why is my 10 month old waking at 3am

Dawn - posted on 07/17/2012 ( 14 moms have responded )

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hi all i am hoping someone can help us , my 10 month old daughter has been waking at 3am every night for several months , she is wide awake and ready to play for a minimum of an hour each night ! sometimes ( rarely she will go back to sleep by herself after and hour or so , other times i try to sooth her in her cot ,I have left her to cry , checking on her every 10 minutes or so , sometimes this works and other times she is so upset i have to take her out and help her back to sleep. i have also tried reducing / increasing nap times this makes no difference .I am exhausted and am hoping that this will pass ...... any advice would be much appreciated ....

a very tired mom

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Bobbie - posted on 09/01/2012

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Isn't it awful! I have been there and no one knows how exhausting it is until they have lived through it. This is going to sound harsh but what I read was that we unknowingly teach our children that it's okay to wake in the night by rewarding them with spending time doing all the things that we think will help them go back to sleep.

I finally had to go cold turkey with my son. He was a year old and I could set a clock by him. He awoke every night at the same time. The doctor told me that should had been my first clue that he was just getting into a "habit" and I was unknowingly assisting him in this new schedule by responding. It was just as painful as you can imagine it will be emotionally. To lay in bed and nit make any noise, to silently pray she will grow tired soon and go back to sleep. The first night will be awful and usually by night two the crying is just a short whimper and then they quiet themselves. But seriously, cold turkey 100%! Don't get up to check that she is okay. Don't sneak around the house, tiptoe in to peak. Any movement or response on your part will be a signal to her that it is time to go through the same old habit that she has established. The doctor was right. A baby monitor allowed me to calm my fears that he wasn't sick. If I didn't hear congestion, a cough, sneezing or raspy cry I knew that he was just up out of habit. I could turn off the monitor and know that he would settle himself down.

He further said to establish a morning routine and get him at around the same time. If he slept through the night and got up 7 am but had a bad night and was up, don't let him sleep in, get him up at 7 am. He said it was only to establish routine/ habit to sleeping patterns.

Heather - posted on 07/29/2012

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Umm... I don't know...Because she IS 10 months old, and because she IS still a baby!!! It's probably because she is hungry for breastmilk or formula. She is upset because you should be feeding her in the middle of the night.

Not all babies sleep through the night. Not all toddlers do either. I don't care what your Mom or MIL or Pediatrician told you to do. But you should be feeding her when she wakes up. Then for sure, she will go back to sleep. NEVER let her CIO, that's MEAN!

Heather - posted on 07/22/2012

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Because she probably NEEDS a bottle of formula or for you to nurse her at 3am. Not ALL babies Sleep through the night at 10 months old without waking up to eat!

Christina - posted on 11/29/2013

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Obviously the rude moms that replied with FEED YOUR BABY STUPID...have not dealt with this situation. My baby will be a year next week and wakes up 2-3 times during the night for no reason I can find. I give him milk the first time but can't feed him every hour when he's waking. I think it is just like when we can't sleep sometimes,,sometimes we just can't sleep. Must be frustrating for them too so they cry...I feel like crying right now lol...waiting for him to fall back asleep so I can get at least a couple hours rest before my 4 year old wakes up at 6am. So a big middle finger to the rude women that commented unhelpful criticizing remarks!

Lindsay - posted on 07/29/2012

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Try giving her a bottle, it may be that she could have teeth that are working their way out as well. Which can cause sleepless nights for awhile. Mine is soon 10 months old, and I also have a 4 year old, and at times he wakes up for a drink. You could also try putting some cereal in her bottle before bed, this tends to make them fuller so they are less likely to wake up. Just some suggestions, every child is different and go with your gut instincts on what to do, mothers know what is best for their child. Hope you get some sleep soon!

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Dawn - posted on 09/05/2012

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I am amazed that some people think its ok to TELL me in capitals what my baby NEEDS ! ? I thought this was an environment for moms to share advice and stories with each other not talk to you like your an idiot !



To everyone else thank you for your advice , things are slightly better , My beautiful baby girl is still waking 2-3 nights a week for up to 2 hours at a time - wide awake and ready to party, she is not hungry and does not need feeding , she will take water sometimes and s nappy change but will not go back to sleep for at least 2 hours ! she is teething so i am guessing this is it , i have added a blanket incase she is cold .... praying this resolves itself soon as work is looming ,

we have had 3 nights though with minimal waking so i am praying that the corner is turned :)



thanks again x

Bethany - posted on 09/01/2012

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my son didnt sleep thru the night until he was 17mths, when he was just shy of 1 i started working 2 days a week 9 - 6 and i was so tired, i though it would never end, but something in him clicked and then for months and months he slept thru and then he got sick or got his teeth coming thru and he would return to waking, if your in the winter season she might get cold as thats usually the coldest time in the morning, it could be a huge number of things. i found that as hard as it was i would cuddle him until he went back to sleep as that was how it happened in the evening and nap times, but occasionally he needed as bottle or boob (only got to bf until he was 11 mths) otherwise now a sip of water will do the job. its hard to know when there is an end insight but there is an end to it, u just gotta hang in there and nap when u can.

Nancy - posted on 08/21/2012

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you know my son use to do that too i wasnt giving him ennuff to eat befor bed i had to increase his cereal. and that worked

Patty Mae - posted on 08/08/2012

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Dear Very Tired Mommy: Do you think that he is teething? That could be why!
Try rubbing a tiny bit of rum on his gums

jk. (o:

There is nothing I can suggest that no one else already has. Good Luck!

Elizabeth - posted on 07/31/2012

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My son did not sleep throu the night until he was one. He is nearly two and still has problems sleeping through. With all the lights out we walk to each room pointing out that everything has gone night night. He will normally go back to sleep shortly after that. At your next apointment ask your ped, he/she should be able to make sure nothing physically is wrong (like molars coming in)

Lindsay - posted on 07/30/2012

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Make sure the room is dark with no lights on and there are no toys or stuffed animals in the crib unless she has a "lovey" because sometimes that stuff can distract them from sleeping. Try really soft lullaby music or white noise from something like "The sleep sheep". I rub my daughters back in a circle motion and sing softly too sometimes. If all else fails make sure you are giving her plenty of solids and a drink before bed, maybe she is simply just hungry or thirsty :) Also check her body temperature, she may be cold or hot.... it is really hard when they can't talk to us. I want to also say that my daughter is almost 11 months and she still wakes up to nurse 1 or 2 times a night and I am sure it is for the closeness and reassurance I am there because separation anxiety is high at this age and she only nurses for like 2 minutes and falls asleep again LOL. Good luck and it will get easier and remember you can't get these days back so just enjoy every moment, even the ones you are half awake for ;)

Liz - posted on 07/22/2012

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Feed her something to eat before bed. Give her a full belly if she can handle it before bed? Do you play soft music at night? They are like roller coasters, months of this or that and than it ends. Weird but it happens!

Nicky - posted on 07/17/2012

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I know how you feel my son that is now 4 still wakes up at 3am and I have no idea how to stop it. He wakes up because he is thirsty. I give him a drink and he will usually turn his tv on for an hour or so until he falls back to sleep. I thought I was all done getting up during the night for drinks but it has started all over again in the past year. I wish I could helkp but I have no idea. If you find the answer please let me know :) good luck hun!

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