does it bother anyone when...

Jessee - posted on 01/08/2010 ( 21 moms have responded )

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someone who has twins and another baby a few years old say...

"it like i have triplets too" I
I am not sure if I am over reacting on this bothering me. I had TRIPLETS 3 at the sametime, not 2 then a few years later have another.
I mean can I count my 1st born as it like "having quads"?

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Manda - posted on 02/23/2011

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I understand how you feel I hate it when someone says I have 3 kids a year apart and it is just like having triplets I told a woman one time you want to know how it is to have triplets come spend a day with me and you will not ever say that again..well, she did spend the day with me and she told me I am so sorry for you it is not the same..LOL My triplets are 16 now and I tell you what when you have triplets you live one day at a time...

Starla - posted on 01/26/2011

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I agree!!! I think that is hilarious!!! Maybe the busyness of having multiple small kids is similar however it will never completely be like having triplets!!! That is it's own little world that only we will understand!!! LOL

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I think ppl just wanna try to relate to us. But its not LIKE havin triplets UNLESS u've had triplets, lol. This triplet "community" is nice bc it makes me realize I'm not alone and there are LOTS of "triplet-mommas" out there.

Alana - posted on 09/29/2010

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Yes this bothers me a lot! Like when all 3 two year olds have a day from hell doing the exact opisite of what had been asked of them and I know full well that they know how to behave. On one can tell me they know what that is like unless they have TRULY been there.

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"instant family i guess you wouldnt b going back right?" i get that alot to. i say "well, actually yes we r !!!" and i hope i get twins next time i will b honest and say 3 is just silly but wouldnt change it for the world :)

Christine - posted on 07/08/2010

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People are people and some are have no social graces. I can't believe some of the comments we get over our triplets. I used to get bothered by it, but have found that it's not worth the stress that it used to cause. When I hear a negative comment, like "what a lot of work", I just say, "it's triple the joy and fun too". Or when someone says, "better you than me", I always say, "yes it is". They would never be able to handle it if they say something like that.

Melissa - posted on 07/01/2010

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I personally have found people fall into two areas: those who like to point out the obvious that w/GGG (during preg & their whole 2 yrs of life) there will be 3 periods, cars, weddings etc (Glass half empty) THEN there are those that would say encouranging words, offer a reflection of the blessing your life has become (glass half FULL).

my glass is overflowing.... now always but more often than not. I have found how you respond to people is more important, when I was preg and people would pass ill comment about when they are older or their gender. I would often muster up a smile and rub my belly stating I'll just be blessed with a healthy family and thank them for their concern. 1sr bday many spoke of when their 3, 5, 11, 16, 21 again I'd reply I'm just doing all we can to enjoy them at 6m, 9m, 12m 16m etc.... perspective at it's finest.

besst wishes.

Jessica - posted on 05/16/2010

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I don' t feel that it bothers me too much. all kids are different some are more of a handful than others you could have 3 perfect little angles or 2 little terrors. Or some parents can feel really overwhelmed with 1 kid and parents like us who have 1+3 over the same situation. Don't sweat the small stuff its not that important.

Dee - posted on 05/15/2010

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Ha! My triplets aren't even born yet and all the stuff people like to tell me about raising them drives me crazy. Um, yeah, you have 3 kids ages 1, 4, 6 is in no way like raising triplets! They seem to know more than I do about raising MY triplets & love to tell me how I'm gonna have such a hard time or they're glad it's not me. Well, if you're having a hard time with 3 kids w/ at least a 2 yr gap, then I don't know what to say, but there must be something wrong w/ you. Yes, I'm glad it's me having triplets b/c the people who are glad it's not them don't seem to have it together enough to handle 3 babies at one time anyway!

Deana - posted on 01/17/2010

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I don't have triplets, but I do have twins and I have had people with 2 kids close in age say it is like having twins - THERE IS NO WAY and it does drive me nuts. They have no idea.

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Well ... I'm not sure as I've got twin girls and an older son. Yet... somedays when I'm doing a particular task for my girls, or giving them something, my son insists he wants the same, so in that sense, it feels like I've got triplets.

Leeana - posted on 01/14/2010

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It bothers me too, but then I think that I probably have it easier than all those people who say that their three singletons are like having triplets....atleast my triplets are all doing the same thing at the same time, and I don't have a newborn, one who is just learning to walk and one who is starting to toilet train....I remind myself of this when people are so stupid to suggest such things!!!

Kellie - posted on 01/13/2010

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Yes, it bothers me. What bothers me more is when people say that they know what I went through, because they had a preemie. Ummm....my babies were born nearly 4 mos early and they're comparing because they had a 34 weeker? It drives me nuts.

Heather - posted on 01/13/2010

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I totally agree with you, I had a full blown argument with this one lady that said since she had 3 kids (all different ages) that she knew what it was like to have triplets. HAHA what a joke!!

Sarah - posted on 01/12/2010

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Believe it or not...my mother-in-law actually thinks her kids (my husband and his 2 brothers) were just like triplets since they are about one year apart (i.e. currently 31y.o.,30y.o.,29y.o.) She constantly gives me advice and tells me it was just like having triplets - and I am quick to remind her...uh - NO!!! I also have a 12 y.o. daughter and plan to have another baby (or more) somtime this year...we are certainly not done if that is what God has planned for us :O)

Katrina - posted on 01/10/2010

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yep i hate that. the big thing for me right now is i come from a very small town. we went through 7 yrs of hell to get them and finally the last ivf we tried worked. we got ggg trips. so we are kind of special around here. now a girl i went to school with who has a 2 yr old is preg with bbb trips naturally and all i get now is not how are the girls who are now 9 mos but did you hear about kate, she is having natural trips and she is gonna have it even harder than you because she already has one. maybe im wrong but it is really getting to me right now. how is it any harder. she stays home and doesnt work and is still getting to walk around at 16wks. i work a full time job at night and take care of my girls during the day. ugghhh!!!

Melissa - posted on 01/10/2010

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I hate that - I have had a few folks catch me on the wrong day and I start telling them why it is not the same! When I get finished they will look at me like I have lost my mind but they do agree it is not the same thing!
I have also got the "at least you got it done in one shot". This also gets me! We are finished but more because of my age than anything else!

Kelly - posted on 01/09/2010

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Yes, it does. Unless they actually have triplets, there is no comparison! Sometimes I am so surprised I don't know how to respond. :) I have a daughter that is 12 months old then my triplets & I have had people ask me "is it like having quads?" I am sure to me when they were little, it felt like it, but I know that it wasn't b/c she didn't require all the care the triplets did. Totally different!
Of course, I get crazy comments all the time anyway, this is just one to add to the list. LOL

Kristi - posted on 01/08/2010

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I know it so frustrating!!! Even if the have twins and then one a few motnhs later its not the same thing!!! Dont worry there is three of us triplets moms around here and we all hate it! How about when people assume that you should be done just because you hjave triplets? I get this all the time "oh triplets well at least you got it all done in 1 shot, so you are done right??? No we are not and its none of your buisness!!!

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