How do I stay sane :)

Maja - posted on 11/17/2008 ( 8 moms have responded )

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I am mom of 3,5 year old triplets. I am still worrying about their development (everyone tells me without a cause)... And what is upseting me the most is the fact that I do not have time to dedicate to each child alone. I would love for each child to feel that I am his/hers mother not only - theirs. If you know what I mean

Greetz to all of you :)

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Leona - posted on 07/14/2010

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I am mom of three 2 year old boys. I also worry constantly about their development and fret and worry about not being able to spend one-on-one time with them. They are only ever experienced as one of a group and never get treated as an individual,except when they get scolded or something negative happens. Lie awake making plans to spend time with each one individually, but it never happens because I can not find the courage to take one away and leave the other two on their own and then tomorro take the other one and the day after the third one. It just doesn't work. Hope they forgive me one day.

Jessica - posted on 05/21/2010

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Going to the store alone, anything. If you don't take a time out sometimes you can loose yourself.

Amanda - posted on 05/21/2010

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my trips are 6 and a shower is a blessing for me whats "time for you" mean? lol

Patrice - posted on 12/18/2008

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Staying sane is a one day at a time or even a moment at a time. My triplets are 13 & I have been a single mom for 12 of them. Its not easy but I wouldn't change my life one single bit. Hang in there & enjoy the moments you can. They grow up way tooo quickly.

Maja - posted on 12/17/2008

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WOW Dionne - single mom of triplets! You are the queen! It must be even harder for you. Really.

I also worry about them not having their own birthday or that DOra does not have her own pink bedroom :( well I do not worry but I would like for her to have a girly bedroom :)

Jennifer - posted on 11/18/2008

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Yeah, it is frustrating to feel so spread thin and divided. Some weeks I try to tell everyone they get a few hours of 'mom-time' alone with me, running errands or whatever. And as they have gotten older they will ask for one on one time. It does get a bit easier as they get older, I think. They develop seperate interest, for example, I quilt with my Stuart, Joseph likes to read to me, Andrew likes to draw. So they all can be doing activities seperately and I can spend individual time with them, if that makes sense.

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I think any mom of more than one child can identify. With muliples it's probably magnified because our kids have the same needs at the same time. I always feel bad because my kids don't even get their own birthday - they have to share everything!



But what are you to do, worry about it or just do the best you can. I carve out as much time as possible to have one on one time with each child every day. Sometimes that means tucking them in separately and chatting about the day - they have my undivided attention. As a single mom of trips, sometimes that's all they get. Other times I am able to get a half day off work and I will pick up one kiddo from school early and we will go to the park for a little bit and just enjoy each other.



My kids and I are very close and have a warm close relationship. I have all the same concerns you mention, but have faith it will all work out!

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