Do your triplets fight all the time?

Libby - posted on 05/19/2009 ( 20 moms have responded )

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I have 15 month bbb triplets and they fight all the time one of them bites his brothers when they make him mad. Sometimes I just dont know what to do to stop them.

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Donna - posted on 09/10/2009

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I have bbb triplets they are 28 years old now.....but they do grow out of it... When my boy were little two of the boy would get along great, until the thrid one would come along...then all the fighting would start...back then i through how am I going to get through this!!!.Well thank God I did... and 28 years later I have the best SONS ever... Just hang in there..

Holly - posted on 06/13/2009

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I have 7 (almost 8) year old ggg triplets ... and yes! they fight nearly ALL the time! I have no magic answers .. but would happily welcome some! (LOL!) A psychologist friend once told me that siblings who fight learn resilience and good level assertiveness. They have an older sister (12) who has many special needs due to multiple disabilities but they are absolutely LOVELY with her ... so am just hoping my friend was right! On the upside our triplets can be good mates with one another at other times .. and have friends at school, so all is not lost! Oh .. and they are also the first to defend one another if one of the 3 is in trouble or conflict with others. Just wish the fighting would end ... they were away at a birthday party early yesterday evening and the house was SO QUIET ... quite heavenly actually!! LOL!! Just got to keep smiling!!

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Sarah - posted on 07/07/2014

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Pretty much, our boys, triplets are now 15 and are all very different. Two generally side against the other - and the one on his own gets very frustrated and blows his top. I also have a daughter who is nearly 17, and she like the boys is lovely, but also hot tempered. they all get on one on one, but we rarely can leave them alone for fear that they will argue. Having said that, when we have to, they never argue and behave well and responsible.

The fighting gets us down, not so much physical but shouting and often swearing. We know that we have great children and this is but a phase, but it does get us down from time to time

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Omg i'm so happy I found this post. My stepsons are 10 years old. They drive each other (and me and my husband lol) ABSOLUTELY crazy. They're always annoying each other about something or bickering about something that's seemingly petty to anyone outside of their little world. But, then a few minutes later, they often start laughing together again. Sometimes, though, it gets physical, and they end up punching each other or at least trying to... and someone always ends up crying. Glad to see constant fighting this is normal with trips. I thought mine were just crazy. lol

Tasha - posted on 01/26/2013

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Hello ladies its Jan 27,2013 @12:11 am. I started searching for mothers who have triplets that fight often. My husband and I have a set of seven year old triplet boys that fight too much. They just got finished fighting about 15minutes before I started writing this post. They constantly bite,scratch until the white meat is showing, punch etc. My husband is also a triplet and I have an identical twin sister I remember little fights but never the way they do. We are born again Christians and we have to always get them in prayer. Besides the triplets wehave three daughters. Our household is very busy any suggestions on how to minize the conflict?

Krystal - posted on 09/14/2009

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Quoting Noelle:

I have 6 y/o boy/girl twins and a 5 y/o girl (11 mos younger). Pretty much triplets!! They fight often, there is much competition. It is better when two are together and one is doing their own thing. 3 definately is not company for them all the time. I do find them to be very compassionate when one gets hurt though and they are very good with other children and never fight with other children outside our home, at school, friends, etc. so......as aggravating as it is for me/my husband, we figure its sibling stuff and are just glad they have good people/kid skills (outside of the home of course!).


I have 4 yr old twin boys and a almost 3 yr old boy ( 1 wk shy of being 14 months younger) and yes they are really like triplets. Everyone always asks if they are since they are almost the same size, in fact our youngest in the biggest. They constantly fight and steal toys from one another. They are really good if one is hurt or upset and usually pretty good when we go out in public.

Noelle - posted on 09/10/2009

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I just wanted to thank all the moms that posted on this question. Even though I take care of kids/people for a living as a RN, I'm never sure I'm doing a good job with my own kids. Everyone else seems to think they are "so well behaved" but as discussed there is a lot of fighting, or bickering rather, in the house. I don't feel so alone on this now. This is gonna sound bad, but I'm glad we are not the only family dealing with this. I feel much better about this whole issue and figure the kids will all turn out probably just fine. Plus it gave me ammunition for discussion with my husband, where I was able to say that all the other twin/triplet moms were having the same problem, so don't worry about it. I guess we'll just keep doing what we're doing. Try and keep it to a minimum, keep enforcing kindness between the kids, and know that we are definately not alone.

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User - posted on 09/09/2009

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My gbb triplets are 9 and all three would bite each other and hit from very early on. Now just the boys are physical with each other (5 stitches in the forehead the other night after a fight over a marble) and only go after their sister when she gets really annoying. They use to use her as a step stool to get at things I put up out of their reach so she is good at keeping clear of them. I'm at the point now of letting them work it out. When I get involved it becomes all about me taking sides or listening to them tell on each other. Sometimes it works but other times (stitches) it doesn't.

