HELP My Toddlers Are driving me CrAzY...Need advice from moms who have made it through toddlerhood:)
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Paula - posted on 04/10/2012
My guys are 3yrs and I agree with Sarah, I do the 1-2-3 method and it works every time, I also do time out, but more like.... you need to sit on the stairs and take a deep breath until you feel better, we hold hands and try to relex, or you could go to bed until you feel better what would you like to do.... they usually want to sit on the stairs... I also make the offending child say sorry & hug & kiss the hurt one if something happens, so now when I say whats going on they usually say sorry to each other before I get to them, even the child who did nothing wrong. We do have are days but they are very few...
Sarah - posted on 03/04/2011
I've only nannied for 2 sets of triplets, not a parent to them. When my big triplets were the age that yours are we actually did start time out. It wasn't a time out like "You've been naughty go to time out" it was a "You are very angry and you need to sit down now until you feel better" time out. We also did the 1-2-3 method and it worked wonders! For example if the kids were climbing on the table I'd say "OK we do not climb on the table. Get down please" if they didn't listen I'd start counting "1.......2......3" If I got to 3 there would be a consequence like having a toy taken away or removal from the situation or whatever you think the consequnce should be. It worked so well that as soon as I got to 1 the kids would all listen. I also found you have to be really really really consistant all the time. Natural, logical consequences work as well. One rule that I had was "healthy food before treats" if one triplet didn't eat his fruit or whatever then he or she didn't get a treat even if the other 2 did. There was no punishment or talking or anything else, it was just very natrually done. For example afternoon snack was usually some kind of fruit slices or a cheese stick or something and if they ate that and they wanted it they could have a cookie. When each child was done with their healthy food I'd ask if they wanted a cookie and if they said yes then I'd give them one. But I only asked if they wanted a cookie when their healthy food was done. If they didn't eat their healthy food then having a cookie simply wasn't an option. The power was in their hands so to speak, but it was a situation where that was OK. I've also found that giving lots of choices can help behavior a lot. "Bobby do you want the red cup or the green cup?" "Jimmy do you want to wear the orange shirt or the yellow shirt?" Make sure you give 2 choices you are OK with and direct the choice to one triplet at a time so there aren't any fights over a certain thing. If one triplet starts just say "I am talking to your brother. After he makes his choice I will talk to you" and if he keeps fussing ignore him until it is his turn to make a choice.
Toddlers want the power to make their own choices and at some point we've got give them power...but just a little =)
Gayle - posted on 11/23/2010
Redirection is the best option at least according to our pediatrician but ignoring the fits is the 2nd. You of course don't want anyone to get hurt. Having organized activiites and play dates helps tire them out and that always works. If it's cold where you are, try an indoor obstacle course - you get them running around the house and they get worn out having fun - good luck! It seems to wind down around 4 1/2 =)
Carrie - posted on 11/12/2010
Ignore what you can with the bad behaviour, reward the good , so if T1 & T2 are being good praise them if T3 isnt try ignoring as long as the behaviour isnt harmful to the others or dangerous. Use example like Billy has picked up his toy, well done Billy you can pick the next game/toy/show ect. Good Luck mine are now 10 and this can still work!