree I can't believe they start bullying at a year neither

Angelique - posted on 04/22/2010

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Your right, not all toddlers are mean & aggressive. Normally I do take developmental stages into consideration most of the time but then there are times that you just feel that its not a lighthearted way of communicating. That its either something they've learned from an adult or a sibling. I find that some parents are just not paying attention to what their children are learning.

September - posted on 04/22/2010

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I'm sorry to hear about that. I think often times it's a Toddlers way of communicating. Not saying its ok but it's good to take developmental stages into consideration as well. Not all Toddlers are aggressive and mean. I think my lil guy is one of the sweetest!

Angelique - posted on 04/22/2010

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It really breaks my heart because she is afraid of play with kids her age. She always looks to me for protection when she gets approach by other toddlers.

I want her to be tougher & fight back but she has such a great disposition, I don't want that to change. Its like they are looking for the little ones. Even at such a young age.

Autumn - posted on 04/22/2010

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i know exactly what you mean. my daughter is 2 1/2 but looks like shes still 18 months old and she also wears glasses because she is blind in her left eye. i encourage my daughter to play nice with others but its like other parents dont care if their beasty kids pick on a little girl 2 times smaller.

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