Noelle - posted on 09/03/2009

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I have 6 y/o boy/girl twins and a 5 y/o girl (11 mos younger). Pretty much triplets!! They fight often, there is much competition. It is better when two are together and one is doing their own thing. 3 definately is not company for them all the time. I do find them to be very compassionate when one gets hurt though and they are very good with other children and never fight with other children outside our home, at school, friends, etc. so......as aggravating as it is for me/my husband, we figure its sibling stuff and are just glad they have good people/kid skills (outside of the home of course!).

Dina - posted on 08/18/2009

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Hi, I have 6 yr. old trips. BBG, YES, they fight all the time.! I really wish they didn't but they do! I think it's a competition for my attention! They want me all to themselves, also I see them playing one against the other and leaving the other one out! I really hate that! Hopefully when they get older they will get along better, I hope! they really do love each other, they are very protective of each other. I always say," they can beat each other up but god help anyone else who hits one of them!" They really are great kids and I tell them everyday hspecial they are. I also have a 13 yr. old daughter, thats another story!

Alice - posted on 07/24/2009

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I have BGG triplets who are 2 yrs. 4 months old, they play pretty well together but tend to wrestle lately. They used to bite each other a lot, but they haven't done as much of that in the past few weeks. I have heard from other moms of multiples (mostly twins) about more fighting than singleton siblings, but also greater bonding. Also, I have heard (don't know from experience, fortunately) that boys are more physical, in general, than girls. I agree with one person who posted, that the fighting is probably helpful to them for development, but obviously they should be disciplined so they don't just get ridiculous with it. As they get older, I'm sure the embarrassment of being disiplined (time out, taking something away) would be enough, to rein them in. Good luck!

Fawn - posted on 07/22/2009

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I have 5 year old bbb triplets who are pretty well behaved all of the time. However, their energy level and constant neediness is completely tiresome on me. They argue and play nicely but it takes every waking moment to watch and care for them. Very draining and little to no breaks.

Fawn - posted on 07/22/2009

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I have 5 year old bbb triplets who are pretty well behaved all of the time. However, their energy level and constant neediness is completely tiresome on me. They argue and play nicely but it takes every waking moment to watch and care for them. Very draining and little to no breaks.

Merril - posted on 07/13/2009

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I have 13 yo triplets gbg, I wouldn't call it fighting, but there are times when they definitely don't get a long. They mostly bicker. I just had to have a talk with them today about the importance of family. Their behavior has definitely been getting on my nerves. LOL....They got along way better when they were little.

Lorie - posted on 07/12/2009

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Hi Libby! I have 2 1/2 year old bbb triplets like Kelly who posted...I am sorry to say that I don't have much advice for you...only to say that you are not alone! My boys fight all of the time too...biting...hitting...pushing...punching!! Mostly pushing and biting right now. I do find that they are definitely more aggressive when ACTIVELY teething. So, I would suggest trying to keep teething discomfort to a minimum as much as you can. Our boys loved sucking on frozen/wet washclothes and when they were younger they couldn't bite while sucking on something! ;-) I will tell you that now that my boys are older they play more together which helps a lot. I actually see 'teamwork' when they pretend play. Of couse with more playing means more opportunties for disagreements but you just have to try to STOP it from escalating. Hope this helps if it's only to know that there are others out there like you! ;-)

Vicki - posted on 06/14/2009

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Hi Libby,



I have gbg triplets that are 14mo. I am pleased to say that ATM they aren't physical when they fight. Just yell and scream a lot! Usually over a toy or my lap. If one of them snatches a toy, I ask them to say ta to their sibling and hand it back - which they don't! Then I take the toy off them and say "ta for.....They had it first. Let's find you something else" At this age, unfortunately there's not a lot you can do except redirect their play and reinforce being 'nice' to one another. I get their hands and stroke them down my face or a sibling's face and say 'nice,nice' and it seems to work - they are so affectionate with one another. Having a big sister to show them the right thing to do helps.



If one of them even remotely bites - like when one sticks their finger in someone else's mouth - I just tap them on the mouth and say "no biting". I always say the SAME thing each time. Reinforcement works wonders. They're only 14mo, but they have the best manners. Better than some of my friends' 5yo's! Be persistant and consistent and I'm sure their fighting will ease up. And don't forget, they are still babies and this is age appropriate behaviour. Let us know how you get on!

Kelly - posted on 05/29/2009

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I have 2 1/2 yr old bbb triplets & they fight all the time too. they also fight with my older two. i don't really have any advice b/c I haven't figured out how to stop it either. i have one that bites and one that hits. the other one just tries to stay out of their way. :) i would like to say that they will grow out of it, but i don't know if that is the case. i think they will just to discover other ways to fight.

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